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Can I request that AEON respond to the rest of the questions under the assumption that marriage will continue to be recognized by the government? I'm getting so sick of the "Well, personally, I think NO ONE should marry" dodge. No. No. That's not going to happen, so just stop it.
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I'm not sure what causation has to do with the conversation at hand, but I read an interview with Terrance Dean a few years ago and found this quote fascinating:
I had not had a desire or thought of being with another man until I was molested by the male next-door neighbor. An incident helped spark, I would say, or created an opening for me to start questioning or start experimenting. ~ Terrance Dean, author, when asked whether he believes homosexuality is a choice. Guess Who's Gay in Hip-Hop - TIME To be fair, he says he doesn't think it's a choice, but his own experience negates a belief that it was innate in him; he may be still processing his own sexual identity, but I find it telling that he points to this incident as the formative one in his sexual journey. I don't quote Terrance to perpetuate a stereotype that abuse is a/the primary cause of homosexuality, as I don't think that's true. I only quote him to illustrate the fact that there may be an abundance of reasons/causes for homosexuality, and in the absence of a demonstrated gay gene, such causes may be biological, chemical, sociological, etc. If one believes in the spectrum of sexuality, then there are those who are going to be at opposite ends of the spectrum in terms of sexual expression, and then there will be those who are in flux. But I still don't know what it has to do with this conversation... |
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That's all he's ever done is dodge, he's very transparent. He may be more polite than others at times, but he's still as transparent.
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gay kids are far more likely to be sexually abused. i understand the broader point here, that sexuality is a complex thing, but you also realize the extremely dangerous ground you're treading here -- sexual abuse turns you gay? i'm going to take a moment and digest before i pursue this further, if at all. |
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Is it not odd that a Church employee can perform a legal binding marriage but not dissolve a marriage?
Aeon is right the government should not do marriages. The government should issue the legal binding documents that provide all the rights and responsibilities of a two person union. And when they want to dissolve that union and the benefits that go with it - they go back to the government to have that done. If the couple wants to go to their church and have a reception and ceremony that has no legal binding effects on anyone, but is just a 'spiritual' or 'holy' or 'what ever name that group wants to put on it', celebration then fine. Gays and their supporters can not tell people what to think and believe in their hearts. That is what religion is for, and government must keep it hands off of religion. Washington State did it right, they put Unions on the ballot and won. We should be advocating for unions so gays can have equal protection. All this whining about marriage is a non-starter and sure loser. |
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so, separate but equal, then? |
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But government does do marriages, and many gay couples are religious and want to be married, not unioned.
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And regardless, not sure about the connection between the question you raised ("why are there gay people?") and the point of this thread. Gay people are here, and are looking for (and deserve) certain rights. We have to figure out what that means in the larger social context. |
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there's fairly significant genetic evidence, though there's not an outright "gay gene" which some demand as the only conclusive proof that being gay is anything but an active choice. i appreciate that you're not one of <> those people, but there is ample scientific evidence, and the most important point of all is that being gay is involuntary. even if, in this specific case, being abused "opened up the door" (paraphrased) to experimentation, that doesn't mean that anyone has any more control over their homosexual attraction as would a heterosexual over their opposite-sex attraction. i'm not so sure i find Dean a reliable narrator in any way, considering in one article i googled he says that his mother passed along the AIDS virus to his brother, and in another he says that his brother contracted AIDS after being raped in a group home. all that aside, speaking for myself, i certainly was not sexually abused. but, yes, i certainly agree that sexuality is a complex thing. there are many heterosexuals who have moments of same-sex attraction, but clearly identify as heterosexual. i would argue, then, that we might learn more not by comparing gay to straight, but by comparing (and contrasting) male to female. but then, where does this take us in a broader political context? the only political point the exploration of abuse-affecting-sexuality might score is to loosen the notion that sexual orientation is unchosen. it does tie into the exasperating and horrifying myth propagated by anti-gay groups that older homosexual men prey upon young boys and "recruit" or "change" them from naturally heterosexual into homosexuals. it's insidious, and it makes a mockery of the damage done by sexual abuse. Quote:
i think the question "what are gay people for" is a good question to ask of those who continue to insist upon a single, natural sexual orientation for all people (straight) and that the only function of sexuality is reproduction. i find that terribly reductionist, and i think most people in adult sexual relationships know that reproduction is one of the least important aspects of their sex lives. |
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it is not really separate
the separate but equal, included 'jim crow' laws, segregated schools, etc the gays in Washington State are not segregated they have equal protection liberal minded Churches do 'Marriage Ceremonies" for gays now with no legal benefits - I think a legal 'union' by a government agency has more value for 'equal protection'. |
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All this talk of marriage being done only by churches is easy to do when you're a churchgoer.
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Separate, but equal. Equality will be achieved once Irvine has the exact same rights as I do.
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they got no shot, zero - of being married within their chosen religion why not get unioned and have 'equal protection' under the laws of the land again you can not 'legislate' what religion puts into peoples minds and hearts being a religious person that believes in sin, you are part of the problem. |
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you know what? this stuff makes me so sick to my stomach that i'm not going to continue. do your own research and come to your own conclusions. as someone who has worked with very young children (2-3 years old), who has taught swimming lessons and coached for years, who loves children, who may well want to have children, please forgive me for wanting to take a baseball bat to the head of *anyone* who would ever harm a child, gay or straight, and for anyone to imply -- not that you have, not at all -- that there's anything other than an incidental link between homosexuality and child abuse. not much will set me off more than this particular topic, so i better finish this post before the PTSD totally kicks in and i write something i wish i hadn't. |
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