St Mary’s Butts, Reading, England Superthread

[Babydoll]

Originally Posted by coolian2

Maturity is fun.

Sure is.

[coolian2]

Umm. Holy shit. There's a username I never expected in here.

[Babydoll]

Ditto. I have not been here since.... 2009?

[coolian2]

Ax, do we record stats on these things like U2gigs?

[Babydoll]

[Axver]

Originally Posted by coolian2

Ax, do we record stats on these things like U2gigs?

Remember I used to have a big Superthread history file!

Doubt that's been updated since 2009 or 2010.

[Axver]

Originally Posted by DreamOutLoud13

He says it serves its function perfectly: it is an alarm clock and a paperweight for his pocket. He does not use any kind of social media or the internet very often. He rarely talks on the phone or even texts.

I... can't even imagine a person like this in the modern world.

His ex was frequently irritated by such behavior, as she needed attention constantly, and hated that he wasn't texting her all the time, and posting on her Facebook wall and living their relationship publicly online.

In a way my ex was very similar: he and I could have one little argument and he'd fly to Facebook and change his relationship status to "single", effectively breaking up with me publicly on Facebook for a day or so every time we disagreed about anything. Other times he'd get annoyed with me for not posting enough pictures of him or talking about him enough online.

Drama queens.

Oh god, one of my mates is in a relationship at the moment that's like this. If he doesn't message her for a couple of hours, he's obviously cheating.

[coolian2]

Originally Posted by Axver

Oh god, one of my mates is in a relationship at the moment that's like this. If he doesn't message her for a couple of hours, he's obviously cheating.

I should have major trust issues. I've done something bad in the past, and I know for a fact I've been cheated on.

Maybe, and this idea is a bit radical, how about trust someone once you've let your thoughts, fears and concerns come out?

[Babydoll]

Originally Posted by DreamOutLoud13

He says it serves its function perfectly: it is an alarm clock and a paperweight for his pocket. He does not use any kind of social media or the internet very often. He rarely talks on the phone or even texts.

His ex was frequently irritated by such behavior, as she needed attention constantly, and hated that he wasn't texting her all the time, and posting on her Facebook wall and living their relationship publicly online.

In a way my ex was very similar: he and I could have one little argument and he'd fly to Facebook and change his relationship status to "single", effectively breaking up with me publicly on Facebook for a day or so every time we disagreed about anything. Other times he'd get annoyed with me for not posting enough pictures of him or talking about him enough online.

Drama queens.

Jake and I get along perfectly. I put my phone down when we're together and we talk to each other, without distractions. So yes, it's like time traveling.

Sounds familiar.

[Babydoll]

Originally Posted by coolian2

Maybe, and this idea is a bit radical, how about trust someone once you've let your thoughts, fears and concerns come out?

That's it, right there. It's so simple, really. Being in a serious relationship really bring out each other's insecurities and dysfunctions and the partner is still with you, it's a beautiful thing.

[coolian2]

Originally Posted by Babydoll

That's it, right there. It's so simple, really. Being in a serious relationship really bring out each other's insecurities and dysfunctions and the partner is still with you, it's a beautiful thing.

My partner and I probably hit each other at our lowest lows. She sobbed beyond anything in my arms on what could be called our second date after being friends for a bit of time. No shame, and I never said a word and just held her. I knew the issues and just held on. I don't know why but I've managed to not cry in her arms.

She keeps asking why I put up with her. Why I sent a single red rose to her at her work. Because this is someone who is patient and accepting. The best person. Someone who knows that we'll do anything for each other.

The look in her eyes when she had a breakdown with me, and she finally looked at me, that was a level of trust and love I've never, ever seen.

It's the easiest and hardest relationship I've ever had and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[coolian2]

Oh crap for people who don't use my language, to hit each other means meet.

There has been hitting but that's totally different and far more fun circumstances.

[Mack_Again]

Originally Posted by DreamOutLoud13

In a way my ex was very similar: he and I could have one little argument and he'd fly to Facebook and change his relationship status to "single", effectively breaking up with me publicly on Facebook for a day or so every time we disagreed about anything. Other times he'd get annoyed with me for not posting enough pictures of him or talking about him enough online.

Drama queens.

damn that sounds hard

[coolian2]

Originally Posted by Mack_Again

damn that sounds hard

Also remind me to show that post to my independent and brilliant partner next time she says she feels "too needy"

[DreamOutLoud13]

Well, Jake's ex's coping mechanism for the "lack" of attention was to cheat on him a lot. She ended up with a second boyfriend, who gave her the time and attention she needed, while Jake worked his ass off to support her financially.

On the flip side, my ex got a clothed lap dance from his married coworker while at work, then quit his job out of embarrassment when everyone (including her husband!) found out. Being jobless led to him moving back to his home country (was supposed to be temporary) and we tried to do the long distance thing, but then he got super butt hurt at me because I went out with my friends one day instead of staying home to Skype with him. So he broke up with me over the phone, while I was at my friend's house.

[coolian2]

I've had one break up that I commenced that I'm ashamed of and will never be happy about how I did it until I go to my grave, and probably even then St Peter will smack me in the face.

One where I let the woman end it because I was happy for it to end and I knew how to do it, and I thought I'd let her be the heartbreaker (years later regular friends on Facebook and chat daily, with my partner not even blinking!)

The rest have all been mutual. I mean, I decided it was mutual about a month afterwards when I had to accept it.

[coolian2]

I got a single red rose and a card sent to where my partner works. Would I have liked to have had it posted and tagged with me? Yeah the little showoff attention whore in me would have said yes.

Does the reasonable human being in me know that it made my partner happy and I wouldn't care if only she knew? Much better.

[coolian2]

"One last thung I have a cuzzie who's had an accident and is un hospital right now. Stay hard bro chur all good"

Grammatically and phonetically correct. Benji Marshall after playing against the Warriors.

Got me out of the chair and onto the floor. Mainly because that's bloody me when I travel out of New Zealand.

[DreamOutLoud13]

It's 4:40 AM and my alarm has just gone off because I have to hit the road at 6 to be in another city at 9 for a meeting for the nerd convention that I work for

I probably got less than 4 hours of sleep. But that's nothing compared to the poor boyfriend who is also attending the meeting, after having worked an overnight shift sterilizing operating rooms at the hospital, and having been up most of yesterday afternoon as well.

The man has worked overnights for a decade, and tends to simply not sleep on the weekends so that he can do things. He's shortening his life span. Gonna greet him when he comes in with some breakfast cooked up.

[DreamOutLoud13]

But in giggly news, we're driving on Interstate 69