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View Poll Results: Is cybersex cheating on a significant other?
Yes - male vote 18 23.68%
Yes - female vote 27 35.53%
No - male vote 4 5.26%
No - female vote 5 6.58%
Shades of gray - male vote 9 11.84%
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Old 05-20-2003, 02:01 AM   #81
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Yes yes it would. I would also laugh at that. And hey - at least he'd be getting out then.

I'm not too threatened by strippers.
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Old 05-20-2003, 02:08 AM   #82
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LOL...which would also give you time alone with the computer...

Yeah, strip clubs don't bother me either and I still howl at my hubby's stories and pics (yes pics!) from his stag. I'm still under a gag order however to divulge details to his friends' partners.

Why do women hate strip clubs so much?
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Old 05-20-2003, 02:11 AM   #83
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Dunno. Honestly. I find it hilarious, it's like "yeah guys she sure does like you - and your wallet." If the boys want to pay for boobies let em pay.
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I chose shades of gray.

I think that it depends on the situation. If I were to find out that my boyfriend were having cyber sex with someone that he knew, or an ongoing cyber relationship then I would be very pissed and consider it cheating. However, if it were a totally random thing then I might not be upset. It's more like porn in that situation.

Also, keeping it a secret makes it a big difference. If they aren't being honest about it, then most likely they feel like they are doing something wrong, and that in itself makes it cheating. I would hope that any relationship that I am in would be open and honest enough that my so would feel comfortable talking to me about any thing of this sort.

However, all that being said, anything that is abused, be it random cyber sex, porn, strippers, etc. that gets in the way of the normal sex life within a relationship is a problem.
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Old 05-20-2003, 11:51 AM   #85
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I chose shades of gray as well.
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i said shades of grey, female vote.

cybersex is more like masturbation with assistance.
is phone sex cheating? is porn?
I agree.
I said no, female vote.
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I can't believe anyone thinks masturbation is cheating! That is, quite frankly, absurd, IMO...
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i don't hate strip clubs at all. one of my very good friends used to strip. it is really funny to hear the stories from strippers prospectives. i only hate the clubs if my boyfriend spends my money on a lap dance. actually i have friends who have taken their boyfriends or husbands to the strip clubs and bought them lap dances lol.
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:26 PM   #89
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Would it be ok then if he went to a nudie bar and got a lap dance?
Yes, my boyfriend can do that. I would want to hear all about it.
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I can't believe anyone thinks masturbation is cheating! That is, quite frankly, absurd, IMO...
What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?


Its not about the action, it is how the action impacts the relationship.
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:35 PM   #91
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What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?

my ex did that a few times with me.
and when that happend, an arguement pretty much followed.
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What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?


Its not about the action, it is how the action impacts the relationship.
I would say then that there were serious problems in the relationship that needed to be addressed. Masturbation is a completely natural thing and I expect it to be a part of my relationships. In fact, it has always enhanced mine. If it replaces lovemaking, that's another story.
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I voted YES. male vote. Its not like pornography cos its directly with another person. And its not just fantasy and self masturbation because the other person is responding.
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
But mutual masturbation when you can't see or hear the other person is?

What if you don't actually masturbate when cybering...I mean do people really sit there typing with one hand? In that case it's kinda foreplay, is that worse than porn?
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I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.

Magazines, videos, phone sex, cybersex, masturbation, strip clubs...have at it, within reason (to be defined by the couple). If my boyfriend is having cybersex repeatedly with the same person, or if he is spending too much time with all these other things, then we have to talk because it points to problems in the relationship. The occasional thrill, though, can actually keep the home fires warm, in my experience.
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I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.
So if your boyfriend tells you your best friend gives the best hand jobs on earth you'll say, well at least it wasn't oral or penetration, glad you enjoyed it?
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
Yes it is! Your letting another person, beside your partner, play w/ your joy stick.
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