Explain me to me...

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 10:04 AM

Someone explain men to me please...especially the ones who've gotten burned bad by a mean girl. How do you break down that wall to get to know them better after that?

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"It's all about drums."

Whether you love me or hate me you can still email me: clarityat3am@hotmail.com

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 10:05 AM

Damn that typo in the topic...grrrrr.

LarryMullen's POPAngel · 12-19-2001, 10:14 AM

I think most of the time it's impossible. Guys like that seem to love being walked all over so it's like banging your head against a brick wall if you want to treat them nice. *sigh*

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And in our world of plenty
We can spread a smile of joy
Throw your arms around the world
At Christmas time

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 10:18 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by LarryMullen's_POPAngel:
I think most of the time it's impossible. Guys like that seem to love being walked all over so it's like banging your head against a brick wall if you want to treat them nice. *sigh*

I can't get near enough to his innnermost thoughts about it to even think about walking all over him...know what I mean?

Hewson · 12-19-2001, 11:03 AM

From the male perspective...don't try too hard. If he wants to let you in, he will. It might take a bit of time, so if you think he's worth the effort, develop a relationship slowly, and hopefully you'll break the wall down in due time.
If he was burned very badly, it may be difficult.

LarryMullen's POPAngel · 12-19-2001, 11:18 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by clarityat3am:
I can't get near enough to his innnermost thoughts about it to even think about walking all over him...know what I mean?

Exactly what you mean. Guys are so confoozing.

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And in our world of plenty
We can spread a smile of joy
Throw your arms around the world
At Christmas time

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 11:21 AM

I'm going to try to get together with him, on a "this is not a date" type thing and get to know him like that. Like lunch or whatever. I think that's something he'd do...non-pushy, non-threatening.

U2ME3 · 12-19-2001, 11:38 AM

Take your shirt off.

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~ME THREE

I live in a town where you can't smell a thing
You watch your feet for cracks in the pavement.

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 11:39 AM

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Originally posted by U2ME3:
Take your shirt off.

Ummm...maybe on the second meeting!

(or not!)

U2ME3 · 12-19-2001, 11:46 AM

Seriously, do you and he and some mutual friends? If so, try and get together as a group and try to get to know him better that way.

And if that doesn't work, don't discard taking your shirt off. Works everytime!

Good luck!

clarityat3am · 12-19-2001, 11:50 AM

No shirt taking off...yet...hehe. No we don't have any mutual friends. Ah well, I'm still open to suggestions and thoughts.

U2ME3 · 12-19-2001, 11:55 AM

Okay, okay I hear you. Like you said earlier, casual things are good. Lunch, coffee, etc. Really, it's on his time schedule. When he's ready it will be evident.

12-19-2001, 10:04 AM	#1
clarityat3am I Serve Larry's Stick Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Rocky Mountains Posts: 2,996 Local Time: 05:29 AM	Explain me to me... Someone explain men to me please...especially the ones who've gotten burned bad by a mean girl. How do you break down that wall to get to know them better after that? ------------------ *"It's all about drums."* Whether you love me or hate me you can still email me: clarityat3am@hotmail.com __________________

12-19-2001, 10:05 AM	#2
clarityat3am I Serve Larry's Stick Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Rocky Mountains Posts: 2,996 Local Time: 05:29 AM	Damn that typo in the topic...grrrrr. __________________

12-19-2001, 11:55 AM	#12
U2ME3 Refugee Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,761 Local Time: 05:29 AM	Okay, okay I hear you. Like you said earlier, casual things are good. Lunch, coffee, etc. Really, it's on his time schedule. When he's ready it will be evident. __________________

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12-19-2001, 10:14 AM	#3
LarryMullen's POPAngel Blue Crack Distributor Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: I'll be up with the sun, I'm not coming down... Posts: 53,698 Local Time: 05:29 AM	I think most of the time it's impossible. Guys like that seem to love being walked all over so it's like banging your head against a brick wall if you want to treat them nice. sigh ------------------ And in our world of plenty We can spread a smile of joy Throw your arms around the world At Christmas time

12-19-2001, 11:03 AM	#5
Hewson Blue Crack Supplier Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Your own private Idaho Posts: 33,267 Local Time: 05:29 AM	From the male perspective...don't try too hard. If he wants to let you in, he will. It might take a bit of time, so if you think he's worth the effort, develop a relationship slowly, and hopefully you'll break the wall down in due time. If he was burned very badly, it may be difficult.

12-19-2001, 11:21 AM	#7
clarityat3am I Serve Larry's Stick Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Rocky Mountains Posts: 2,996 Local Time: 05:29 AM	I'm going to try to get together with him, on a "this is not a date" type thing and get to know him like that. Like lunch or whatever. I think that's something he'd do...non-pushy, non-threatening.

12-19-2001, 11:38 AM	#8
U2ME3 Refugee Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,761 Local Time: 05:29 AM	Take your shirt off. ------------------ ~ME THREE I live in a town where you can't smell a thing You watch your feet for cracks in the pavement.

12-19-2001, 11:46 AM	#10
U2ME3 Refugee Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,761 Local Time: 05:29 AM	Seriously, do you and he and some mutual friends? If so, try and get together as a group and try to get to know him better that way. And if that doesn't work, don't discard taking your shirt off. Works everytime! Good luck!

12-19-2001, 11:50 AM	#11
clarityat3am I Serve Larry's Stick Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Rocky Mountains Posts: 2,996 Local Time: 05:29 AM	No shirt taking off...yet...hehe. No we don't have any mutual friends. Ah well, I'm still open to suggestions and thoughts.