Explain me to me...

[clarityat3am]

Someone explain men to me please...especially the ones who've gotten burned bad by a mean girl. How do you break down that wall to get to know them better after that?

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"It's all about drums."

Whether you love me or hate me you can still email me: clarityat3am@hotmail.com

 

[clarityat3am]

Damn that typo in the topic...grrrrr.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

I think most of the time it's impossible. Guys like that seem to love being walked all over so it's like banging your head against a brick wall if you want to treat them nice. *sigh*

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And in our world of plenty
We can spread a smile of joy
Throw your arms around the world
At Christmas time

 

[clarityat3am]

Originally posted by LarryMullen's_POPAngel:
I think most of the time it's impossible. Guys like that seem to love being walked all over so it's like banging your head against a brick wall if you want to treat them nice. *sigh*

I can't get near enough to his innnermost thoughts about it to even think about walking all over him...know what I mean?

 

[Hewson]

From the male perspective...don't try too hard. If he wants to let you in, he will. It might take a bit of time, so if you think he's worth the effort, develop a relationship slowly, and hopefully you'll break the wall down in due time.
If he was burned very badly, it may be difficult.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

Originally posted by clarityat3am:
I can't get near enough to his innnermost thoughts about it to even think about walking all over him...know what I mean?

Exactly what you mean. Guys are so confoozing.

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And in our world of plenty
We can spread a smile of joy
Throw your arms around the world
At Christmas time

 

[clarityat3am]

I'm going to try to get together with him, on a "this is not a date" type thing and get to know him like that. Like lunch or whatever. I think that's something he'd do...non-pushy, non-threatening.

 

[U2ME3]

Take your shirt off.

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~ME THREE

I live in a town where you can't smell a thing
You watch your feet for cracks in the pavement.

 

[clarityat3am]

Originally posted by U2ME3:
Take your shirt off.

Ummm...maybe on the second meeting!

(or not!)

 

[U2ME3]

Seriously, do you and he and some mutual friends? If so, try and get together as a group and try to get to know him better that way.

And if that doesn't work, don't discard taking your shirt off. Works everytime!

Good luck!

 

[clarityat3am]

No shirt taking off...yet...hehe. No we don't have any mutual friends. Ah well, I'm still open to suggestions and thoughts.

 

[U2ME3]

Okay, okay I hear you. Like you said earlier, casual things are good. Lunch, coffee, etc. Really, it's on his time schedule. When he's ready it will be evident.