So...red light, yellow...or even green?

[Sherry Darling]

So there's this guy I'm sorta crushin on...he's been pretty flirty but nothing too overt. We work together. I've been trying to pin down if he's single or not. Now, in my naive little world, this is an easy question. He was going out the other night to meet some girl after staff happy hour. I asked him the next day how his date was. He's like, "Date?" We're talking about it later and I ask him directly, "So is she your girl friend?" "Sort of, People have different kind of relationships."



I say this is a red flag, move on. What do you say?

 

[hippy]

I think you've already answered your own question

I say "red light!" It sounds like he might have a different idea of what constitutes a "relationship" than you do.

 

[fah]

I agree, red flag, move on.

 

[oliveu2cm]

Yeah.. unfortunately it sounds to me that they have some sort of relationship happening, even if he doesn't want to define it as a bf-gf relationship.

Find a guy worth your time.

p.s. Props for you for asking flat out and not wasting 4 weeks trying to drop subtle hints.

 

[biff]

I'm not sure that's a red flag. I think you need more information before being certain of that. There could be all sorts of explanations for his remark. I say proceed with caution.

 

[TheBrazilianFly]

That's a yellow flag to me.

 

[souLnation2002]

Yellow gets my vote!

 

[Kristie]

I say yellow. Hang back and observe.

 

[U2Kitten]

I have no right to advise anyone on their relationships considering my own mess Good luck SD!

 

[kellyahern]

I say yellow. Hang back and observe.

Since you work together, you're bound to find out eventually. That said, workplace romances can be tricky

 

[Sherry Darling]

Mmmm...seeing lots of yellows and reds here. Just to be clear, does yellow mean I can't flirt?

Yeah, I think I'll just see how things go. If he's interested enough, he'll do something about it.

Thanks for the advice guys. And Olive, thanks for the props--"subtle" hints is my usual MO, I have to admit, but ya know, it doesn't work. Guys are are lot of great things--subtle is not one of them.

sd

 

[neutral]

He's like, "Date?" We're talking about it later and I ask him directly, "So is she your girl friend?" "Sort of, People have different kind of relationships."

"different kinds"? Bull

I say red light, but there's no harm in flirting.

 

[Keocmb]

Guys are retarded, he could change his mind tomorrow. Wait it out and flirt if the moment is right, babe!