I've recently changed my last name, due to the fact that I was not named after my biological father- which I should have been. Yesterday my friend questioned my decision, saying that I should stick with the last name my mother gave me, which WAS her maiden name- and she does not go by it anymore. My friend also went on to say that I should only recognize my mom's side of the family because I am closer to them. The real fact is, my father was murdered when I was only 6 and the remainder of his family kept in touch with me until they all died. I still talk to my dad's widow to this day.
I asked my friend for an apology because I think it is rude and out of her place, considering she didn't know my father or his family, and she hardly knows my mother's side.
She refuses to admit she was wrong and said, "If your father really wanted you, he would have hired a lawyer and got full custody of you" which I find intrusive and hurtful. It's basically saying, "If your father was a good father who loved you...then he would have got custody."
Who is wrong? Who owes who an apology?
I asked my friend for an apology because I think it is rude and out of her place, considering she didn't know my father or his family, and she hardly knows my mother's side.
She refuses to admit she was wrong and said, "If your father really wanted you, he would have hired a lawyer and got full custody of you" which I find intrusive and hurtful. It's basically saying, "If your father was a good father who loved you...then he would have got custody."
Who is wrong? Who owes who an apology?