Well, just reading that, he may not have picked up on the undertone you meant to infer in that - I probably wouldn't have.
Maybe he's just really dense like me.
Maybe he's just really dense like me.
bluephisto said:Ok,
Ask yourself here. WHAT DO YOU WANT by sending this guy emails? What do you really want? Just an adrenaline rush? Confirmation that you're still a sexual being to other men outside of your marriage? Do you need an ego boost?
It concerns me that you felt like the situation was resolved and you're stirring it up again. I hate to be a downer, but how much would it hurt your husband to know what you're doing?
YOU'RE RIGHT. I know it. It's not HIM at all. Dammit. I know.I'm just saying these things so that you don't get in over your head. Examine your thoughts. What do you really REALLY need from this guy? I get the strong feeling that your crush isn't really about this guy, but what the guy REPRESENTS to you.
- Do you need him to tell you you're still young?
- Do you need him to give you another life?
- Do you need him because you feel like you have nothing of your own in your life that your husband isn't involved in?
- Do you want an excuse to uproot and start over?
- Do you need the rush of new love? The rush of the chase? It gets addicting after a while.
Give it some solid thought and consider that he may just give this information to your husband if he's his friend.
I hope this all works out okay, sweetie.
-Bluey