Your turn-offs in opposite sex

[For Honor]

i know you weren't asking me, but i'll answer anyway. i would only be insulted if the guy just assumed i had the money. but like i said in my previous post, if when we're discussing arrangements he says "hey is it okay we go dutch?" then that's fine. but to just assume i have money on me even though it's customary for whoever did the asking out to pay, i'd be pissed off. especially if it became habit. i think then i'd have to have a discussion about what's proper and what isn't, and see where we'd go from there. if he's just a tightass, i'd dump him because well, being frugal isn't something i can live with. others can, which is fine, those people can date other frugal people. i can be with someone who knows how to manage their money (not being frugal doesn't always mean you're free with your money and can't budget) and doesn't mind picking up the tab once in a while.


true, you're right. i know tons of waiters and it does suck that they have to rely on tips to pay their bills. i think the law should be changed as well, but as long as you don't protest by not tipping (which you said you don't do), then but while we're at it, i think minimum wage as a whole needs to be raised in this country. but that's another thread, and another forum, really.

I agree with the second paragraph completely.



And the upper one - from a guys perspective, that's how I would approach things. I don't mind if a girl picks up the check completely, either. Hah, it's sort of foolish to say that.

But I think it is more appropriate for the guy to b more forward with that part of it.


And being frugal on a date is sort of backwards....
If you don't have a lot of money, that's one thing.
But... "wine-ing and dine-ing", you know?

not
"whining.... and............"
........ right...

 

[KhanadaRhodes]

And being frugal on a date is sort of backwards....
If you don't have a lot of money, that's one thing.
But... "wine-ing and dine-ing", you know?

well, i'd certainly never expect or want to be wined and dined. for starters, i don't even like wine. but i seriously wouldn't want a guy spending loads of money just on a meal. i'd only expect it three days of the year: my birthday, our anniversary, and on valentine's day. (but even in those instances, i'd be more blown away if the guy went to the trouble of making the dinner all on his own.) and even then, i don't really mean an expensive meal, just something special. i don't know, i can't put it into words, but on a regular old date i really don't expect anything more than dinner at some casual place.

 

[For Honor]

I didn't think that expression (wining and dining) meant spending loads of money, but I guess I can see how it does. ...whoops.


But I guess I still mean that being frugal is sort of not the point of a date. I mean, just from a more detached standpoint, you wouldn't go out just to buy the least expensive thing at a resturant.

(although i guess I could see how it might be somewhat flattering if a guy takes a girl out to a really expensive resturante and has her order something, but he gets very little just because he wants her to get something nice)



I think it would be more personal as well - a guy actually going out of his way to prepare a meal.
ugh... I'm...... I'm good with cooking some things....
But that certainly would show a lot more effort, and time, and thought, etc



PS: And for the record, I'm not much into wine, or drinking that much anyways. Water is the best..... even though I'm getting hooked on some SOBE stuff. "Energy" or "Power" - just the regular ones.

 

[hiphop]

well, i'd certainly never expect or want to be wined and dined. for starters, i don't even like wine. but i seriously wouldn't want a guy spending loads of money just on a meal. i'd only expect it three days of the year: my birthday, our anniversary, and on valentine's day. (but even in those instances, i'd be more blown away if the guy went to the trouble of making the dinner all on his own.) and even then, i don't really mean an expensive meal, just something special. i don't know, i can't put it into words, but on a regular old date i really don't expect anything more than dinner at some casual place.

You forgot Christmas.

And well, since I cook about everyday, I think it ´s not as special as an invitation. I mean, ok, anniversary dinner, sure I could do a chicken with potatoes and vegetables and whatnot, or would you prefer a lasagne, but I truly think a very nice, romantic restaurant with candles etc. is something special for anniversary..

However its good to know that some girls are still "blown away" when their man cooks for them.. I like to be watched when I´m cooking.. but I will not explain why

 

[hiphop]

For Honor, great posts.

The only two things I don´t agree with is smoking and listening to rap.. dem call me hiphop I don´t mind if they do.. as long as it isn´t Eminem or another teenie rapper.

 

[hiphop]

but to just assume i have money on me even though it's customary for whoever did the asking out to pay, i'd be pissed off. especially if it became habit. i think then i'd have to have a discussion about what's proper and what isn't,

true, I can relate to that;

are there men who really behave like that?

 

[AcrobatMan]

sometimes i start a popular thread..

my last popular thread was..

I think about

pornography in FYM

 

[hiphop]

obviously you do have a talent for controversial topics regarding relationships. everyone is always intersted in that, even desperate housewives maybe you should write a book? name it "your turn offs in opposite sex and your turn ons ins pornography", go interview some people, take pictures.. sex sells!

 

[Sweet Tart]

bad hygiene
bad teeth
short (cause i'm short too and it bugs me if my man is my height)
pretty boys (i'm not high maintenance and my bf better not be)
overly jealous and controlling
golf fanatics (was a golf widow for 5 years and refuse to do it again)
mind games ( i can't be arsed to play along cause honestly things really needn't be that difficult.)

 

[KhanadaRhodes]

are there men who really behave like that?

i've been fortunate enough not to know one, but i've heard horror stories about men like that. my guess is either they're incredibly cheap or they are going so far into the feminism thing.

i am a cheap date. i just tend to pick the cheaper things on the menu by default, not because i'm trying to pick them. i just tend to gravitate more towards chicken tenders or a burger (this tells you the type of restaurants i go to, lol) and a soda. as for booze, i'd much rather have a nightcap at my place than a drink with dinner.

but men be warned, if you tell me there is no budget and it's a nice occasion, i'll pick the filet mignon or the crab. but i'll still get the soda or tea.

 

[No spoken words]

My turn offs in the opposite sex are:

Carrying a blade at all times. What's the point of that?

Calling me "Kick-jack" in public. That's an odd thing to call anyone, let alone a romantic interest.

Spitting when not on a ball field. Well, let me modify that, spitting at me when not on a ball field. Not classy.

Calling my parents "The 2 morons who inflicted their passion-fueled mistake onto society". I don't even know what that one means, it just sounds cruel.

Hitting on every sailor we see. Fleet Week sucks for me, basically.

That's my new list.

 

[KhanadaRhodes]

^^ if you're talking about one person, or even many people,

 

[For Honor]

People are so interesting

 

[carrieluvv]

Calling my parents "The 2 morons who inflicted their passion-fueled mistake onto society". I don't even know what that one means, it just sounds cruel.

that does sound cruel...but its kind of funny
im sure the moron who said it to you didnt make it up themselves

 

[KhanadaRhodes]

Calling my parents "The 2 morons who inflicted their passion-fueled mistake onto society". I don't even know what that one means, it just sounds cruel.

it probably means their kid, which i hope isn't referring to no spoken words.

 

[No spoken words]

My turn offs in the opposite sex are:

Carrying a blade at all times. What's the point of that?

Calling me "Kick-jack" in public. That's an odd thing to call anyone, let alone a romantic interest.

Spitting when not on a ball field. Well, let me modify that, spitting at me when not on a ball field. Not classy.

Calling my parents "The 2 morons who inflicted their passion-fueled mistake onto society". I don't even know what that one means, it just sounds cruel.

Hitting on every sailor we see. Fleet Week sucks for me, basically.

That's my new list.

OMG, for the record, all of this was made up, thought it would be worth a laugh, sorry. Was such an odd list figured it would be clear it was a joke. Sorry again.

I posted earlier in the thread about my true
dislikes regarding the opposite sex, they concern typical issues like ignorance, arrogance, coldness. I think inability to laugh at one's self was on the list, too. Not a long list, but, vital issues to me, not just in the opposite sex but regarding people in general.

 

[For Honor]

I'm ignorant, what's with "Kick-jack" ?

 

[Macfistowannabe]

To keep it short - extremely high expectations, too much talking, too little talking, showing cleavage and expecting you not to look.

 

[For Honor]

um.... I still don't know what "kick-jack" means......




I got a rough idea, but.... I still feel
the ignorance radiating from my brain!

(I'm a pretty slow learner, too....)

 

[For Honor]

And your post, No Spoken Words, seems very funny now that I know it's a joke!!!!!

"Hitting on every sailor we see" - lol



But.... I just tried "ask.com"
and even like meriam webster....
I'll try dictionary.com


"Kick-jack"......... hmm.....

 

[For Honor]

I was moderately amused to see that Dictionary.com is offering a Premium membership...

Upgrade to premium!
lol (sorry, I'm mentally wasted, and things seem funny that should not be so)


But they did not have a definition... I guess I will have to wait until someone spills the beans.


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and thus ends my session of making a fool of myself in the


"turn offs about the opposite sex" thread

That's the way to do it...
Thankyou, and goodnight

 

[hiphop]

about men like that. my guess is either they're incredibly cheap or they are going so far into the feminism thing.

Rather the first. Imo feminism advocating social changes has nothing to do with those issues, and I dis fake feminism that is based on the "har har" factor towards men

 

[Techie2000]

My turn offs in the opposite sex are:

Carrying a blade at all times. What's the point of that?

When I'm not at school I usually carry my swiss army knife on me all the time...

 

[Macfistowannabe]

um.... I still don't know what "kick-jack" means......




I got a rough idea, but.... I still feel
the ignorance radiating from my brain!

(I'm a pretty slow learner, too....)

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kick-jack&r=f

I tried...

 

[AcrobatMan]

obviously you do have a talent for controversial topics regarding relationships. everyone is always intersted in that, even desperate housewives maybe you should write a book? name it "your turn offs in opposite sex and your turn ons ins pornography", go interview some people, take pictures.. sex sells!

considering that I have never had relationship or sex, isnt that ironic..

I cant say the same for pornography though

If sex sells, where do I buy it

 

[For Honor]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kick-jack&r=f

I tried...

Hey, I appreciate the effort....

I must admit that the Australian "drop kick" is pretty original....





I wonder if my ignorance in regards to this subject is perceived as a turn off or not?
...hmm...



....Wow, kick the can is on there, too.....
and flaming gooch kick is hilarious to picture, lol

 

[beli]

I must admit that the Australian "drop kick" is pretty original....

That site is incorrect. The first definition is wrong. Thats not what drop kick means. Its not rhyming slang. We are not flippin Cockneys.

The second definition is correct.

 

[scatteroflight]

Personality-wise:

Selfishness (see my other thread )
Thinking they're "the man" (ie. that they're incredibly wonderful and every girl in the universe should be drooling at their feet...particularly when they don't have much going for them!)
Arrogance
Being boring
Saying things which I, as the girl, take to be really important and meaningful...and which then turn out to mean absolutely nothing
Further to that...saying things which I and most females (at least the slightly innocent/inexperienced ones) would take to be very meaningful emotionally...later I find out that these things were said to make himself feel good, or out of temporary infatuation, not because, you know, they actually MEANT something!
Fickleness

Appearance-wise:

Weird looking mouths. I can't quite explain it, but some guys just do not have attractive mouths
Being very short. I'm a six foot tall girl, and guess what, I come from a tall family, and my height is not my fault, contrary to what some guys seem to think. Though, oddly enough, I've had fairly major crushes on guys considerably shorter than myself, a couple of times...And by the way, lying about your height is also a turn off! I recently measured myself to be sure, I'm just about exactly six feet, but people constantly say to me "oh, you're definitely over six feet because so and so is six feet and he's at least an inch shorter than you." Guess what, he's five foot ten and exaggerating his height!
Being dirty or having disgusting personal habits...kind of obvious.
Wearing way too much aftershave. A subtle hint can be very sexy. A cloud is not.

I can't think of loads of physical turn offs...I could think of a lot more turn ons!

 

[scatteroflight]

Couple more personality turn offs...which are far more important than appearance. I definitely wouldn't have a problem with a guy with a weird mouth if he was a wonderful person!

Emotional immaturity. But what is this, exactly? I think some other people mentioned a few important points...having no understanding of his own emotions, thinking it's ok to be ruled completely by your emotions and not using your brain at all, even if it hurts other people, having no idea what you really want from a relationship but seeking them out anyway because you're overly idealist, romantic, or horny.

Rudeness, and lack of awareness about the feelings of others.

 

[AcrobatMan]

I must admit that I am rude in real time at times...

Its difficult for me to lie