The_acrobat
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In the past year a rather unusual situation has arose. My wife and I had our son last September. Let it be known right off the bat that she is the love of my life, without any doubt, and our son has just made our lives even better these past 14 months. Most of her girlfriends are not mothers, so she started making new friends who were also mothers. One of whom is my ex girlfriend, who had her son a month after we did. They really didn't know each other before this, but began talking alot on facebook about motherhood matters, which lead to constant texting about not only motherhood, but eventually day to day matters as well.
They've become great friends, and my wife seems to take no issue with the fact that I had "relations" with her new BFF. This other girl and I dated 8 years ago in college. It only lasted a few months, and we ended on good terms, but we really didn't see or speak to each other these last 8 years. So we've been out with her and her husband a few times recently. He's a really good guy, but I don't think he's entirely comfortable with the whole situation. And the weird thing is, my ex will just openly discuss our past relationship. "Remember when we went on that double date with so-and-so", or "Hey, remember when you stayed over in my dorm room and the fire alarm went off so I had to hide you in my closet?" It's really hard to know where my boundaries are in the scenario. I don't want to be too friendly with my ex, but we do go back quite a way, and were friends in high school before dating a few years after HS. But I also don't want to offend her husband, or piss off my wife by being too friendly.
Also, awkward sidebar. We're all sitting in the living room visiting, and my ex just whipped out her breast in front of us to nurse her baby. I looked away, obviously very uncomfortablem and pretended to not notice. She said "It's okay... it's nothing you haven't seen before". Was she referring to breast feeding in general, or to her breasts in particular? I just gave an awkward laugh. Her husband was not laughing.
Any advice? I'm not horribly uncomfortable with these people, and I'm glad my wife has friends to discuss baby stuff with. I just find myself walking a tightrope at these things.
They've become great friends, and my wife seems to take no issue with the fact that I had "relations" with her new BFF. This other girl and I dated 8 years ago in college. It only lasted a few months, and we ended on good terms, but we really didn't see or speak to each other these last 8 years. So we've been out with her and her husband a few times recently. He's a really good guy, but I don't think he's entirely comfortable with the whole situation. And the weird thing is, my ex will just openly discuss our past relationship. "Remember when we went on that double date with so-and-so", or "Hey, remember when you stayed over in my dorm room and the fire alarm went off so I had to hide you in my closet?" It's really hard to know where my boundaries are in the scenario. I don't want to be too friendly with my ex, but we do go back quite a way, and were friends in high school before dating a few years after HS. But I also don't want to offend her husband, or piss off my wife by being too friendly.
Also, awkward sidebar. We're all sitting in the living room visiting, and my ex just whipped out her breast in front of us to nurse her baby. I looked away, obviously very uncomfortablem and pretended to not notice. She said "It's okay... it's nothing you haven't seen before". Was she referring to breast feeding in general, or to her breasts in particular? I just gave an awkward laugh. Her husband was not laughing.
Any advice? I'm not horribly uncomfortable with these people, and I'm glad my wife has friends to discuss baby stuff with. I just find myself walking a tightrope at these things.