A|catura
Acrobat
I'm posting here because I feel this is more like a confession than a dream out loud thread. Am I buggin' you? I didn't mean to bug ya'....
As some of you know, I'm a musician/songwriter and usually write comedy songs. I'm constantly writing new ideas and throwing around different points of view concerning the funny things in life. Well, some people know that most comedians are actually tormented people who use comedy to poke fun at their own experiences. It seems to be our passion to expose our darkest fears and deepest secrets, then laugh at each one of them in a public setting. Fortunately, I've never had a problem with exposing myself in public. <=== cheap laugh.
Anyway, to make a long story short. I recently started to write down some frustrations I've had about my romantic relationships and wanted to have a song that was deeply person, yet very funny at the same time. Instead, it became a serious song. This reflects how I feel at this moment in life and I really want to see how many of you might be going through the same situation.
I am now 32 years old. I have been through every imaginal type of relationship. I've had some extremely awesome relationships and some very disappointing ones as well. I guess I've reached a point in life where I have become very cynical and almost lost hope in any chances at finding "the one" true love of my life. It's not that I've lost hope in people or myself. It's just that I refuse to settle for a situation that doesn't offer the best interest for both of us. We should never have to "put up with" someone or be "put up with" ourselves, just to keep everything on a comfortable level so we don't have to be alone and left searching again.
I don't believe in soulmates, fate or the idea that there is only one person meant for each one of us (this coming from a big Shakespeare fan, go figure!). But I do believe that there are very few people in this world that truly "connect" with each other. After several months of meeting someone and all the "role playing" and the "smoke and mirrors" have been stripped away, I usually find that underneath it all is just another intolerant person.
What am I babbling about? I guess this is my point. It seems that people already have an idea of who someone is before they even get to know that person. After they find out that their opinion of the other was somewhat wrong, they begin their own personal crusade to change the other and mold them into what they think they "should" be. From my own experience, I have found that it is extremely rare to find two people who accept each other completely unconditionally.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not discussing the fact that we all have responsibilties and must make ourselves accountable to the other person in any relationship. I think someone is justified if they're trying to change their significant other's inability to share in the responsiblities in running a household, paying the bills, etc. This is not what I'm referring to here.
Instead of disappointment, differences should be celebrated. For me, it seems that it's going to come down to maybe one person that's out there somewhere that will somehow "rescue" me from this cynicism. But what if it happens and I'm too cynical to recognize it or embrace it? I don't have a low-self image, finding a date or a girlfriend is easy, but finding that one special person that I will connect with seems to be a dim hope at this point.
I'm sure some of you can relate, but others might see this as a very negative attitude and slam me for it. I just felt like sharing this with others to see what they thought. Feel free to express however you feel. If you completely disagree with me, don't hesitate to reply anyway.
I'll post the song below.... Thanks for listening
As some of you know, I'm a musician/songwriter and usually write comedy songs. I'm constantly writing new ideas and throwing around different points of view concerning the funny things in life. Well, some people know that most comedians are actually tormented people who use comedy to poke fun at their own experiences. It seems to be our passion to expose our darkest fears and deepest secrets, then laugh at each one of them in a public setting. Fortunately, I've never had a problem with exposing myself in public. <=== cheap laugh.
Anyway, to make a long story short. I recently started to write down some frustrations I've had about my romantic relationships and wanted to have a song that was deeply person, yet very funny at the same time. Instead, it became a serious song. This reflects how I feel at this moment in life and I really want to see how many of you might be going through the same situation.
I am now 32 years old. I have been through every imaginal type of relationship. I've had some extremely awesome relationships and some very disappointing ones as well. I guess I've reached a point in life where I have become very cynical and almost lost hope in any chances at finding "the one" true love of my life. It's not that I've lost hope in people or myself. It's just that I refuse to settle for a situation that doesn't offer the best interest for both of us. We should never have to "put up with" someone or be "put up with" ourselves, just to keep everything on a comfortable level so we don't have to be alone and left searching again.
I don't believe in soulmates, fate or the idea that there is only one person meant for each one of us (this coming from a big Shakespeare fan, go figure!). But I do believe that there are very few people in this world that truly "connect" with each other. After several months of meeting someone and all the "role playing" and the "smoke and mirrors" have been stripped away, I usually find that underneath it all is just another intolerant person.
What am I babbling about? I guess this is my point. It seems that people already have an idea of who someone is before they even get to know that person. After they find out that their opinion of the other was somewhat wrong, they begin their own personal crusade to change the other and mold them into what they think they "should" be. From my own experience, I have found that it is extremely rare to find two people who accept each other completely unconditionally.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not discussing the fact that we all have responsibilties and must make ourselves accountable to the other person in any relationship. I think someone is justified if they're trying to change their significant other's inability to share in the responsiblities in running a household, paying the bills, etc. This is not what I'm referring to here.
Instead of disappointment, differences should be celebrated. For me, it seems that it's going to come down to maybe one person that's out there somewhere that will somehow "rescue" me from this cynicism. But what if it happens and I'm too cynical to recognize it or embrace it? I don't have a low-self image, finding a date or a girlfriend is easy, but finding that one special person that I will connect with seems to be a dim hope at this point.
I'm sure some of you can relate, but others might see this as a very negative attitude and slam me for it. I just felt like sharing this with others to see what they thought. Feel free to express however you feel. If you completely disagree with me, don't hesitate to reply anyway.
I'll post the song below.... Thanks for listening
