scatteroflight
Refugee
I'd just be interested to hear some opinions on this subject. From my own fairly limited personal experience, and from observing the experiences of people I know, I've kind of come to the conclusion (reluctantly, because I think losing a friend under any circumstances is a terrible thing) that it nearly always doesn't work out too well. If people try to be friends again, it usually seems to kind of limp along for a bit and then eventually just die, either a natural death or violently, and often making things worse for one or both people along the way. But of course the different circumstances have got a lot to do with how this goes. In my case, due to the circumstances my ex and I have a lot of mutual friends and we have usually been in the same room at least twice a week since immediately after we broke up. Which I think is just terrible for your mental health (mine at least) and for any prospects of a renewed friendship. I think for it to be a realistic possibility you have to be able to take a good, long, and complete break from each other right afterward. I tend to think that it's only really possible if you can take that long break and not have much any contact for some time so that you can heal up, or if you're both just really good at detaching and it was an entirely amicable split, or if neither of you really felt all that strongly about the other.
Any thoughts or experiences?
Any thoughts or experiences?