Achtung_Bebe said:
I just feel you should be able to distinguish the relationship between your significant other and your close friends. If you cannot then I see a potential problem.
Sure there are differences. With your partner you have a relationship including sex and quarrels and ups and downs, with your friend a friendship. Your partner can hurt you more than someone who is a good friend... in general.
If one CANNOT distinguish, i wouldn´t be with that person anyway. If I am with that person, she´s got her freedom and there´s absolutely no problem if she hangs out with some guys as long as she doesn´t flirt around or act like it. I´m too old to be with someone who doesn´t mean it serious.
u2bonogirl said:
My way works for me and my husband. We aren't isolated or paranoid. Just aware of certain realities.
I understand it works for you and your husband, and its ok to stick close and be at home together. The thing I ask myself is more.. if you trust each other and do not have an iota of fear.. what are the "realities" you are aware of?
One reality is that even if you do trust and even if you love each other, it can happen - he might be untrue to you once, or you might be untrue to him once. Also if you love each other like mad. Maybe this is the reality you´re talking about?
You can´t control that. There´s no way to control someone. You can trust and love your partner, and still you will not be able to guarantee that nothing, not even a kiss, will ever happen in your whole lifetime. This is reality. A reality that, unfortunately, we often forget - whether we romanticize, or we trust someone enough to give him/her all the freedom.
It is the wrong system to put someone in the famous golden cage. I´m not saying you´re doing this - you both seem to be happy and maybe you allow yourself the freedom you need in life: to interact with your friends, regardless of gender. I´m just pointing out that the cage doesn´t work anyway.