The 3-Day Rule

[starsgoblue]

In this day and age of cell phones, text messaging and email....does the three day rule still apply?
The three day rule, made infamous by the movie Swingers, dictates that you have to wait three days before calling someone that you just met to avoid the chance of seeming needy and desparate. Notice there weren't any cell phones in Swingers, only home phones! Aaaand, Heather Graham's character breaks down and calls the very next day with no ill effect. Also, not for nothing, but anyone that does mysteriously call me on the third day seems to scream out that that is exactly what 'game' they were playing. So what do we think? Does it still apply? If a guy was truly interested does he still delay contact to seem cooler? What do girls think?

 

[Dulce de Leche]

In my experience, yes, it still applies. Unfortunately.

 

[U2Man]

I'm cool, so I'll wait three days before I reply to this.

 

[ZeroDude]

I'm cool, so I'll wait three days before I reply to this.

You’ve already tainted this thread with your essence.

 

[Carek1230]

I think the three day rule should apply.

 

[BrownEyedBoy]

I'm cool, so I'll wait three days before I reply to this.

If you meet them on a weekend go for a Tuesday or Wednesday, before would be too early and later it would be too late.

 

[starsgoblue]

I think the three day rule should apply.

What's so scandolous bout two days? I'm just asking cause three days...I mean it's an established rule so I guess following it could be uber predictable. But then calling too late, like a week later, well the window of oppurtunity may pass. I'm just trying to figure this all out.

 

[redkat]

If you like him and you think he likes you then I think the 3 day rule is silly

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

What's so scandolous bout two days? I'm just asking cause three days...I mean it's an established rule so I guess following it could be uber predictable. But then calling too late, like a week later, well the window of oppurtunity may pass. I'm just trying to figure this all out.

Try having someone wait three weeks.

 

[Blue Room]

If you like him and you think he likes you then I think the 3 day rule is silly

I think this is the right answer.

 

[starsgoblue]

I always get the number in exchange for mine (makes it fair I think)...except for this time & I hate staring at the damn phone willing it to ring! *lame*


Three weeks?! WTF April.

 

[MissVelvetDress_75]

I hate the 3 day rule.

 

[starsgoblue]

Yes, I stick my foot up that rule's ass.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

I always get the number in exchange for mine (makes it fair I think)...except for this time & I hate staring at the damn phone willing it to ring! *lame*


Three weeks?! WTF April.

After the fourth day I pretty much wrote him off.

Then when he called he explained he'd gone on vacation (he was a schoolteacher) and I politely said maybe we could go out another time.

Then I heard from him again after the Detroit U2 shows.... He said he'd been thinking of me. :lame:

 

[MissVelvetDress_75]

oh that is another one that bothers me. They haven't bothered to call you in a while and out of the blue they appear and give you the "I've been thinking about you" line.

 

[phanan]

What was the resolution with the other guy, if I may ask? Are you referring to someone different now?

 

[discotech]

i always thought it was one week . i never saw that movie.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

What was the resolution with the other guy, if I may ask? Are you referring to someone different now?

Who are you talking to, me or Iris?

 

[phanan]

It was for stars. I was recalling the other thread previously.

Sorry for the confusion...

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

It was for stars. I was recalling the other thread previously.

Sorry for the confusion...

*points phanan to "quote" button*

 

[Blue Room]

Who are you talking to, me or Iris?

All three of you!

 

[gareth brown]

I'm cool, so I'll wait three days before I reply to this.

You’ve already tainted this thread with your essence.

Hahahaha!

 

[phanan]

*points phanan to "quote" button*

I'll show you a quote button...

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

I'll show you a quote button...

Oh yeah? :skered:

 

[phanan]

You should be.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

Nah, I don't scare easily.

And there are much worse things to be "scared of" than a so-called quote button.

 

[phanan]

Depends what's being quoted...



Ok, we're derailing her thread. Back on topic!

 

[MissVelvetDress_75]

oh that is another one that bothers me. They haven't bothered to call you in a while and out of the blue they appear and give you the "I've been thinking about you" line.

ooh wow the evening I post this I get a message from the biggest culprit of all.

now now Phanan, you know my journal would be littered with updates.

 

[For Honor]

..........

If I want to spend time with someone, I don't wait 3 days. If they can't deal with that, then I guess "it just wasn't meant to be"

semi-

 

[starsgoblue]

It was for stars. I was recalling the other thread previously.

Sorry for the confusion...

The resolution was that he was still an idiot...and I told him so.