Ever just realize one day that you've been so hellbent on trying to make things better, that you've actually been making them worse the whole time? Yeah. I just realized that yesterday.
Yep. I'm in a situation like that. People are trying to make others happy, but just end up causing more hurt and pain. It's terrible. That's the worst: when you're trying to do something good, but it ends up all wrong. I feel for ya.
Been there too! But I didn't realize that my actions weren't making things better for a loooonnnnng time. The wasted time is the most frustrating thing!!! Your understanding & control over the situation is the turning point!