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Thanks again for the support. I am grateful to all of you. I don't know what the hell to do and I'm just grateful to you for helping me out, by being there.
 
Prayers for you and your family.
Take care of yourself, luv. :hug:
 
kellyahern said:
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Is there any type of cancer support group or organization in the UK that can help you find resources to help you during this time?

definately ask for some resources for the children and your family - an illness like this affects everyone. Being able to
express you feelings with other caregivers will help you be able to care for your sister/be there for her. Make sure that you have someone - a friend, a therapist, this forum even, anyone outside of your family that you can talk with about this

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
 
Hi again folks. I hope you're all having a good weekend. :)

I spoke to my brother, who lives in Pennsylvania, and he has written to the Cancer Centre at the University of Maryland. They asked for my sister's medical notes, so we've asked her specialist to forward them to the States.

The problem is that, according to her specialist, my sister has a rare form of leukaemia, that doesn't show up until it's seriously spread - the likelihood is that she's had it since childhood. They say she's got it in all her bones, as this form of leukaemia spreads through the bones before it hits the organs - and, as it has hit her throat, that must be the case. On top of that she has cancerous tumours in several places, and her heart is so weak that even if surgery and chemo were options, the doctors say she wouldn't be physically strong enough to survive. It seems that, unless the University of Maryland can work miracles, then we're stuffed. :sad:

I'm doing my best to support her and my mum, and of course my little nieces. I'm going to go visit them in a few hours time - because they don't live near me, and I've been stuck at work, I haven't seen them since we found all this out. :sad: I figure that we ought to have as much fun as we can, and try not to only leave miserable and painful memories... but it's so tough.

My sister told me a few days ago, that she's had the lummp in her neck for 4 years - but she always ignored it, hoping it would go away on its own. Which makes it worse. :(

I know from what you've told me that there are many of us who have been through this sort of shit, and all I can say is that I hope you are coping and have the support you need. If anyone needs someone to talk to, please give me a shout - I am lousy at helping myself, but I'm brilliant at looking after other people who need help.

Thanks for listening :hug:
 
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Oh god, Sally I'm absolutely sorry with what is going on... :hug: I hope everything works out. As they say, miracles can and do happen. You and your family are definitely in my prayers.
 
I was just wondering, after seeing some of you mentioning that alternative therapies might help... does anyone know, at all, of any resources where I could try and find out about these? I tried doing a Google search the other day, but it sent me into floods so I thought best to try again when I'm a bit stronger.

The hospital haven't really given any advice - they're saying all they can do now is send her to the pain clinic, so that she can get morphine if she needs it badly, and she can't have other treatment. I don't know why I'm surprised after everything they've put her through. If anyone has any advice at all I would be so grateful - I just have no idea where to start looking or how.
 
Sally, I did not see this thread until now and have just finished reading through it. I can't even begin to contemplate what a rough time you are all having. You're all in my thoughts :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Sally,
There are quite a few places I go for alternative medicine/natural healing info... one is the HerbalHealerAcademy, they have a 4 herb tea that is specifically for cancer. People are naturally sceptical of this type of thing, yes, tea for cancer sounds crazy to me too... but at this point, it could not *hurt* and I have heard good things about it from several people with serious cancers and even "untreatable" cancers. Also, I like curezone too, lots of info in the forums, lots of holistic information and it sounds like holistic, which is treating the whole body, would be important at this stage. Hope that helps.
 
Thanks to all for the kind thoughts, and thanks to rileybug for the info. Much appreciated.
 
sallycinnamon78 said:
Hi again,

My sister was told on the telephone today, that she has leukaemia in her bone marrow and throat as well as cancer of the kidney, which then spread to her liver and lung.

She has been given 5 months to live.

If it wasn't for the fact that my 2 little nieces and mum would be left alone, I would give up completely.

I'm so frightened and my poor mum is devastated. My poor sister... what the hell are we going to tell Lucy (she's 2 and a half now). Luckily Emily is too young to know anything about it.

Fucking hell. Pardon the swearing.

unreal.

i can't believe how composed you are. i don't know how i'd ever be able to express anything if i were in your shoes.

prayers for you...
 
Zoomerang96 said:


unreal.

i can't believe how composed you are. i don't know how i'd ever be able to express anything if i were in your shoes.

prayers for you...


Thankyou very much, Zoomerang, for the kind words.

I'm falling to bits really - but I know I can't give up trying to go on, because my mother and my little nieces need me, as does my sister. I'm just trying to get through as best I can and help them as much as possible. There's no choice really.
 
"one more, in the name of love"

:)

That's adrmirable that you are still going. Be strong, and just know that a lot of us here are rooting for you, but of course, you don't have to take my word for it.

Keep fighting the good fight.
 
Sally, I am thinking of you, your sister and her little children. You are so strong. Give those kids a great big hug. I cannot even begin to comprehend your devastation. I marvel at your strength.

God Bless.
 
:hug: and thanks to you all.

I'm looking to see if I can find any UK organisations that are similar to the Make-A-Wish Foundation to see if they have any advice for us. if anyone knows of any useful info, I would again be extremely grateful.

Thanks folks. Take care. x
 
Hi to anyone who's still out there (it's 4am here). I really really need advice from you guys and I'd be so grateful to anyone who has any advice on how to cope with all this. I think I'm finally losing the last of my sanity.

My sister called me today, crying her eyes out. She'd been given morphine tablets because the pain was so bad she didn't sleep for 2 days - but when she spoke to her oncologist, she was told she's not allowed to take those pills because she has a damaged heart and the pills could kill her.

On Tuesday, she has to go into hospital for a few days. She lives 25 miles away from me, but because her local hospital are useless pieces of shit, she'll be admitted to the local hospital here which is only a mile away from my house.

I thought, great - I can go sit with her and look after her while she's there, while Mum looks after my little nieces back in Harlow.

Then we get told that when she's in the hospital, she isn't allowed visitors. AT ALL. Not Mum, not me, not anyone.

Because she's allergic to so many drugs and also because her heart is damaged, they need to test various painkillers on her - to try and find one that won't make her heart worse or She's terrified of course and worried sick about her babies. She's scared that she'll die while she's in hospital - and quite frankly, so am I. I just wish they'd let me stay with her or at least see her.

FUCK THE NHS.
 
Why on earth can't she have visitors? Is she at high risk for infection or something?
God Sara, this is terrible for all of you. Are there support groups you can look into? Even online, which might be handy because it sounds like your schedules are about to fly out the window anyway. And you can usually find someone around at all hours of the day because of these time zones.
I think about you all so often. My best wishes and such are still going your way.
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Dont give up yet sweetie. I dont have any advice, and wish so badly that I did.
If you ever want to vent, please pm or email me if I'm not on here. anna.maher at gmail.com
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:sad: :hug: I am so sorry to see this. I wish I had some good advice for you in regards to this. Are you even allowed to call her? If so, I would say to call and speak to her as often as possible until she is allowed visitors.

I am sending out my prayers to you, your sister and your family. I hope you are able to see her soon and pray that she has a positive reaction to the meds.

I can't even begin to imagine the emotional and physical pain you all are going through. I wish there was an easy answer for me to provide you to help you all and help you to sleep. :( :hug: Stay strong sweetie. :hug:
 
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Sara, i'm so sorry to hear about this. i wish i had some advice for you or could say something to make you feel better. i know it's hard, but keep hoping for the best. remember, your sister knows and appreciates how much you love her--that's a big, big thing. really, it's the only thing that matters. i know it doesn't feel like nearly enough right now, but it is.

i hope and pray that good things lie ahead for your sister, you and your family. stay strong. :hug:
 
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Talk to her Doctor and talk the the person in charge of the ward where you sister is staying. Explain to them your sister's and families' concerns. I hope something can be arranged. :)

Thinking of you
 
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