Official Thoughts/Prayers Needed Thread - Page 11

floweravalanche · 04-23-2009, 11:47 PM

As I mentioned before things have been rough for me and my Dad since he has been ill. I'm having an extremely hard time trying to take care of him. Right now I feel like a failure and I give up completely, I can't do any of this

lemon_drop · 04-24-2009, 11:37 AM

flower, hang in there.. some days are harder than others. I know that days creep into being harder, more difficult. I wish for you the patience to deal with what comes your way with your Dad.
I'll keep a good thought that things will improve for you and your family.

lemon_drop · 04-24-2009, 11:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BonosBaby12

and

for your DH Lemon. Hope everything turns out well

They want more blood tests, they called yesterday afternoon.. I wish I knew what this means. I am concerned as my DH is a strong person, and he is weakened by whatever is ailing him.

BonosBaby12 · 04-24-2009, 12:11 PM

Lemon Im really sorry

. Hope the doctor's figure out soon what is causing him to be so sick

Flower hang in there too

It's a very tough situation to deal with. Went through it all with my dad before he passed away. Remember it's ok to take some time for yourself

Purplereign · 04-24-2009, 02:48 PM

to everyone who needs them . . .

RedRocksU2 · 04-24-2009, 09:52 PM

flower...

MissVelvetDress_75 · 04-24-2009, 09:58 PM

Acrobat Angel · 04-25-2009, 05:32 AM

I don't usually post in this thread, but I need to let this out.

A close friend of mine passed away suddenly a couple of days ago in her sleep. She only just turned 21 at the beginning of April. I really don't know what else to say.

Please say a prayer for Sarah and her beautiful family.

BonosBaby12 · 04-25-2009, 05:36 PM

Im very sorry about the loss of your friend

My thoughts and

's go out to Sarah and her family

Carek1230 · 04-25-2009, 11:03 PM

and

floweravalanche · 04-26-2009, 03:14 AM

Thanks for the prayers and hugs etc guys Praying for you Acrobat

Today was a rough day again, another point the fingers at everyone over here when it comes to my Dad being ill and doing stuff for him, of coarse I'm the first blame and the one everyone says is a failure, points fingers at etc.

Its really stressful and its really hurting me emotional I'm close to my Dad's family here have been since I was little, but now I feel like they are not even my family with the way they have been treating me with Daddy being ill and all, I even said you're not my family anymore, family doesn't do the things you're doing now, they are there for support and love and all you're doing is being hateful and hurtful I pretty told them not to speak to me again. There is so much I want to say to them, but I am not a hateful type of person, but all they are doing is making matters worst over here.

They think my Dad doesn't know what is going on, but he does he hears it and sees it which makes him upset etc, which is bad for heart. The doctors said any type of stress can put him back into the hospital and I know all this drama that is going on is stressing him out badly as well as I.

I'm so upset, not just extremely emotionally hurt and heartbroken right now but angry and bitter, I don't want to be this way at all. I miss it when my family understood each another and loved each another now its like we're not even a family. I personally want to get out of here, I'm only staying cause I want to and I need to be there for my Dad, but everyone else wants me gone here. I don't know what to do, I know my faith level is extremely low now and everything, I don't know I just don't know, maybe it would be best if I was gone, I don't know anymore, I give up all together now

lemon_drop · 04-26-2009, 11:21 AM

Maybe they are scared? Maybe they don't have the time to devote to your Dad like you do, and have some guilt associated with their not being able to help, and the festers and gets in the way of actual help.
Perhaps, you could ask for some help, one by one, or even a heart to heart talk with one of them that is most accessible, or most close to your Dad.. and explain as simply as possible that you are doing the best you can.. without very much help or support. Try not to place blame(which it sounds like they are doing with you) because it will cause them to withdraw and make them rationalize that what they are doing is the right thing.. Although it isn't the best thing for you and definitely not for your Dad.

I'll keep a good thought going that your care for your Dad is enough to keep the relatives satisfied and that they will realize that they are causing additional stress in his life and in yours and give you some respite. You have given up a lot, and you're very young to have to deal with this as a primary caregiver.

Hang in there, you are being wonderful and I know that your Dad appreciates and loves you very much.

lemon_drop · 04-26-2009, 11:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Acrobat Angel

I don't usually post in this thread, but I need to let this out.

A close friend of mine passed away suddenly a couple of days ago in her sleep. She only just turned 21 at the beginning of April. I really don't know what else to say.

Please say a prayer for Sarah and her beautiful family.

I wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. So young, and makes it so very difficult to deal as the family and friends of her. I pray that they can find a cause for her death so other families will not have to go through what her family and her friends(you especially - since you came here to this thread) are going through.
Give the parents a call, offer your condolences.. and if you are close enough, go to them when you have a chance and share good stories of your friendship. Her mum and dad will appreciate and love you for it.

Carek1230 · 04-27-2009, 02:58 AM

**Sicy** · 04-30-2009, 06:36 PM

My Dad is having Laparoscopic Hernia surgery tomorrow. It's supposed to be a really simple operation so I'm sure he'll be fine, but he's never had an operation before and he's gettin up there in age so I'm a little concerned. Plus he's a very private person and I had to find this out from my mom.

MissVelvetDress_75 · 04-30-2009, 06:58 PM

MissVelvetDress_75 · 04-30-2009, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Acrobat Angel

I don't usually post in this thread, but I need to let this out.

A close friend of mine passed away suddenly a couple of days ago in her sleep. She only just turned 21 at the beginning of April. I really don't know what else to say.

Please say a prayer for Sarah and her beautiful family.

Carek1230 · 05-01-2009, 12:51 AM

for Sarah

lemon_drop · 05-01-2009, 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sicy

My Dad is having Laparoscopic Hernia surgery tomorrow. It's supposed to be a really simple operation so I'm sure he'll be fine, but he's never had an operation before and he's gettin up there in age so I'm a little concerned. Plus he's a very private person and I had to find this out from my mom.

prayers for your Dad, your Mom and your family, Sicy.

It will be just fine! My DH was supposed to have this surgery.. he has a triple hernia, but they are holding off due to bad blood work... found something that is much worse than a hernia.. so, what I'm saying here, if they are doing the hernia surgery and your Mom told you, it's probably due to embarassment.

I'll keep a good thought for your Dad's quick and successful recovery!

**Sicy** · 05-01-2009, 05:32 PM

Thanks.

He's at home now doing ok. He doesnt like people fussing over him so I just stopped by to say hello and left.

04-23-2009, 11:47 PM	#201
floweravalanche Rock n' Roll Doggie Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Where the streets have no name, In God's Country, wherever he takes me, currently Seattle, WA Posts: 3,295 Local Time: 06:45 AM	As I mentioned before things have been rough for me and my Dad since he has been ill. I'm having an extremely hard time trying to take care of him. Right now I feel like a failure and I give up completely, I can't do any of this __________________

04-24-2009, 11:37 AM	#202
lemon_drop The Fly Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: here and there Posts: 140 Local Time: 04:45 AM	flower, hang in there.. some days are harder than others. I know that days creep into being harder, more difficult. I wish for you the patience to deal with what comes your way with your Dad. I'll keep a good thought that things will improve for you and your family. __________________

04-24-2009, 02:48 PM	#205
Purplereign Loungeroom Dancing Queen Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: where I can Breathe . . . and it's Magnificent Posts: 24,782 Local Time: 10:45 PM	to everyone who needs them . . . __________________ *'You might just as well say, that "I breathe when I sleep" is the same thing as "I sleep when I breathe"!'*

04-30-2009, 06:36 PM	#215
Sicy Sizzlin' Sicilian Forum Administrator Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Bay Area, CA Posts: 69,348 Local Time: 04:45 AM	My Dad is having Laparoscopic Hernia surgery tomorrow. It's supposed to be a really simple operation so I'm sure he'll be fine, but he's never had an operation before and he's gettin up there in age so I'm a little concerned. Plus he's a very private person and I had to find this out from my mom. __________________

05-01-2009, 05:32 PM	#220
Sicy Sizzlin' Sicilian Forum Administrator Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Bay Area, CA Posts: 69,348 Local Time: 04:45 AM	Thanks. He's at home now doing ok. He doesnt like people fussing over him so I just stopped by to say hello and left. __________________ __________________

04-24-2009, 12:11 PM	#204
BonosBaby12 ONE love, blood, life Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: East Coast girl living in Chi-Town Posts: 14,889 Local Time: 06:45 AM	Lemon Im really sorry . Hope the doctor's figure out soon what is causing him to be so sick Flower hang in there too It's a very tough situation to deal with. Went through it all with my dad before he passed away. Remember it's ok to take some time for yourself

04-24-2009, 09:52 PM	#206
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04-25-2009, 05:32 AM	#208
Acrobat Angel Rock n' Roll Doggie Band-aid Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Hunter Valley, Australia Posts: 4,545 Local Time: 11:45 PM	I don't usually post in this thread, but I need to let this out. A close friend of mine passed away suddenly a couple of days ago in her sleep. She only just turned 21 at the beginning of April. I really don't know what else to say. Please say a prayer for Sarah and her beautiful family.

04-25-2009, 05:36 PM	#209
BonosBaby12 ONE love, blood, life Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: East Coast girl living in Chi-Town Posts: 14,889 Local Time: 06:45 AM	Im very sorry about the loss of your friend My thoughts and 's go out to Sarah and her family

04-25-2009, 11:03 PM	#210
Carek1230 Blue Crack Overdose Get me off the internetz! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: wishing I was somewhere else.... Posts: 124,511 Local Time: 05:45 AM	and

04-26-2009, 03:14 AM	#211
floweravalanche Rock n' Roll Doggie Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Where the streets have no name, In God's Country, wherever he takes me, currently Seattle, WA Posts: 3,295 Local Time: 06:45 AM	Thanks for the prayers and hugs etc guys Praying for you Acrobat Today was a rough day again, another point the fingers at everyone over here when it comes to my Dad being ill and doing stuff for him, of coarse I'm the first blame and the one everyone says is a failure, points fingers at etc. Its really stressful and its really hurting me emotional I'm close to my Dad's family here have been since I was little, but now I feel like they are not even my family with the way they have been treating me with Daddy being ill and all, I even said you're not my family anymore, family doesn't do the things you're doing now, they are there for support and love and all you're doing is being hateful and hurtful I pretty told them not to speak to me again. There is so much I want to say to them, but I am not a hateful type of person, but all they are doing is making matters worst over here. They think my Dad doesn't know what is going on, but he does he hears it and sees it which makes him upset etc, which is bad for heart. The doctors said any type of stress can put him back into the hospital and I know all this drama that is going on is stressing him out badly as well as I. I'm so upset, not just extremely emotionally hurt and heartbroken right now but angry and bitter, I don't want to be this way at all. I miss it when my family understood each another and loved each another now its like we're not even a family. I personally want to get out of here, I'm only staying cause I want to and I need to be there for my Dad, but everyone else wants me gone here. I don't know what to do, I know my faith level is extremely low now and everything, I don't know I just don't know, maybe it would be best if I was gone, I don't know anymore, I give up all together now

04-26-2009, 11:21 AM	#212
lemon_drop The Fly Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: here and there Posts: 140 Local Time: 04:45 AM	Maybe they are scared? Maybe they don't have the time to devote to your Dad like you do, and have some guilt associated with their not being able to help, and the festers and gets in the way of actual help. Perhaps, you could ask for some help, one by one, or even a heart to heart talk with one of them that is most accessible, or most close to your Dad.. and explain as simply as possible that you are doing the best you can.. without very much help or support. Try not to place blame(which it sounds like they are doing with you) because it will cause them to withdraw and make them rationalize that what they are doing is the right thing.. Although it isn't the best thing for you and definitely not for your Dad. I'll keep a good thought going that your care for your Dad is enough to keep the relatives satisfied and that they will realize that they are causing additional stress in his life and in yours and give you some respite. You have given up a lot, and you're very young to have to deal with this as a primary caregiver. Hang in there, you are being wonderful and I know that your Dad appreciates and loves you very much.

04-27-2009, 02:58 AM	#214
Carek1230 Blue Crack Overdose Get me off the internetz! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: wishing I was somewhere else.... Posts: 124,511 Local Time: 05:45 AM

04-30-2009, 06:58 PM	#216
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05-01-2009, 12:51 AM	#218
Carek1230 Blue Crack Overdose Get me off the internetz! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: wishing I was somewhere else.... Posts: 124,511 Local Time: 05:45 AM	for Sarah