My GF said she quit smoking 1.5 months ago, or so, I believed her. Roughly though, she had some difficulty with it. I've caught her smoking, and I had found cigarettes in her pocket she had bought, and tried to hide them.
So I'm still uneasy about her smoking, and it's taking me a while to retrust her. She feels that it is a breach of her personal life, that "I can't let her live her own life," and I'm trying to control her. That's not true.
Her grandma had been diagnosed with lung cancer, and it doesn't help that her whole family smokes either. Her friends smoke too, and the friend she goes out to eat with during school smokes, so there's always this paranoia in the back of my mind that she's smoking.
My GF gets mad when she finds me looking for cigarettes, or checking receipts, as she feels is me not letting her 'have her own life' but that's not true. I just have been hurt by her lying to me about smoking, and I'm trying my best to believe her, but when I smell cigarette smoke, or see some yellow on her teeth, I worry.
What can I offer to say to her how I feel? I trust her, but I have been hurt by her lying to me -- and that was maybe 2 months ago. I don't want her to think I'm some kind of a monster, it's just that smoking is a bad thing to me, and I don't fully believe she has quit -- even though she has told me she has.
So I'm still uneasy about her smoking, and it's taking me a while to retrust her. She feels that it is a breach of her personal life, that "I can't let her live her own life," and I'm trying to control her. That's not true.
Her grandma had been diagnosed with lung cancer, and it doesn't help that her whole family smokes either. Her friends smoke too, and the friend she goes out to eat with during school smokes, so there's always this paranoia in the back of my mind that she's smoking.
My GF gets mad when she finds me looking for cigarettes, or checking receipts, as she feels is me not letting her 'have her own life' but that's not true. I just have been hurt by her lying to me about smoking, and I'm trying my best to believe her, but when I smell cigarette smoke, or see some yellow on her teeth, I worry.
What can I offer to say to her how I feel? I trust her, but I have been hurt by her lying to me -- and that was maybe 2 months ago. I don't want her to think I'm some kind of a monster, it's just that smoking is a bad thing to me, and I don't fully believe she has quit -- even though she has told me she has.