I don't like kids. I don't like to be around young people, not at all. Not ever. No.
But......
When I play with my little cousins, and they are so happy I am playing with them, yeah, I admit, that is nice, to see them smile and what not.
Now that I'm done being "soft"....... me, do I want to have kids?
I would be... slightly dissapointed if I never did.
It depends a lot on my wife. But doing some different sorts of research, I think I will most likely have a wife who wants children. Despite my detachement, I do like family, and have dreams of having a family. Not so much a dream, not something I think about, but something I see happening.
Yeah, ~unforgettableFOXfire~, I agree with some things. It is hard to raise a good kid, etc. And you are not wrong in raising children, it's damn serious business, and I hate people who think otherwise. When you are a parent, your life changes dramatically. I don't know this personally, but I more than believe those who do know it, and from what I see with my own eyes.
But that doesn't scare me, or deteer me from parenthood.
In..... some ways...... I do look forward to raising a child to be better than I am, etc. BUt raising a family.......
I guess that would be the ultimate sense of duty.
When, if, the time is right, I won't have any reservations about that. I've spent........ plenty of time alone, and I'm not going to forget that. So when the time comes for a family and what not, yes, I will be there. I suppose the first step would be finding the right woman. But that, too, is something I'm always looking out for, heh.
See, I'm a contradiction. I've... never experienced the family life I want my own future family to have. Living with parents separated, and then seeing my father and stepmother divorce in my teenage years, I just hope that doesn't..... affect me. When I studied this topic in my socialogy class, it said people like me we're most suceptible, most likely to let their past influence their future, mostly though insecurity pertaining to the marriage, etc. But...... the thing is, and probably why I'm at least a decent person and not a wasted life, is... all three of my parents have showed a great amount of care to me, and have done things, and sacrificed in their own way.
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Um... I seem to be all over the place...
Anyhow, children.... We'll, to me, children means marriage. That is the only way I'd really bring one into this world, essentially. Sex like that means wife, so they are related. Wife means........ a lot.... so, wife + child + marriage........ they all essentially go together. But I'm one of those "commitment" type people. For something like this, I know it's important to have someone who feels the same way you do.
Other motivations.....
Do it right. If I have a family, I want to do it right, and work really hard for it. I can't stand..... eh.... nevermind. But I guess there is some motivation in that it's something I want to do, and do it right. To succeed.
Tradition
I am a traditional person. I am an unconventional person... but tradition is in there somewhere
Lol, arrogance
I want to be able to tell my grandkids my words of wisdom, and can't wait for them to see me as a very wise, old man.
haahahahaha
Mabye... I can slowly make the world a better place, and create a legacy? If I am a parent, and raise my kids really well, and THEY raise their children very well.......
That being said, I've no idea where my life will take me.
Family or not - that mostly depends on the women I come to meet, honestly. If I find the right one where there is "mutual sharing of life" intentions, then we'll see how it goes. If not, well... then that's how it goes.
I don't have a great expectation in life, because as I always say, "that's how life goes". If I should have a great relationship with a great girl, and have a family, I would never be displeased. I'd love that, actually. In the meantme I'll just deal with what's infront of me.
And that would be college.
Lastly... "family"... "wife"...... words like that can hold a sort of motivation. I am fine on my own. I don't need much to be happy, just food and clothing, water, shelter. I can deal on my own. But to raise a family, and marriage..... on a practical level, those things require more than my own peice of mind (hmm, but my peice of mind would definitely be affected by my family... what I meant was... um... when you get a family, wife, etc. It's not about what 'you' need to be happy. But then again, your definitoin of happiness/success should change, so... hmm...). So they could/are a motivation to do well college, get a quality job, etc.
The idea of living for others, a wife or children for instance, is appealing. But I know I should do some things on my own, and live my life solo for a while. That's what everyone says. I like to think I'm different, though. But they say that out of seeing their failed relationships. I would hope I've seen enough, and won't repeat their mistakes.
If I were the worrying type, I'd say: "My biggest fear is turning into my father". It scares me how he has changed over the years.... I don't want that. I know what it does to oneself, and those around him....
Eh, I don't know. I don't like to talk about present "family life". I've been over it so many times now..... let's just say I know what I want, and I know what I don't want.
I guess I will deal with the decisions as they come to me.
Bottom line - I would never turn down a wife, children, or family, if they came about in the right way.
edit-
well, it seems I got a bit carried away......
She also told me all the stuff about increased chances of Down's after the age of 35, etc etc.....she made quite a fuss, which is odd because a year or two ago she told me I have lots of time.
So there are still kids growing up who are encouraged to think and create instead of just numb out in front of the tv.
And when I see slacker kids in their 20s getting kicked out by their folks on that new show called (appropriately) "Kicked Out" - THAT makes me batshit crazy!!! 
