I never understood it at the time, but I understand it a bit better now that I am married.
Alot of my girlfriends, before they got married, were all about what the guy would do for them and "buy me this, buy me that" and really had no interest in making a "home". I've always loved kids and taking care of people and yeah, I like it when my husband takes care of me and can provide for us as well, but alot of my girlfriends have always been on the kick of "make your own dinner! Wash your own clothes. Pay your own bills, etc."
now I'm not saying I'm trying to date women back hundreds of years and I dont think that's what these guys were saying either, but yes where as I work hard, I know my husband does too.
It's taken some work getting him to understand that I need to be acknowledged for the things I do too, and that at the end of the day I'm tired as well; but at that time in my life the guys I had dated knew that I probably wasn't the first person to go out and drink all night long, at that point.
I don't know why, but I guess I'm one of those people that sort of did things a bit backwards. I wanted to find that person I would fall in love with and I wanted to get married and start a life with that person.
Now that I am married to that man and we have our life together and are working for our future--NOW I'm going out and having fun and "livin it up".
I guess thats just how it works sometimes.