Well, I was going to stop posting here until after Christmas break, but I figured I owed it to you to at least show my thanks again for all the support and understanding (despite a few unnecessary posts over the past couple pages) I've received.
I must say, namkcuR understands my situation just about as tightly as one could glaze from this thread. Well, we had a bit of a breakthrough yesterday and today. There's little doubt between us that we're in love, and today we even shared our first kiss
(Yeah, it was pretty amazing). However, today was also one of the most dramatic days of my life for a bad reason.
Kyle has been acting fairly depressed and of-character the past couple weeks, and last night was the peak. We were all in Kate's room watching Lord of the Rings, and she and I were sharing a blanket. I could tell Kyle was depressed for some reason, and he kept leaving the room for long periods of time. Now, Kate and I both understand that there are two major obstacles infront of us with this whole relationship thing. The biggest one is of course Jordan. And by the way, she's definitely ending it with him over break, and she seems pretty relieved about it. Like a weight has been lifted form her shoulders. It's good to see her like that.
But anyway, the second obstacle was Kyle. Now, we all sort of secretly has little suspicions that Kyle may have liked Kate for a while, but it was nothing serious. Then he started acting this way a few weeks ago whenever Kate and I would do something without him, God forbid! So we knew we had to tell him about us sooner rather than later. Especially since He and I decided we'd move in together next semester in the dorm.
So today, we finally bit the bullet and went to talk to Kyle. We told him Kate was going to be breaking up with Jordan to be with me, and I could tell he was really broken up. We didn't say much, partly from shock, and party out of fear of his reaction. He was extremely repressed, and nearly started crying before I suggested we give him some time alone.
So, Kate spoke to him alone, and discovered Kyle has had strong feelings for her just about since the first week of school, and how he feels extremely inadequate. I spoke to him over AIM breifly as well since we told him, and he only asked me "Is this a joke?" I told him I was afraid it's not, and he hasn't said a single word about it to me since. He did however tell me he thinks he broke his hand, but that he "popped" it back into place. I urged him to let us take him to a hosptial, but he rejected any help.
So basically, he's a wreck, and Kate's upset about it and thinks she a horrible person for the way he reacted. Now, neither Kate or I really deserve to take any blame for this, but we can't help but worry about him and feel like we could have done something sooner. So, the bottom line is, we may or may not have lost one of our best friends here, and I'm not sure if he can handle the stress. It's really upsetting because he's never had a girlfriend (or even merely a female friend for that matter), and since Kate was really his first sincere female friend, he simply doesn't have the emotional capacity to handle something like this. And the bitch of it all is, this would have happened to him even if I had never had feelings for Kate in the first place, because she just doesn't feel that way about him.
So, that's my drama for the day. I'm extremely concerned about him, but he wont talk to me. I also cannot focus on this 10-page paper due tomorrow, because I'm so shaken up. I've never "killed" a friendship before like this, even though I don't feel any guilt or responsibility for the way he's acting. I think it was inevitable anyway. The problem's only compounded by the fact that it was ME who ended up with her, and not some other completely strange guy.
So, while Kate and I are moving along wonderfully (though we still need to get through the Jordan breakup, but neither of us think that's going to be anywhere near as difficult as this Kyle issue. Her relationship with Jordan is pretty hollow on the inside), I'd be more than willing to take NEW advice on dealing with Kyle. Part of me tells me he'll come around in time, but another part of me thinks we've both lost him for good.