MsMofoGone
Blue Crack Addict
OK !!
So, I might have NOT been all together ready to accept all of my friend's ordeals ... or for that measures, even her problems. OK ... so I can accept that. And there was a point where I couldn't accept anyone's opinions or advice other than her OWN WOW scenarios !! How one can be totally deceiving ... even without acknowledging it on a positive level !!
I know it sounds absolutely naive ... but it is possible to feel differently now !! So ... I guess with all that has happened ... I'm asking HOW SHOULD MY FRIEND MOVE ON ?? And yes, I'm ready to accept your honest opinions/advice without giving any harsh judgements or feelings that you should ONLY AGREE with my perspective. I can honestly tell you all that I will take your advice constructively.
So, here's the outcome so far ...
My friend has been rather totally off-the-deep-end when it comes to trusting her husband. She is looking for any little misconception to bring fault with him. Although, I truly think he IS TRYING to make a 'positive' effort to show he 'loves her' to no end ... and he also wants to achieve in working their issues out. He has been totally receptive to her feelings AND they even went on a marriage retreat together. They went away for an entire weekend ... it was a seminar on "How to build a stronger marriage". He spent $350 for the complete weekend hotel package. Talk about wanting to work things out ... OH MY ... he was very convincing there !! Although, she still has these doubts of his being unfaithful ... and his finding ways to be rather cheating to her OWN self. I think she's just feeling down among herself because she's so-ooo angry ... let alone ... HURT ... that maybe, she thinks he's just gonna do whatever he wants ... no matter if it's for their marriage or not. But again, I think she needs some advice on how she can move forward with him withOUT feeling like he's gonna cheat on her. I believe she needs some sort of feedback that will give her positive reinforcement to move forward with him. Afterall, he is showing steps in improving their marriage and reasons WHY he WANTS things to be better. I don't think he's looking to cheat again in the long run. He wants to reinforce his marriage ... without falling into a rut with his cheating ways from the past.
So. how should she move froward ??
Now ... my friend is rather a smart cookie. She hasn't flown off the deep-end ... at least, not yet. Believe me, I've known her since my early childhood days ... and this is NOT enough to drive her insane. She really does have a good head on her shoulders.
SO ... I guess I'm asking what should she feel is the next necessary step ?? She doesn't know if she should give him a second chance OR should she give in the towel, thinking he's always gonna cheat on her no matter what !!
What do you think she should do ??
So, I might have NOT been all together ready to accept all of my friend's ordeals ... or for that measures, even her problems. OK ... so I can accept that. And there was a point where I couldn't accept anyone's opinions or advice other than her OWN WOW scenarios !! How one can be totally deceiving ... even without acknowledging it on a positive level !!
I know it sounds absolutely naive ... but it is possible to feel differently now !! So ... I guess with all that has happened ... I'm asking HOW SHOULD MY FRIEND MOVE ON ?? And yes, I'm ready to accept your honest opinions/advice without giving any harsh judgements or feelings that you should ONLY AGREE with my perspective. I can honestly tell you all that I will take your advice constructively.
So, here's the outcome so far ...
My friend has been rather totally off-the-deep-end when it comes to trusting her husband. She is looking for any little misconception to bring fault with him. Although, I truly think he IS TRYING to make a 'positive' effort to show he 'loves her' to no end ... and he also wants to achieve in working their issues out. He has been totally receptive to her feelings AND they even went on a marriage retreat together. They went away for an entire weekend ... it was a seminar on "How to build a stronger marriage". He spent $350 for the complete weekend hotel package. Talk about wanting to work things out ... OH MY ... he was very convincing there !! Although, she still has these doubts of his being unfaithful ... and his finding ways to be rather cheating to her OWN self. I think she's just feeling down among herself because she's so-ooo angry ... let alone ... HURT ... that maybe, she thinks he's just gonna do whatever he wants ... no matter if it's for their marriage or not. But again, I think she needs some advice on how she can move forward with him withOUT feeling like he's gonna cheat on her. I believe she needs some sort of feedback that will give her positive reinforcement to move forward with him. Afterall, he is showing steps in improving their marriage and reasons WHY he WANTS things to be better. I don't think he's looking to cheat again in the long run. He wants to reinforce his marriage ... without falling into a rut with his cheating ways from the past.
So. how should she move froward ??
Now ... my friend is rather a smart cookie. She hasn't flown off the deep-end ... at least, not yet. Believe me, I've known her since my early childhood days ... and this is NOT enough to drive her insane. She really does have a good head on her shoulders.
SO ... I guess I'm asking what should she feel is the next necessary step ?? She doesn't know if she should give him a second chance OR should she give in the towel, thinking he's always gonna cheat on her no matter what !!
What do you think she should do ??