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of you all. Jealous of that fact that you can do what you want, when you want to, without worrying about being responsible for anyone other than yourself. I hate being responsible right now - hate it hate it.
 
Damn. I wish I had the freedom you say we have.

There's nothing about my life that is without responsibility.

I own my own business.
I can never go out of town w/o a laptop bc of customer support and needs.
I am 24, so therefore do not live w/ my parents and thus, I pay all of my own bills w/ no help. Thank God.
I am about to buy a house.

I love being responsible, though.
I've always put accountability on my shoulders. always.
I wouldn't want to live without structure or boundaries. I require some sort of regimine.(sp?)

[This message has been edited by HelloAngel (edited 04-17-2002).]
 
Originally posted by WhackaMole:
of you all. Jealous of that fact that you can do what you want, when you want to, without worrying about being responsible for anyone other than yourself. I hate being responsible right now - hate it hate it.


I don't think that everyone here can do anything they want without being responsible for others. But it is true for me for the most part. I do love my independence and have consciously chosen that over marriage and kids. But there's a down side...like the two times I had to drive myself to the emergency room in the middle of the night.
 
"You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today."
-Abraham Lincoln
 
Ah let me clarify myself then.

I am married with 2 children, new house, temporary job and the list goes on.

When I say I am jealous of you and your freedom - what I'm saying is it would be nice to be responsible only for myself sometimes. Then if I fail, I'm only failing one person and not half a dozen if you know what I mean.

Before I came to this board i was perfectly happy to be a mom and to be with my family.

Now that I've met new friends, I so much want to go and do things that I don't have the freedom to do most of the time.

So yes, you are responsible and have alot on your plate and yes, I am still very much jealous.
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If only what you said was true...

I am responsible not only for myself but for my 2 children, my husband's 2 children, my elderly grandmother, my God-daughter and everyone else in my family who feels that because I am financially comfortable, I have no worries and therefore, should always be available with my time and money.

I am responsible for the business my husband and I have run since 1994 and all of the taxes and headaches that come with self-employment. Our type of business has no set hours so that means working weekends, holidays, late nights and early mornings. If a report is due to a client and it means working until 3 a.m., that's what we do.

Sometimes I wish I could throw it all out the window and run away from my responsibilities but deep down, I also like being a responsible person. I come from a long line of irresponsible people and trust me, its not all its cracked up to be.
 
Originally posted by WhackaMole:
Ah let me clarify myself then.

I am married with 2 children, new house, temporary job and the list goes on.

When I say I am jealous of you and your freedom - what I'm saying is it would be nice to be responsible only for myself sometimes. Then if I fail, I'm only failing one person and not half a dozen if you know what I mean.

Before I came to this board i was perfectly happy to be a mom and to be with my family.

Now that I've met new friends, I so much want to go and do things that I don't have the freedom to do most of the time.

So yes, you are responsible and have alot on your plate and yes, I am still very much jealous.
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You know what they say about the grass on the other side right.
 
Oh my spatula. Back I say, back or I'll have to get my stick out.
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OK OK so you're telling me I have nothing to be jealous about because everyone has their own heap of responsibility. I understand all of your points.

Bono's American Wife - you sound like someone with alot on your shoulders and I respect that.

I am comfortable in my life but I am still jealous but I thank you all for trying to smack me for being so stupid in thinking that nothing is carefree.

Gee, I never thought admitting I was jealous would spark such comments and prompt me to apologize - my goodness that is sort of funny.

..but I'm still jealous..
 
don't apologize! It is tough having responsibilities...I'm only 20 but I have a lot of them. They prevent you from being really impulsive, but understanding them also keeps you from doing some really idiotic crap. Yep, in a lot of ways I'm glad I learned about responsibility early on, although sometimes I sound like I'm about 50 and my peers all yell at me.
 
Please don't apologize WhackaMole...you have every right to feel that way and nothing to be sorry about. I posted my response before I saw your second post and now that I see your original intent more clearly, I have to agree with you to a certain extent. I also sometimes wish that my mistakes or failures only affected me and not the people who count on me. So having read your post as you intended it, I totally understand where you are coming from.

Sometimes I'm jealous of my sister who works for minimum wage and does struggle to support her daughter but she has a pretty stress free life. She doesn't have much money or own a house but she seems happier that most people I know who "have it all"

I will admit that I typed my post right after I got a whopping tax bill from the IRS and was feeling kind of sorry for myself and didn't mean to come off like such a martyr...I do that sometimes
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Originally posted by Bono's American Wife:


I am responsible for the business my husband and I have run since 1994 and all of the taxes and headaches that come with self-employment. Our type of business has no set hours so that means working weekends, holidays, late nights and early mornings. If a report is due to a client and it means working until 3 a.m., that's what we do.

Sometimes I wish I could throw it all out the window and run away from my responsibilities but deep down, I also like being a responsible person. I come from a long line of irresponsible people and trust me, its not all its cracked up to be.

AMEN, sister.

I wish I could have said it like that.
Damn insomnia.

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it sucks being responsible. i am a single mom, even though i live with my mother, i am responsible for my rent, my half of the bills, groceries, my daughter's well-being, i rarely get help, i have no car, so everything i do is by bus or walking, i am determined to be independent, be able to raise my daughter with no help. it sucks sometimes, but i know it will benefit me in the long run. i know its not much responsiblity, but still hard. i wish i had that freedom of being able to make impulsive choices.

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