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Okay... well... not yet... but maybe in a couple of weeks if this crap keeps up:
My girlfriend works in the mall. A guy called her work today, and my girlfriend's coworker Sarah picked up the phone, and this guy said something like 'Is Cait working today? She's not? She promised me something I asked for would be in today (he didn't say what, of course). You know, she's (insert perfect, unnecessarily detailed description of my girlfriend here). Can you tell me when she's working next?'
Sarah said that she (Cait, my girlfriend) no longer worked there, even though she was actually working on the floor at the time. I have my doubts that this will be a wholly effective detterent, mind you, but I'm going to go in to the mall and thank her for saying it anyway on my next day off.
My girlfriend has no idea who it might have been that called, and made no such arrangements or recall any sales or conversations that even resembled whatever this guy was talking about, and is quite freaked out right now. If it was anyone she actually knew, she has a cellphone, and they would have just called her cellphone. This is someone who doesn't know her. Evidently there's someone out there who knows her name, knows what she looks like well enough to give a vivid description, went to the trouble of finding out her work number (which, isn't that hard mind you, I mean, she works in a retail store in a mall, no big challenge there), and has tried to dupe people into giving him more personal information about her. This, as far as I'm concerned, is a stalker and nothing less.
Now, I'm keeping my fingers crossed that her other coworkers (mostly just the two dumb ones I don't like) don't do something retarded like blab her home phone number or where she lives, because that will complicate things to an end that I would rather avoid if possible.
I, partly because I know that I can't be with her 24/7 and am fearful that something might happen. My girlfriend is a smart girl, she's strong enough, she can take care of herself, but even so... I can't help but be worried.
I also can't help but be furious about it either. There are certain ways to go about trying to talk to someone that don't involve duplicity and remaining completely unknown to the person you're seeking. I hardly think that being as impersonal as possible, like using the telephone rather than trying to talk to someone face to face, is a 'proper channel' so to speak in terms of trying to gain someone's acquiantence. While there are a number of reasons why this is, perhaps, an efficiency; there are also a lot of reasons why its creepy: Sure, maybe it saves you a trip to the mall, but what it tells me is that you want to remain as anonymous as possible and to avoid having her coworkers know your face. But maybe my imagination is a little too active, and I watch too many A&E Cold Case Files criminology reports.
I don't really believe there's some whackjob out there with that sort of end in mind; but I'm also not willing to deny the possibility. That's mostly because there's nothing about what this guy has done that doesn't seem extremely, extremely shifty to me. But I'm also a suspicious person, maybe this is actually just some 15 year old with a crush. I know I need more details, but still... I mean, I'm not totally overreacting, am I?
Guys hit on her at school and stuff, and that's not a big deal for me. Their presence is known, they're not doing anything that's completely abnormal, they're just being university guys. University guys hit on university girls. There's no air of secrecy about that, and I know I can trust my girlfriend. But when someone starts this dodgy telephone crap... It makes me uneasy.
If he keeps pursuing her like this (by that I mean, in the shady manner which I feel he is), God help him if I find him out. My poor nerves are going to be shot, and I can only imagine how my girlfriend will feel. I really, really, really, really, really hope it's nothing. Seriously.
My girlfriend works in the mall. A guy called her work today, and my girlfriend's coworker Sarah picked up the phone, and this guy said something like 'Is Cait working today? She's not? She promised me something I asked for would be in today (he didn't say what, of course). You know, she's (insert perfect, unnecessarily detailed description of my girlfriend here). Can you tell me when she's working next?'
Sarah said that she (Cait, my girlfriend) no longer worked there, even though she was actually working on the floor at the time. I have my doubts that this will be a wholly effective detterent, mind you, but I'm going to go in to the mall and thank her for saying it anyway on my next day off.
My girlfriend has no idea who it might have been that called, and made no such arrangements or recall any sales or conversations that even resembled whatever this guy was talking about, and is quite freaked out right now. If it was anyone she actually knew, she has a cellphone, and they would have just called her cellphone. This is someone who doesn't know her. Evidently there's someone out there who knows her name, knows what she looks like well enough to give a vivid description, went to the trouble of finding out her work number (which, isn't that hard mind you, I mean, she works in a retail store in a mall, no big challenge there), and has tried to dupe people into giving him more personal information about her. This, as far as I'm concerned, is a stalker and nothing less.
Now, I'm keeping my fingers crossed that her other coworkers (mostly just the two dumb ones I don't like) don't do something retarded like blab her home phone number or where she lives, because that will complicate things to an end that I would rather avoid if possible.
I, partly because I know that I can't be with her 24/7 and am fearful that something might happen. My girlfriend is a smart girl, she's strong enough, she can take care of herself, but even so... I can't help but be worried.
I also can't help but be furious about it either. There are certain ways to go about trying to talk to someone that don't involve duplicity and remaining completely unknown to the person you're seeking. I hardly think that being as impersonal as possible, like using the telephone rather than trying to talk to someone face to face, is a 'proper channel' so to speak in terms of trying to gain someone's acquiantence. While there are a number of reasons why this is, perhaps, an efficiency; there are also a lot of reasons why its creepy: Sure, maybe it saves you a trip to the mall, but what it tells me is that you want to remain as anonymous as possible and to avoid having her coworkers know your face. But maybe my imagination is a little too active, and I watch too many A&E Cold Case Files criminology reports.
I don't really believe there's some whackjob out there with that sort of end in mind; but I'm also not willing to deny the possibility. That's mostly because there's nothing about what this guy has done that doesn't seem extremely, extremely shifty to me. But I'm also a suspicious person, maybe this is actually just some 15 year old with a crush. I know I need more details, but still... I mean, I'm not totally overreacting, am I?
Guys hit on her at school and stuff, and that's not a big deal for me. Their presence is known, they're not doing anything that's completely abnormal, they're just being university guys. University guys hit on university girls. There's no air of secrecy about that, and I know I can trust my girlfriend. But when someone starts this dodgy telephone crap... It makes me uneasy.
If he keeps pursuing her like this (by that I mean, in the shady manner which I feel he is), God help him if I find him out. My poor nerves are going to be shot, and I can only imagine how my girlfriend will feel. I really, really, really, really, really hope it's nothing. Seriously.
I hope her co-workers are smart enough to want to protect her from this, too. 
Yes, I agree! i don't think you are over reacting at all! Good to be Sure- she is a ok!! these days-it's good to be over protective!! 
