Prepare yourselves for a lengthy read...
It's been a little over a month since I last saw her, but that wasn't under the best circumstances, and the results of that have left me deeply confused and unsure about things in my life that have always been constant and safe. Even though we still communicate somewhat regularly, everything feels so distant that it makes my head and heart ache. A big part of me wants to just take back everything that happened to bring us to this place, but it's too late for that. I got hurt, and I hurt her trying to stand up for myself.
Not a day - hell, not an hour goes by that I don't think of this. I've tried finding creative outlets - I finally got a piano again so I can at least play and relieve some tension that way, but at the end of the day, when I'm lying in bed before going to sleep, my thoughts inevitably find their way back to this ugly situation we're in. Even though my actions may have been the final thing that caused this, and despite the hurt and pain I've been dealing with, I have never stopped wanting her near. She has been my best friend for 10 years, and I suppose when it comes down to it she's the only one who could really, truly hurt me and yet I would be able to move past it.
I'm just scared that it's not the same case for her. I'm afraid that she's just going to adapt to life without me being around and realize that maybe she just doesn't need me around in anything more than a casual role.
I guess the thing that pains me the most is that I poured so much of myself into our relationship in the past months, being the one by her side through everything, through her moments of intense self-doubt and intense happiness, and it pains me to see that now we can only just exchange some light small talk and can't even do that all that comfortably.
I want to see her again, if for nothing more than to look into her eyes and tell her how sorry I am for the way things turned out. But I just don't know what's what anymore. Only that I miss her, love her and need our friendship to continue and rebuild through this.
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Experience is something that comes just after you need it.
It's been a little over a month since I last saw her, but that wasn't under the best circumstances, and the results of that have left me deeply confused and unsure about things in my life that have always been constant and safe. Even though we still communicate somewhat regularly, everything feels so distant that it makes my head and heart ache. A big part of me wants to just take back everything that happened to bring us to this place, but it's too late for that. I got hurt, and I hurt her trying to stand up for myself.
Not a day - hell, not an hour goes by that I don't think of this. I've tried finding creative outlets - I finally got a piano again so I can at least play and relieve some tension that way, but at the end of the day, when I'm lying in bed before going to sleep, my thoughts inevitably find their way back to this ugly situation we're in. Even though my actions may have been the final thing that caused this, and despite the hurt and pain I've been dealing with, I have never stopped wanting her near. She has been my best friend for 10 years, and I suppose when it comes down to it she's the only one who could really, truly hurt me and yet I would be able to move past it.
I'm just scared that it's not the same case for her. I'm afraid that she's just going to adapt to life without me being around and realize that maybe she just doesn't need me around in anything more than a casual role.
I guess the thing that pains me the most is that I poured so much of myself into our relationship in the past months, being the one by her side through everything, through her moments of intense self-doubt and intense happiness, and it pains me to see that now we can only just exchange some light small talk and can't even do that all that comfortably.
I want to see her again, if for nothing more than to look into her eyes and tell her how sorry I am for the way things turned out. But I just don't know what's what anymore. Only that I miss her, love her and need our friendship to continue and rebuild through this.
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Experience is something that comes just after you need it.