theu2fly said:She has told me she has had sex with one guy, but it didn't mean anything -- and I still keep thinking about it. I just can't see her doing that kind of thing, and I don't know why she did it. What's wrong with me?
I can't see some guy other than me doing something as private and meaningful to her.
That was in her past, get over it! what's wrong with you, you ask? after skimming through your other thread I find you're trying to claim ownership of something (or in this case someone) to which you have no right to claim. Relationships are a bond, a partnership, a connection that 2 people share. No one controls the other. Do you treat your friends the same way? Look through their stuff, check their emails etc? She should be your best friend, not your slave. I'm wondering what's happened in your past that's making you react in such a way?
Usually, when problems arise, take a look at yourself first and then rationally, rather then reactively, take steps to learn from those experiences. I myself am not the best communicator so it's on me, and no one else, to take the steps to rectify it. Mistrust and insecurities are the sure way to lose someone. I hope this and any of the other great advice provided doesn't fall on deaf ears. You're on the road to lonely-ville my friend. My 2 cents