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Ok I was on myspace and this really cute long haired guy started talking to me. He said he was from Rome , Italy and we started speaking on MSN messenger. Well at first it was simple because we talked about alot of stuff. We ended up getting intimate online and I used a webcam, which is something I have never done before. Anyway, he would say some really nice things to me and totally buttered me up and I believed him.. I became very vunerable and told him personal things about me that I usally dont tell people. He seemed like a very caring and loving guy. Then I asked him for him for his number and told him that my cell phone called international numbers. He replied that his phone was only good for work and not personal guys. The next day I looked on his myspace and a woman said thank you for his call and listening to his music. I felt like a complete idiot and really hurt. I really opened myself up to this man and allowed myself to be used. I know it is my fault that i believed him but also I cant believe I fell for his crap. Him speaking in Italian and I just feel that I gave myself away too easily. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? He doesnt speak to me now and when I am online he ignores me. My sis-inlaw is Italian I had her write out a letter so he would understand what i wanted to say to him..I want him to know that he took adavantge of an innocent person and that he is a fool..Well another word but I cant say it on here....Ok anyone .....I am really embrassed to right this but I am really upset.......
 
Don't be embarassed at all :hug:

When we first got the internet I got caught up with this guy from Scotland. Thought he was so sweet and we would talk in IM and e-mail each other all of the time. Like you I ended up telling this guy things that I normally wouldn't share with anyone else. After about a year I found out that he had been doing nothing but lying to me. Came across a girl in a chatroom and by coincidence we discovered we had encountered the same guy. She filled me in on so much and I felt like a complete idiot. To make matters worse he had been copying and pasting the e-mails he was sending me. When confronted with this he acted like a complete ass. Was a rude awakening that he had never given a damn about me.

I know you are hurt by what happened but really it's best to just let go. Chances are that this guy will not even give a 2nd thought to your letter. He blatantly lied to you about the phone and he has probably lied about other things too. Eventually your feelings will start easing off. Will be hard in the beginning but in the end it's for the best :hug: You deserve someone so much better!
 
JCOSTER said:
I'm glad that you where able to vent your feelings here. It's over and done with now.....so just forget him.

And don't do that again! :madwife:



:hug:

lol! thanx guys...I wrote him a letter in italian explaining how I felt and how he treated me.....he probably wont care but I had to do it for myself....I am sorry to hear that it happened for a year...that must have been really difficult. I can only imagine having that happen for a year....
 
Nothing wrong at all with getting it all out. If it makes you feel better than good :hug: :)

Thanks it hurt for awhile but I ended up getting an amazing guy out of the deal :). Learned fast to look for the warning signs early :wink:
 
At least it was just a one time thing, just be glad you didn't get conned by somebody for months. There was a girl at a message board I frequented who said that she had cancer. She was pretty popular at the board and got a lot of support from people. She and I became pretty close friends. We talked on the phone a lot, and I sent her care packages. Turns out she didn't have cancer. I don't know if she ever told a single truth about herself.

This kind of stuff happens a lot on the internet, that's why the waters can be pretty rough to navigate. Don't beat yourself up over it.
 
I've been there as well and while it is truely a crappy situation to get into.. it's a good learning experience. After it happened to me, I started taking the internet with a grain of salt. Though interference is a pretty decent place, with decent folks.. :wink:
 
I'm going to sound a bit like a jerk here possibly...or maybe like a dad...or a teacher...but I can't believe nobody is scolding you a bit. BE CAREFUL!!!

Anyway, this is one of my biggest dislikes about the internet. It allows for SO much information to be transfered, with or without permission. My thought on this is you have to be careful! I'm happy that it was just sweet talking, though I don't know what was said...I just really worry about the comfortableness of sharing everything with a complete stranger...b/c the internet can seem so safe.

I share this just to put out there what the internet can do for someone. I found a kids cell phone the other day while working. It was a very expensive phone so I figured the kid would want to know it was safe. Just by his phone, I found out who is girlfriend was and what she looked like. Then, using the internet, I found out not only where his girlfriend lived, but where he lived as well. I'm talking complete address here. Numbers and all. I also found out that he was going out to eat with his dad but needed to be home at a certain time.

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but please remember that you really cannot trust everyone.

Rant done. :hug:

Edit: Now that I've walked around a bit...I want to say I'm sorry that some people are like that. :hug: I hope what I said doesn't come off too harsh.
 
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I think a lot of people have been in your situation.

MANY years ago I thought I found 'the one' online. After months of chatting online and on the phone I paid for this guys plane ticket to come out here to California and see me from New Jersey. We had a 'great' weekend together or so I thought. Never heard from him again after that :| Not to mention I had broken up with my current bf because I thought this guy was going to end up moving here to be with me. So yeah, lesson learned.
 
JCOSTER said:
I'm glad that you where able to vent your feelings here. It's over and done with now.....so just forget him.

And don't do that again! :madwife:



:hug:


I second or third or even fourth this comment! (and Phils, about how no one was coming down a bit harder...sorry but that was my first impression!) Especially the don't do it again! :lol: these day's you seriously have NO idea who you're really talking to, especially meeting someone on myspace and such. I say that because I feel like at least here, there's enough of us on here that would probably start getting red flags going up in our heads to at least warn you or anyone else if we started thinking something didnt seem right.

Be careful! :hug:
 
Oh i learned my lesson , believe me. The other day a guy that I was talking to on msn wanted me to see his cam...I said no!! And he didnt really seem to get it. I hope i dont find a porn site with me on it....I would die and that didnt even cross my mind because I was so into him......Anyway I sent him a letter in Italian explaining how he hurt me and how crappy it was. he probably could care less but I had to do it for me.....Thank you for caring......
 
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