TripThruUreWires
I serve MacPhisto
yeah, what your roommate is doing is not cool. unfortunately, she's oblivious to basic dorm room etiquette. therin lies the dillema.
i agree that you shouldn't have to wear earplugs. firstly, the onus should not be put on you. secondly, even if you mute the noises, your mind is still keenly aware of what is going on.
it's equally ridiculous for you to have to be more or less kicked out of your own room.
so how do you bring it up? just be forthright and genuine as you are now. tell her that you want to speak to her about something that's been bothering you. let her know that the hanky panky taking place directly above you--while you're trying to sleep no less--makes you outright uncomfortable. indicate that you can understand she probably wants to be intimate with her significant other while he's visiting, but that it's unfair to you while that sort of stuff takes place with you there.
further qualify all of this by saying that you otherwise value her as a friend and appreciate her as your roomate.
don't be offended though if she opts to move out or selects another roommate at some point. hormones will often overshadow one's good sense.
i agree that you shouldn't have to wear earplugs. firstly, the onus should not be put on you. secondly, even if you mute the noises, your mind is still keenly aware of what is going on.
it's equally ridiculous for you to have to be more or less kicked out of your own room.
so how do you bring it up? just be forthright and genuine as you are now. tell her that you want to speak to her about something that's been bothering you. let her know that the hanky panky taking place directly above you--while you're trying to sleep no less--makes you outright uncomfortable. indicate that you can understand she probably wants to be intimate with her significant other while he's visiting, but that it's unfair to you while that sort of stuff takes place with you there.
further qualify all of this by saying that you otherwise value her as a friend and appreciate her as your roomate.
don't be offended though if she opts to move out or selects another roommate at some point. hormones will often overshadow one's good sense.