ZooMacPhisto800 said:
How can you let go of someone? .
Don't be ashamed......... but then again, don't think of it as real love. I believe real love between people, the eternal kind, doesn't end. And while you may have had that for her, she didn't for you, so what that really means is that there is something better......
I mean..... think about it - something better than what you had before. Might not seem possible, but the fact that what you had ended, and yet you still want more....... there's something that can satisfy you out there. Don't forget that.
You can still have feelings for her, which isn't that bad. But you need to move on... you need to be able to let someone else be able to love you, if that's what you want in the future.
But if you want someone to make you feel happy instead of sad, I say get someone new who wants to be with you.
FIRST STEP though..... that's getting tough again. Right now, and I've beenthere, too... right now you're in no shape for anything. SOmeone could whistle a sweetly sad song and that might break you down to tears, if it's really that bad. No matter what, that's not good.
Go to the gym, work out. Get comfortable. get so that you don't need anyone to be happy. I know it might feel like the opposite, but you've gotta do it for yourself, because if you don't get independant again, you'll never fully be able to be in a relationship, in my opinion. You've gotta go through the cleansing cycle. ANd pain, well, that just means you are alive, and more importantly, that you are living.
Life is quite the experience.... but it is DAMN SHORT. So don't get "stuck in a moment" too much.... mourning is okay, but there is a reason guys have been trained to hold back their emotions for centuries.
SOme girls will be sensative to you... but it doesn't matter. Anyone, male or female, needs to get their feet back underneath themselves after a big relationship change. There's nothing wrong with it, either. This is just part of life, part of the process.
Good luck on your road to getting strong and moving on.