Originally posted by *Stormy*:
I just get really upset when someone tries to put something into my words and intentions that was not in my head and my heart when I wrote it. Regardless of if someone jumps in and says 'I don't see any twisting' doesn't mean it didn't happen. People see what they want to and disregard the rest. But to make a definite statement about me when you don't really know is unfair. I hate it when a person will take what they think and make it the truth when it isn't, or because they or someone they may have known thought or behaved that way that it is definitely what is happening because it's not. Don't put evil intentions in my head that were never there. I can't believe anyone would think such things, but we all have different minds. So consider that mine is different from yours and that just because you may have thought something does not make it true. Assumptions and jumping to conclusions is wrong. Because certain people are more well liked and popular their statements will be respected more than mine, but that still does not make it true. I had to vent, but I won't anymore. Next time I get bent out of shape I will sulk in private until I cool down. Sorry again for this thread.
To answer your question in the title of the topic:
I don't know, but whatever it is you're upset about, DON'T do it!
I think i understand what you are saying in this particular paragraph. Since it is the internet, things can get misunderstood or misinterpreted. That's what you meant, right?
And also, with so many people, arguments/misunderstandings are bound to happen.
However, most of the time things can (should) get resolved nicely. We're all only humans and even though we can sometimes bug each other like mad, essentially everyone is a good person down inside. (at least from my experience)
I wish i wasn't so stubborn and not get so worked up over stuff. (believe me, i can totally relate to that part of your thread) But it's a part of me, and i guess all i can do is try to control my temper.
What helps is :
- take a break from this place (it is refreshing not to post a thread every day)
- talk to the person in question in a civil manner if possible
- try not to get upset about/ignore stuff that potentially could make you mad. think and instead of reacting immediately and using your initial reaction, try responding after a night's sleep and react like you wish you could more often. (i tried using that recently and it worked well - i really don't have to jump up at every little thing someone decides to write. besides, it tells a lot more about them than it does about me is my attitude)
ps: Talking about things that get you mad is a step, i think. Let it out, and then you'll cool off. No need to apologize IMO.
