I've had some form of what is probably depression for as long as I can remember. My earliest memories are all of wanting to be someone somewhere else and feeling really isolated. I never did anything about it until I was in my 20s because there was a stigma surrounding treatment for depression where I grew up and among my family (I can't count the number of times I was told to just "Stop being weird/stupid and get over it" or to pray about it). My parents either didn't notice or chose not to care about how I felt, and I didn't really talk to them about it either. I had a bad relationship with my stepmother, my dad was always working and not really one to talk to about feelings anyway, my mom is a whole other issue all together (I only saw her a couple of times a year anyway), I didn't have many friends and had no transportation to get away anyway, my brothers were really awful to me growing up, so I was pretty lonely and just read and cried a lot.
I just thought I was abnormal and needed to try to become perfect in order to fix myself, and wasn't even aware that there could be ways to get help.
Anyway, I finally saw a doctor about it about six years ago, and she tried to talk me into seeing a psychiatrist, but I refused. I went on anti-depressants, but they didn't really work and I was worried about medical costs (even though my doctor was great and gave me free samples as much as she could), so I stopped taking them after about six months.
My depression became unbearable in 2003 when I moved to England to do a postgraduate course. I didn't know anyone, didn't have anything in common with any one on my course, lived in gross housing, and my programme was totally unorganised and unsupportive. I couldn't do
anything without crying, and cried in the most embarrassing situations. Even though I was doing well in my course, I would go to my professors and cry about getting an A. I waited until odd times to use the kitchen or the bathroom so I wouldn't run into my flatmates, and hated to leave my room on my own.
I saw four or five different doctors, a counsellor, and a psychiatrist. The doctors I saw were cold and rude, the counsellor was really horrible, and the psychiatrist didn't do anything other than ask me about five questions and increase the dosage of prescription. I tried different anti-depressants, one of which made me really anxious and suicidal. One medication helped a bit for a while, but then stopped working, even when my dosage was increased to the maximum amount (and then I had to go off it suddenly and deal with lots of withdrawal issues because of problems with getting my prescription when I moved). Anyway, the only thing that helped me was to move in with my husband's family in London and exit my course with a postgraduate diploma rather than completing a dissertation.
I don't really have ups and downs; I just either feel flat or down/angry. I almost never feel happy; at the most I sometimes feel okay (only when I'm at home or travelling...somehow travelling is different from going into town and doesn't fill me with dread). When I do feel happy, it's never for more than an hour at most and I'm always scared that it won't last and then I end up feeling worse afterwards. I've tried six different types of antidepressants (all of which made me feel really spacey and unable to concentrate or had other side effects and none of which worked anyway) and have seen two different counsellors since I moved to Norwich (I think I've already had twice the normal number of appointments with the one I'm seeing now and I don't feel any further along than when I started). I take loads of vitamins and eat well, though I don't really think that's worked for me either. I've kind of just accepted depression as something I'll have to live with forever (at least in this form...hopefully never as bad again as it was three years ago though I do always feel like that possibility is hanging over my head), but I don't really feel comfortable just doing nothing about it, so I continue with the counselling and reading self-help books and try anything else I can find just in case I stumble across something that helps.