Dating: easier for men or women?

[romi]

I guess to me the length of the friendship does not matter. I think there's a facebook statement to like to that affect that has been going around lately

I would not go out with someone I had no prior desire to spend time with (not that there's anything wrong with doing that). I just don't understand how losing a boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever is not also losing a friend. I get the tainting memories part, but if you have had a serious relationship there would still be plenty of memories tainted.

 

[Edge_Orchestra]

Way late to the thread, but to answer Romi, it's not that you say that at least they aren't a friend, it's that you don't have to break up twice. It's pretty much impossible to remain friends with someone after you've broken up. I'm sure it can happen, but I know of no real life examples.

As for whether it's harder for men or women, I don't really know. I find it difficult in LaLa land sometimes because well it's LA. I should really try the Online thing but have just never really pulled the trigger.

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I am still great friends with more of my former girlfriends than not. That is due to the fact that in most cases, we were both honest enough to realize that we might not be the best for one another as part of a "couple" but we are great enough to be a friends.

And in those cases, whether we were friends before the relationship or not, we were both honest, caring and put the effort into being not just a couple but great friends too. Who wouldn't want to date or be married to someone that they felt that kinship with? I think it's great when you can build a solid relationship like that.

Are there some you can't be friends with? Yes. Those that are filthy, lying, backstabbing, * censored * cheaters? Yeah. Those I can see dismissing from one's life.

Obviously that hurts one to that degree and/or there is that level of dishonesty... they aren't worth spit anyway.

Not all breakups are bad. Not all breakups have to be bad. And as long as both are fair, honest and mature... you can remain friends and in some cases that I have expreienced, very good friends.

 

[romi]

I am still great friends with more of my girlfriends than not. But that is due to the fact that in most cases, we were both honest enough to realize that we might not be the best for one another as part of a "couple" but we are great enough to be a friends. Obviously someone that hurts one to that degree and/or there is that level of dishonesty... they aren't worth spit anyway.

Are there some you can't be friends with? Yes. Those that are filthy, lying, backstabbing, * censored * cheaters? Yeah. Those I can see dismissing from one's life.

Not all breakups are bad. Not all breakups have to be bad. And as long as both are fair, honest and mature... you can remain friends and in some cases that I have expreienced, very good friends.

this.

I'm actually still casual friends with two of my exes.

 

[Edge_Orchestra]

I suppose there is no perfect answer for all. Maybe it is a case by case basis?

 

[coolian2]

I suppose there is no perfect answer for all. Maybe it is a case by case basis?

that's pretty obvious, i'd have thought.

 

[ryancoke71]

It is! It depends on the personalities involved!

 

[Edge_Orchestra]

that's pretty obvious, i'd have thought.

 

[coolian2]

and if you're going to take a general statement personally....

 

[kafrun]

and if you're going to take a general statement personally....

Except that the statement was made in a direct quote of his post, so one might take it personally.

 

[coolian2]

Except that the statement was made in a direct quote of his post, so one might take it personally.

one might, but whatever.

 

[kafrun]

lol, good point?

 

[coolian2]

lol, good point?

i have no idea, lol. i had a line about how people shouldn't rush to always take everything personally on the internet, but i can't find a way to deliver it where it won't read like i'm getting enraged and taking shit personally on the internet.

slight credibility fail.

 

[kafrun]

People shouldn't rush to take everything personally on the internet, certainly. People also shouldn't rush to make posts in a snide tone that they're well-aware will be taken as such and then hide behind the ol' "Oh, simmer down, you're not really getting upset over something on the internet are you?" line.

 

[coolian2]

People shouldn't rush to take everything personally on the internet, certainly. People also shouldn't rush to make posts in a snide tone that they're well-aware will be taken as such and then hide behind the ol' "Oh, simmer down, you're not really getting upset over something on the internet are you?" line.

oh, you were reading my mind?

 

[kafrun]

oh, you were reading my mind?

No, just your post. But whatever, as you said.

 

[coolian2]

People also shouldn't rush to make posts in a snide tone that they're well-aware will be taken as such

No, just your post. But whatever, as you said.

indeed, indeed.



aaaaand back on the ranch...

 

[kafrun]

Like attracts like?

I don't know this ranch of which you speak, but I'm glad you found your happy place

 

[coolian2]

Like attracts like?

I don't know this ranch of which you speak, but I'm glad you found your happy place

it's a place where we stop giving interference free entertainment with an irrelevant and way too peaceful argument

 

[kafrun]

But I like giving free entertainment.


Ok, later. Until we meet again, good sir.

 

[BoMac]

Worst fight ever.

 

[Galeongirl]

Needs more wet t-shirts. And mud.

 

[MrsSpringsteen]

It's not easier for anyone-and no, it's not rare for a woman not to be asked out. Especially the older you get when you can start to feel invisible. So that's just not true, sorry.

I hate the idea of "dating" honestly..I would just like to know guys who I can be myself with and not have to play any games or put on any airs or be in phony forced uncomfortable situations. And just be real and real caring friends with each other.

If you take an emotional risk and put yourself out there and it doesn't work out-yes it hurts but ultimately it's a learning experience. The most important person you have to have a relationship first with is with yourself.

I'd much rather be lonely "without" someone than be lonely because I can't be comfortable being alone. Honestly I love than I can be.

 

[kafrun]

Worst fight ever.

Jealous.

Needs more wet t-shirts. And mud.

We're saving that for the pay-per-view event. It's going to be seksy.

 

[BoMac]

Jealous.

You give yourself too much credit.

 

[kafrun]

You give yourself too much credit.

You give yourself too much.. SHUT UP.

 

[RedRocksU2]

worst fight ever.

+1

 

[U2387]

Once upon a time in pages 1-11, this was a really good thread.

 

[kafrun]

Once upon a time in pages 1-11, this was a really good thread.

Welcome to all threads on Interference.

 

[Purplereign]

Once upon a time in pages 1-11, this was a really good thread.

oh , it's still a good thread . . . just with no mud or wet tshirts

 

[UberBeaver]

God short people are so easily agitated. They should get a fuse longer than their legs for a change!

But they're so cute and tiny and loveable just as they are! I like to pick them up and run through fields and then bring them to happy places with big rubber bouncy castles and watch them jump and jump on their little stumpy cute legs. A fuse would get in the way. WTF?