AttnKleinkind
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Hey everyone! I have a unique problem...So my boyfriend of two years' mom is getting married, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. This is strange for a few reasons. First of all, my boyfriend hardly has a relationship with his mom...he moved out when when he was *very* young, they only talk really on birthdays, and even then, they don't really have a lot to talk about. I've met his mom once, at my boyfriend's sister's baby shower...we talked a bit, but no major bonding or anything. I was asked to be a bridesmaid through his sister, partly because of language issues (she primarily speaks Spanish) and I guess partly because she doesn't know me very well. I asked if I could think about it, and she said that was okay. I've been thinking about it, and I have *no* idea what to do! I guess I just feel really weird about it since I don't really know her very well, I would sort of feel like I would be intruding, or out of place there. I could understand more if I was married or engaged to my boyfriend, but we're just dating (although it's pretty serious).
I can't figure out if it would be more awkward if I did it, or more rude if I didn't. I mean, I think I want to...but it would still feel weird. And it could be a really nice thing to do for his mom, if she wants me to do it. But...I've met her only once! My boyfriend says he has absolutely no opinion, which is frustrating. I've thought about talking to his sister about it, but I don't want to sound like I've made a decision to not do it, because I would be willing to do it...I guess I just want her opinion on it? Or maybe more background as to why her mom wants me to be a bridesmaid? But I feel it would be rude to bring it up with her.
After writing this, I feel like maybe I'm just caring too much about what other people would think of it. Also, part of me is paranoid that it's an "unvitation" type of thing...like she's asking me to do it but expecting me to say no. But it's such a random request, I should probably just take it at face value, I think.
Any opinions/advice would be appreciated!
I can't figure out if it would be more awkward if I did it, or more rude if I didn't. I mean, I think I want to...but it would still feel weird. And it could be a really nice thing to do for his mom, if she wants me to do it. But...I've met her only once! My boyfriend says he has absolutely no opinion, which is frustrating. I've thought about talking to his sister about it, but I don't want to sound like I've made a decision to not do it, because I would be willing to do it...I guess I just want her opinion on it? Or maybe more background as to why her mom wants me to be a bridesmaid? But I feel it would be rude to bring it up with her.
After writing this, I feel like maybe I'm just caring too much about what other people would think of it. Also, part of me is paranoid that it's an "unvitation" type of thing...like she's asking me to do it but expecting me to say no. But it's such a random request, I should probably just take it at face value, I think.
Any opinions/advice would be appreciated!