AvsGirl41
New Yorker
I told my sister I'd post this one for her so she could have a wide consensus of answers.
She met a guy at a club, very good looking, very charming. He is new in town, having moved here from Chicago. (More on that later.) They hit it off, exchanged numbers and shockingly, he called her a few days later. He took her to a few movies, they hung out and we all thought he really liked her--he brought her candy, he was always calling, "Oh, we've got to spend time together." She persuaded him to join MySpace.
Well, he went to Arizona for a week or so over Thanksgiving break and when he came back, he had a new blonde (who's practically a clone of my sister) on his MySpace friends list who kept posting flirty comments, and he to her. She later found out from his friend he'd been seen making out with her at the club.
And he was fairly distant from Sarah, who figured he'd hooked up with this blonde. Then abruptly, he starts up with Sarah again, only to announce they should just be friends.
Fast forward to New Year's Eve, and he's back in town from Chicago and stops by our house at 11:00pm to watch hours of movies with Sarah and ends up staying over on the couch. He goes home, goes out to a club where he picks up a girl named Jen. AND he meets up with one of my sister's friends, Sarah #2, and these three party all night long and he ends up taking these two girls, both of whom are drunk, back to his place. He starts coming on to Sarah #2, and then insists they all spend the night and that Jen share his bed with him. But get this...he doesn't sleep with her or even make out with her and the next day, says "Why does she think I like her?" Jen is totally crushed, having learned he is now into Sarah #2.
Here's the part all of us chicks are trying to figure out. There are now four, possibly more girls that he has basically thrown a line to, gotten them to totally fall for him and then drifts off. He never actually gets physical with any of them, beyond making out with the girl from Arizona.
HE claims it's because he "lives in the moment, for the moment, totally for passion." But that's hardly a passionate life, it simply seems like...indecision. He also claims its because he's focused on school, but he's out partying and drinking every night. Now, no one knows why he left Chicago. He claims he wanted a change, but it's very strange and Sarah says she thinks he was running from something. He comes from a staunchly Catholic family, and she assumed it was family related, but not sure.
The opinions vary from that he's afraid of commitment to that he wants to sleep with them, but his conscience gets in the way.
My gut says there's something he's hiding--he left some kind of mess back in Chicago and that he either has a sexually transmitted disease, or that he's gay and trying to convince himself he's not due to his family. I just can't believe a handsome, 23 year old guy, who knows his charm and effect on women, has enough of a moral conscience not to sleep with the girls he's happily led on.
So, what do YOU all think?? Has anyone else encountered a player who couldn't get in the game?
She met a guy at a club, very good looking, very charming. He is new in town, having moved here from Chicago. (More on that later.) They hit it off, exchanged numbers and shockingly, he called her a few days later. He took her to a few movies, they hung out and we all thought he really liked her--he brought her candy, he was always calling, "Oh, we've got to spend time together." She persuaded him to join MySpace.
Well, he went to Arizona for a week or so over Thanksgiving break and when he came back, he had a new blonde (who's practically a clone of my sister) on his MySpace friends list who kept posting flirty comments, and he to her. She later found out from his friend he'd been seen making out with her at the club.
And he was fairly distant from Sarah, who figured he'd hooked up with this blonde. Then abruptly, he starts up with Sarah again, only to announce they should just be friends.
Fast forward to New Year's Eve, and he's back in town from Chicago and stops by our house at 11:00pm to watch hours of movies with Sarah and ends up staying over on the couch. He goes home, goes out to a club where he picks up a girl named Jen. AND he meets up with one of my sister's friends, Sarah #2, and these three party all night long and he ends up taking these two girls, both of whom are drunk, back to his place. He starts coming on to Sarah #2, and then insists they all spend the night and that Jen share his bed with him. But get this...he doesn't sleep with her or even make out with her and the next day, says "Why does she think I like her?" Jen is totally crushed, having learned he is now into Sarah #2.
Here's the part all of us chicks are trying to figure out. There are now four, possibly more girls that he has basically thrown a line to, gotten them to totally fall for him and then drifts off. He never actually gets physical with any of them, beyond making out with the girl from Arizona.
HE claims it's because he "lives in the moment, for the moment, totally for passion." But that's hardly a passionate life, it simply seems like...indecision. He also claims its because he's focused on school, but he's out partying and drinking every night. Now, no one knows why he left Chicago. He claims he wanted a change, but it's very strange and Sarah says she thinks he was running from something. He comes from a staunchly Catholic family, and she assumed it was family related, but not sure.
The opinions vary from that he's afraid of commitment to that he wants to sleep with them, but his conscience gets in the way.
My gut says there's something he's hiding--he left some kind of mess back in Chicago and that he either has a sexually transmitted disease, or that he's gay and trying to convince himself he's not due to his family. I just can't believe a handsome, 23 year old guy, who knows his charm and effect on women, has enough of a moral conscience not to sleep with the girls he's happily led on.
So, what do YOU all think?? Has anyone else encountered a player who couldn't get in the game?