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Old 05-30-2012, 09:01 PM   #21
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I don't think I'm even all that familiar with 'Rules of Attraction'. It rings a bit of a bell, but I've never seen it at all.

Yeah, the only time I've ever seen a Porsche is if it's passing me on the highway. My family sure as hell never had that kind of money.

I've only done one year of community college, but even if I did go to a regular state university, I wouldn't have had that kind of crazy experience, either. I'm a very indoorsy person, have my small group of friends and that's that, I'm not one who drinks regularly, I've never done drugs and have no interest in them, and I'm not one who'd date tons of guys. Oh, I'd go to a party here and there, sure, if I knew everyone there well enough, and I'd go out to a bar on occasion or go dancing with friends. But I'm not a "WOO! Wild and crazy party!" girl by any means.
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:46 PM   #22
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Having gone to a school nicknamed the University of Spoiled Children I certainly have seen my share of students in luxury cars, though mostly BMWs as opposed to Porsches. That said even at my very expensive private school the majority of the students were middle class, with scholarships and loans. My college experience was nothing like the Rules of Engagement. It was however much like that of the young woman who wrote that beautiful article.

The transition out of school was hard for me because I am a bit shy and my school friends mostly left the area. I went from being surrounded by friends with there always being something to do to spending nights alone. It was hard.
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Old 05-31-2012, 12:26 AM   #23
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There are two kinds of people in college: jocks and nerds. As a jock, it's Financeguy's job to give nerds a hard time.
This seems more reminiscent of high school rather than college, no?
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Old 05-31-2012, 09:08 AM   #24
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I don't see how anyone can just get drunk and party in college, with the obscene amount of money it costs. Isn't that like an f you to your parents, if they're paying for it? And either way it's ultimately just an f you to yourself.

All I did during college was study and work, and the cost of mine was not as obscene as it is now. I could have never done that, I guess I was just too responsible I don't drink anyway and I didn't back then either.
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That is a great article. I was a bit of a nerd in college and the only groups I was ever a part of were the Computer Science group (a bunch of CS majors would get together and do projects/have dinner 1-2 times a week) and web monkeys (which was a school club responsible for web design and other projects for the school, I became the head of that club my senior year and taught the freshman about code). I went to a few parties (maybe one a year?) but mostly I didn't do any of the crazy stuff most people did in college. I graduated a semester early and got a job very far away from home where I did not know anybody.

It was rough, and I spent the first six months out at my new job never really leaving my apartment. I did eventually make new friends, though no where near the community I had in college. On one hand I do miss it but on the other hand I know myself a lot more than I did in school and I am much more secure in who I am and what I want in life. I've made some friends that I'm sure I will have for decades and even retained a few lifelong friends from school.

I remember feeling really lonely for that first year out of school, though, and making a lot of stupid decisions because of that. College was a fantastic experience for me. I can't say I'd go back because of how great my life is now, but I do look back fondly on it. Really great article.
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I don't see how anyone can just get drunk and party in college, with the obscene amount of money it costs. Isn't that like an f you to your parents, if they're paying for it? And either way it's ultimately just an f you to yourself.

All I did during college was study and work, and the cost of mine was not as obscene as it is now. I could have never done that, I guess I was just too responsible I don't drink anyway and I didn't back then either.
Work hard and play harder.

I think people who are straight edge just don't get it, honestly.
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Old 05-31-2012, 01:23 PM   #27
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Work hard and play harder.

I think people who are straight edge just don't get it, honestly.
This. And there's nothing more abrasive than these straight edge clowns
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Well, you get drunk on really cheap beer. That's how you do it.

I knew many people in college who partied hard, and partied often. And they also studied very hard, and got a darned good education.
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I really just cut sleep out of the equation to make it work. I have good grades and party on.
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I really just cut sleep out of the equation to make it work. I have good grades and party on.
Oh to have that youth back. Enjoy it!

At 32, I can't do that anymore without feeling like death the next day.
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I knew many people in college who partied hard, and partied often. And they also studied very hard, and got a darned good education.

yes. and sports/activities could easily take up 20+ hours a week. you studied sunday night through thursday night. weekends were shaking off the hangover and then studying until 7pm and then going out.

again: i loved college.

these days, hangovers are very rare because they simply aren't worth it.
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Old 05-31-2012, 04:40 PM   #32
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I was never one for partying or drinking but I don't look down on it or anything. I honestly just don't see the appeal.

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You sound like (most likely a much younger version of) me. I had to look up what INTP is. I commuted all four years of college, I had to work part time and I knew that dorm life wasn't for me. My parents couldn't afford it anyway, and my debt would have been much bigger. I still enjoyed college, because I felt so insignificant and uncomfortable in high school and much more free and comfortable in college.

The older I get the more comfortable I am with being alone and (sometimes) lonely. That's probably not a good thing, but in some ways it is. I know people who just cannot be alone, and they make very poor choices as a result. And sometimes the loneliest people are surrounded by all kinds of people and friends. I take baby steps, sometimes they work out well and sometimes they're a disaster. Disaster makes me retreat and protect myself-but now it's just not the end of the world for me, not by a long shot. I can shrug it off much easier and the hurt doesn't last as long. I think it's great to get to that point, no matter how long it takes.
I don't mind being alone and it doesn't bother me, but I do wish I had an interconnected group of friends. Not being involved in college got in the way of making those "friends for life" kind of people. I know exactly what you're saying though and I can relate to that. I have to move my relationships in itty bitty steps because I'm far more cautious about it than most.
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Oh to have that youth back. Enjoy it!

At 32, I can't do that anymore without feeling like death the next day.
Don't be blaming 32!
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everything changes when you hit 33, guys. dont say i didn't warn you.
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Old 05-31-2012, 04:51 PM   #35
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Dont you say that
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The funny things from the internet thread will just be a series of Dilbert strips once Jive turns 33.
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everything changes when you hit 33, guys. dont say i didn't warn you.
It's actually kind of true. I turned 34 two months ago, and find I can tolerate less and less with each passing day.
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35 was my tipping point. Once I hit 35, I had my first ever bout of bronchitis, and my first (teeny, tiny) cavity.

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everything changes when you hit 33, guys. dont say i didn't warn you.


thanks for the warning
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Yeah, they want their money back!

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