The Even Gayer than the Gay thread

[deep]

also, gay marriage is officially over, it no long exist,

RIP gay marriage, same sex marriage, etc

[Lancemc]

I have to say, this event has really brought a lot of pedants out of the woodwork, mostly Christians, and that shit drives me nuts. But I've been pleasantly surprised by pretty much all the posts in this thread. Glad to be able to celebrate among decent people.

[Hewson]

Originally Posted by martha

Wait, there really is a gay anthem?!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CS9OO0S5w2k

[martha]

Oh that construction worker.

 

One of the many clues I was straight.

[Galeongirl]

Originally Posted by iron yuppie

I'll say this about civil unions: I really wish a federal version were available so that an option for a binding relationship existed in purely secular terms. As someone considering making that type of commitment, I would strongly prefer it not to be mired in thousands of years of social and religious context that I find distasteful at best. I have to imagine there are gay people who feel the same way.

I don't see marriage as something christian. It's marriage, it's for the law and brings many benefits. The rest has a purely symbolic meaning.

[Irvine511]

Originally Posted by martha

Wait, there really is a gay anthem?!

this is kind of tongue-in-cheek, but also kind of true.

if i had to nominate a "gay anthem" it would be this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eH3giaIzONA

why?

1. it's a perfect piece of pure pop joy
2. it's by a woman
3. it's by a woman of color -- double outsider
4. the "somebody" is ambiguous enough to be a man or a woman
5. it's about the simple but universal longing of wanting to make a connection with someone, for a night or a lifetime
6. it's effortless and not trying to be an anthem -- i think "born this way" is fine, but it's such a self-conscious attempt; here, Whit isn't trying too hard to do anything but transport you for 3 and a half minutes
7. in any gay bar or any gay club in nearly any country in the world, everyone sings along

[martha]

It is a great song, sung wonderfully.

[Galeongirl]

We have a gay anthem here, but it's a Dutch artist so you probably haven't heard of her. I don't actually know why this is the anthem, it just is. Gets played a lot during Gay Pride week. Must be them dance moves!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTBUGSQg08A

[Irvine511]

some interesting articles on what is being lost as gay goes mainstream, with excerpts:

That said, I do find myself worrying about the aftermath of an affirmative decision from the justices—but my anxieties don’t concern the decline of the righteous American empire. Instead, they’re about what the solidly established right to marriage might do to queer people and to the unique community we’ve created over the past century or so. To be sure, marriage equality is, on balance, a great good for us in all kinds of ways, both material and spiritual; but it may also have, yes, some unintended consequences that aren’t so positive.

To begin, I have a sneaking suspicion that the freedom to marry may quickly become the coercion to marry, both from outside and within the community. If marriage equality becomes the law of the land, many states and businesses may decide to do away with any domestic partnership-type arrangements that came before, forcing couples who might not otherwise want to marry to get with the program. Some of these couples will find this uncomfortable for ideological reasons—many folks, especially on the radical queer end of the spectrum, still find the institution off-putting. But as the Human Rights Campaign pointed out in a recent press release imploring the business community to retain the option, others may wish to maintain domestic partnerships because getting married would effectively “out” them to their communities, putting their jobs and safety at risk in areas lacking LGBT discrimination protections. To paraphrase Foucault, visibility can often be the trickiest of traps.

There’s also the question of marriage becoming a mark of “success” or “seriousness” among queer people—a hierarchical framing that has long plagued the straight world. In the past, being single, being partnered but open, having a community of lovers, or being monogamously devoted to one person for life were all legitimate options in the queer community, mainly because there was no arbitrary endgame like marriage. Because young gays and lesbians did not grow up with marriage as a realistic “goal” (nor with the pressure of family expectations), they were able to imagine and discover many other romantic ways of being. That may well end, or at least lessen in prevalence, and from where I sit, it would be a loss.

On the activism front, it’s hard not to wonder if, in the wake of a win at the court, a certain class of queer—wealthier white gay men in particular—might not jump from the LGBTQ ship into the mainstream as quickly as possible. In my recent long-form piece on the state of gay identity, “What Was Gay?,” scholar Mary Gray described this group as being “one layer away from full citizenship,” the layer being the social respectability and wealth consolidation mechanism that marriage affords. Once these men (or mostly men) have passed this final hurdle, the thinking goes, they may be much less likely to feel any affinity with the queer folks still struggling behind them—often for sorts of inclusion connected to gender and racial justice that are much more threatening to the status quo than marriage ever was. This potential exodus would mean not only an increase in the rolls of the Log Cabin Republicans, but also a major shake-up in the financial and organizational makeup of mainline LGBTQ activism, which has long been defined, for better or for worse, by the money and efforts of such men. To be sure, a recalibration could be healthy—but it won’t be easy.

Some “unintended consequences” of marriage equality worth taking seriously.

“What do gay men have in common when they don’t have oppression?” asked Andrew Sullivan, one of the intellectual architects of the marriage movement. “I don’t know the answer to that yet.”

John Waters, the film director and patron saint of the American marginal, warned graduates to heed the shift in a recent commencement speech at the Rhode Island School of Design. “Refuse to isolate yourself. Separatism is for losers,” he said, adding, “Gay is not enough anymore.”

No one is arguing that prejudice has come close to disappearing, especially outside major American cities, as waves of hate crimes, suicides by gay teenagers and workplace discrimination attest. Far from everyone agrees that marriage rights are the apotheosis of liberation. But even many who raced to the altar say they feel loss amid the celebrations, a bittersweet sense that there was something valuable about the creativity and grit with which gay people responded to stigma and persecution.

For decades, they built sanctuaries of their own: neighborhoods and vacation retreats where they could escape after workdays in the closet; bookstores where young people could find their true selves and one another. Symbols like the rainbow flag expressed joy and collective defiance, a response to disapproving families, laws that could lead to arrests for having sex and the presumption that to be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender was shameful.

Lisa Kron, who wrote the book and lyrics for "Fun Home," which features a young lesbian girl. “The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay,” Ms. Kron said. Credit Walter

“The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay,” said Lisa Kron, who wrote the book and lyrics for “Fun Home,” a Broadway musical with a showstopping number sung by a young girl captivated by her first glimpse of a butch woman. “Because the traditional paths were closed, there was a consciousness to our lives, a necessary invention to the way we were going to celebrate and mark family and mark connection. That felt magical and beautiful.”

Ms. Kron is 54, and her sentiments seem to resonate among gay people of her generation and older. “People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” said Eric Marcus, 56, the author of “Making Gay History.”

“There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community,” Mr. Marcus said. But he warned against too much nostalgia. The most vocal gay rights activists may have celebrated being outsiders, but the vast majority of gay people just wanted “what everyone else had,” he said — the ability to fall in love, have families, pursue their careers and “just live their lives.”

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/27/us...y-culture.html

[deep]

Originally Posted by Irvine511

this is kind of tongue-in-cheek, but also kind of true.

if i had to nominate a "gay anthem" it would be this:

why?

1. it's a perfect piece of pure pop joy
2. it's by a woman
3. it's by a woman of color -- double outsider
4. the "somebody" is ambiguous enough to be a man or a woman
5. it's about the simple but universal longing of wanting to make a connection with someone, for a night or a lifetime
6. it's effortless and not trying to be an anthem -- i think "born this way" is fine, but it's such a self-conscious attempt; here, Whit isn't trying too hard to do anything but transport you for 3 and a half minutes
7. in any gay bar or any gay club in nearly any country in the world, everyone sings along

true

also anything disco is gay

[deep]

this is really nothing


and everything


Nothing, because what is different, 37 states had marriage for all last week and the sky was not falling. In CA where I live Prop 8 divided the state, marital traditionalists, believed society would collapse with marriage for all. Well, we've had it for some time and life goes on as mundane as ever. So the remainder of the country will see that the many old testament plagues expected will not materialize. Wearing two sweaters to be ready for the rapture will get tiresome after awhile



This is everything, because the world of perception is the world we live in.
The marital traditionalists can no long fool themselves that their perception is the real world. They will have to awaken form their dream within a dream of their (inception) dreams.

[nbelcik]

Originally Posted by corianderstem

Hell, take Mary Lambert's song. (She's the one singing the nice parts of the song. i.e., anything not by Macklemore.) It's gorgeous, and she's actually gay, not some dude who's like "I thought I was gay in third grade because I liked to keep my room neat" or whatever.

I might be the only Seattleite who finds Macklemore insufferable. (Although the Thrift Shop song is fun.)

I'm glad that most of my fellow millennial's that I know have turned against him because he is straight up terrible. And the fact that he has to say in the song that he isn't gay is just awful. It's a homophobic line wrapped up in a song that wants to be anti-homophobic.


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[Irvine511]

Honestly, I appreciated the gesture.

[deep]

Jesus
ok, I admit I have never heard the song of seen any videos of it

so I looked it up expecting it to be a bit, well crappy
and this is it ??

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlVBg7_08n0

anybody taking a swing on this guy has lost all perspective
this guy addresses issues, many that needed to be addressed head on

hip hop gay issues, the black church and gays, etc.

the guy deserves full credit

[martha]

But the song sucks.

[nbelcik]

Originally Posted by martha

But the song sucks.

Bingo. Now we're getting to the real issue.


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[trojanchick99]

Originally Posted by deep

Jesus
ok, I admit I have never heard the song of seen any videos of it

so I looked it up expecting it to be a bit, well crappy
and this is it ??

anybody taking a swing on this guy has lost all perspective
this guy addresses issues, many that needed to be addressed head on

hip hop gay issues, the black church and gays, etc.

the guy deserves full credit

I don't even know why I'm responding, but you honestly don't see an issue with a straight white man winning a shit ton of acclaim/awards off of a crappy hip hop song that clumsily addresses LBGT issues? Really?


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[Irvine511]

Originally Posted by trojanchick99

I don't even know why I'm responding, but you honestly don't see an issue with a straight white man winning a shit ton of acclaim/awards off of a crappy hip hop song that clumsily addresses LBGT issues? Really?


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Black people have been putting up with this kind of thing for decades.

[bono_212]

I find the song extremely sincere .

He cops so much shit for trying to speak up for issues he cares about and it pisses me off, because so often people give artists crap for NOT speaking up when they have an audience to speak to. You can't have it both ways.

[deep]

Originally Posted by Irvine511

Black people have been putting up with this kind of thing for decades.

fight the posers
Fuck Elvis and the Beatles