This was published a few months ago in the Atlantic but articles about it keep popping up in different places and slightly different context so I re-read it and thought people here might find it interesting or have comments (don't we always?).
Full article: http://www.theatlanticwire.com/entertainment/2012/02/era-women-playing-dumb-has-ended/48618/
I think it's interesting but I do tend to agree with the last couple of paragraphs more. I don't think that there is a causation between higher education and a happy marriage, I just think that a lot of it has to do with those couples who marry later and therefore bias the sample a bit. They are older, more certain of what they want from life and from a mate, more established, etc so I am not surprised that the divorce rates among them are that much lower. I know from personal experience, as one half of a couple in their (very) early 30s, it is a much different situation when we get married than it was for some of my friends who did it 10 years ago. We go into it without debt, with all our respective degrees finished, established careers and high salaries, no real financial constraints (ok, well we aren't the 1% but we don't really lack for anything as far as comfortable living goes), having seen the world, together and separately and having gotten that sense of adventure, partying in young age and so on out of our systems, etc.
I really doubt that multiple degrees in and of themselves make it more likely that a woman will marry, and marry at her level, whatever that really means, because I see it in a lot of ways as also making things harder. For example, if you meet someone in your 30s, you are both already set in your ways, and much less likely to compromise than someone who is 18 or 20. You also have established lifestyles and patterns and so on. So I'm just not sure that I buy their primary hypothesis.
Full article: http://www.theatlanticwire.com/entertainment/2012/02/era-women-playing-dumb-has-ended/48618/
Women who fear they'll never find a husband because they're "too smart," "too well educated," "intimidating," or "too successful" should stop being afraid—in fact, we'd argue they shouldn't have been afraid in the first place. Stephanie Coontz, author of A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s, writes in the New York Times that the commonly held belief that well-educated women have a harder time with marital prospects -- not only because men might consider such women "too smart," but also because the pool of better-educated men to cull from was so small -- is no longer a valid cultural reality. Coontz writes, "That may have been the case in the past, but no longer. For a woman seeking a satisfying relationship as well as a secure economic future, there has never been a better time to be or become highly educated."
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Educated women have experienced less of the marriage slip that's occurred as overall rates have fallen, and educated women are less likely to divorce, even as they marry later. "As a result, by age 30, and especially at ages 35 and 40, college-educated women are significantly more likely to be married than any other group." The icing on the cake: If they don't marry, they'll still statistically, by and large, live longer and healthier lives than their less-educated sisters.
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Instead of "marrying up" or "marrying down," then -- gross terms, really -- maybe we're simply, suddenly, marrying people who pair well with our individual wants and needs, or who complete an overall marital unit, each bringing something to the table as opposed to simply fulfilling desires for a mate that have been societally prescribed. Which would be progress, certainly.
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But maybe this is a natural consequence of a society that's marrying later, thereby losing some of the innocence and unrealistic expectations of, say, the 20-year-old bride or groom -- and gaining the things that come with marrying later, like independence, careers, and fully formed individual selves and opinions. As well as an understanding of who we really want to marry, should we decide to couple at all.
I think it's interesting but I do tend to agree with the last couple of paragraphs more. I don't think that there is a causation between higher education and a happy marriage, I just think that a lot of it has to do with those couples who marry later and therefore bias the sample a bit. They are older, more certain of what they want from life and from a mate, more established, etc so I am not surprised that the divorce rates among them are that much lower. I know from personal experience, as one half of a couple in their (very) early 30s, it is a much different situation when we get married than it was for some of my friends who did it 10 years ago. We go into it without debt, with all our respective degrees finished, established careers and high salaries, no real financial constraints (ok, well we aren't the 1% but we don't really lack for anything as far as comfortable living goes), having seen the world, together and separately and having gotten that sense of adventure, partying in young age and so on out of our systems, etc.
I really doubt that multiple degrees in and of themselves make it more likely that a woman will marry, and marry at her level, whatever that really means, because I see it in a lot of ways as also making things harder. For example, if you meet someone in your 30s, you are both already set in your ways, and much less likely to compromise than someone who is 18 or 20. You also have established lifestyles and patterns and so on. So I'm just not sure that I buy their primary hypothesis.