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You're really missing the point, and a part of me thinks you're doing so on purpose. I'm not talking about the boy who was already searching for porn, I'm talking about the boy or girl who was shown, or even told about, by other students. On one hand you pretend to know how middle schoolers are, and then on the other hand you pretend to have completely forgotten how middle schoolers act. It only takes one person finding out and the whole school knows.They really won't be affected by it all that much. For one, had they not been looking at porn on their own in the first place they never would have found her, and for another, just how traumatized do you honestly think they are? Porn is real sex, like it or not. It is two people engaging in intercourse on video camera. Is a lot of porn unrealistic? Sure. However I don't remember ever watching it and going "oh so this is what sex is? now I'm confused!" I distinctly remember my girlfriends and I giggling over porn back in 7th grade, watching some rather graphic stuff (very off-course, definitely not vanilla) and laughing at how weird that was and how if that was sex, we sure never wanted to do that.
I feel sorry for anyone who thinks porn is real sex. You have a girl in 6th or 7th grade who is just at the dawn of finding out what it's like to kiss a guy, the pressures and awkwardness of sex, and you want to tell her that gang bangs and facials are normal real sex?
So your father told you about someone you're suppose to look up to had once gotten paid to have sex and put it on video and that it's no big deal now?My father HAD that conversation with me. Was it awkward? Sure, but he was completely well poised about it. I have a 1st cousin whom, yes, I inform about things. I also have had the privilege of teaching a lesson in both a 5th grade sexual education classroom as well as a 9th grade special ed sex ed classroom answering a plethora of awkward questions. Bottom line I've had similar conversations with a lot of kids, and not just the sex talk, but talking about rumors in school, leaked naked photos, porn in general, etc.
Well now this is making sense. But I don't think you really believe this. Earlier you spoke about how teachers weren't role models and that this was her past. You spoke about it as if there was shame involved but that she should be given a second chance.There is nothing wrong with having sex for money. Everything "wrong" with it has been created by society and the fact that we're treating it like it's some sort of horrific thing is ridiculous.
The majority of psychologists who understand the mind of a developing child would completely disagree. Just like you said earlier, society helps shape our views about sex, this teacher would be a part of their intimate society. Psychologists would also disagree that the middle school mind is capable of just "feeling embarrassed and trying to forget" about something like this.I think that's what it boils down to though you could technically include other factors. A kid seeing another human being in the act, teacher or not, is not that traumatizing an experience. Even if they are surprised to find out that porn stars are real people, why would that make a difference? Good kids who stumbled across it on accident may feel embarrassed and try to forget about it, bad kids might go and watch it repeatedly but that's a parenting issue, and has nothing to do with the teacher.
Once again you're completely forgetting about how kids are that age. It only takes one to find it, and then the whole school knows. This is not an issue about kids seeing or knowing about porn, once you understand that you'll understand what some of us are talking about.Take some responsibility and watch what your kids are doing on the internet, for heaven's sake. Obviously you can't monitor them all the time but I find it hard to believe that there was nothing parents could do to stop eleven and twelve year old kids from watching pornography.