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Old 09-20-2012, 08:05 PM   #21
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have you seen this movie?







I've seen it more than once, and each time the father's behavior is despicable
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The image isn't showing up so I don't know what movie you're talking about.
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I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.

Are any of you parents?
I'm not, so maybe my mind will change when I get to be one.

My relationship with my dad has always been dysfunctional, so maybe that is what influences my viewpoint on this subject.
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I'm not, so maybe my mind will change when I get to be one.

My relationship with my dad has always been dysfunctional, so maybe that is what influences my viewpoint on this subject.
Mine too.

I might have felt the same, but now that I am parent if I had a daughter (I have a son and another on the way) I think I would enjoy that.

I didn't grow up in a culture of dancing though and can't dance at all myself, so maybe it's just something that I don't understand? Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
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I have not, but I just read about it on Wikipedia. What does this have to do with the Father-daughter dance? Oh wait, maybe you're just explaining your comment about the fathers checking out the daughters. . .
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I just find the concept of a school-related dance where parents are not only invited but encouraged to dance with their kids in front of their peers baffling. Or that there are kids (assuming teenagers) who would agree to this. I didn't put any sexual connotations with it.

The purity balls, however, are a whole 'nother ball of wax. And even then, it's not the dancing that's creepy about it.
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I have not, but I just read about it on Wikipedia. What does this have to do with the Father-daughter dance? Oh wait, maybe you're just explaining your comment about the fathers checking out the daughters. . .
Not being a parent, I am not heavily invested in this.
I do see more down sides than up sides. And yes if these are high school girls, some of the other dads could be distracted by. 17 year old girls, especially when some teens have no qualms about texting nude pictures of themselves.

There are plenty of things for parents to do in their opt in groups, such as churches, or other community, or club groups.

And then in these times of inclusiveness, a girl could have two mothers.

I am sure step-dads would not be excluded. A 17 year old could have a younger step-dad. He could be 25.

When I was in the 9th grade. A classmate was married to a 40 year old man. Her step-daughter was in two years older and on the cheer-leading squad with my sister.
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I got on just fine with my dad, but I don't recall us ever doing anything like this. I don't think the concept is creepy, though, personally-I can see where some would think that, but if it's simply a fun party situation for parents and children to bond in, then whatever, that's fine. I just can't imagine too many teenagers today jumping at the chance to do such an event. But I suppose there's some who like it, who knows.

But I definitely agree on the purity balls being creepy.
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Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
No, but simple dancing between parents and children may seem awkward to some. Also, parents may act silly, or silly according to teenagers who usually are embarrassed by their parents in public.
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The purity balls, however, are a whole 'nother ball of wax. And even then, it's not the dancing that's creepy about it.
I swear, when I hear term "purity balls" I either seethe with anger or want to take a quick shower immediately. It sounds so icky, and misogynistic as well.
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I have no idea what that is
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Be glad.

And it bears noting, before someone suggests I hate virgins ( ) - there is nothing wrong with a young woman wanting to remain a virgin until marriage. That's not the questionable part.
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Oh Jesus. I regret googling that.

Edit: O wow, I just found out one of my closest friends participated in one of these things...
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Oh dear.

I Googled it myself to make sure I wasn't remembering it incorrectly.

I wasn't.

Nothing like a ceremony putting a woman's worth on her virginity. And that it's all on her - no mention of the male half of the sex equation - it's all on her to remain pure! And if she slips, or changes her mind, she's broken her vow to her daddy! Ick.
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The parallels to a wedding are disconcerting, to say the least.
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I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.

Are any of you parents?
I'm a parent and I'm surprised too.
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I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.

Are any of you parents?
Fortunately not! (For both my sake and that of a hypothetical child.) Like I said, though, if I had a daughter, no way would I be caught dead dancing with her.

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I didn't grow up in a culture of dancing though and can't dance at all myself, so maybe it's just something that I don't understand? Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
cori got to this point before me, so I don't really have too much to add. I don't think dancing has to have a sexual connotation, but to me it's typically something you do with your peers. Now, I don't really dance, so I can't talk too much here. The only time you'll catch me dancing is at concerts, badly but enthusiastically, and that's an individual thing or moshing (and sweaty little bandrooms are a long way from what we're discussing here). I just know that if I were at some sort of formal dance event and saw a father dancing with his daughter or a mother dancing with her son, I'd find it very bizarre and awkward.

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Be glad.

And it bears noting, before someone suggests I hate virgins ( ) - there is nothing wrong with a young woman wanting to remain a virgin until marriage. That's not the questionable part.
Nothing wrong, per se, but something very strange, if you ask me (and I apply this equally to men).

Though yeah, that's not the questionable part.
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Are you a daughter?
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Nothing like a ceremony putting a woman's worth on her virginity. And that it's all on her - no mention of the male half of the sex equation - it's all on her to remain pure! And if she slips, or changes her mind, she's broken her vow to her daddy! Ick.
Exactly, where is the male equivalent, where the boys make a vow to mommy? Either way, it is icky that a child would do this. Its like their parents now own their bodies and sexuality.
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No, but I bet she is:

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I'm a parent and I'm surprised too.

My point was that from a parent's perspective, it might not seem so weird. That it might seem weird to the daughter (or son) is self-evident from the comments in the thread--I get that.
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