So are we saying that the whole idea that the average male sex drive is higher than the average female sex drive is entirely a social construct?
I have no idea of the answer, just throwing it out there for debate.
i think that the frequency with which men wish to have sex, and with a variety of sexual partners, is fairly hardwired, and we only have to look at the ease of male arousal and orgasm to find some evidence of that. i also think that, in general, most women tend to prefer one monogamous partner, and that sex for them is a more complex experience than arousal, friction, release.
when viewing gay relationships, there's an old joke that i think can be illuminating about gender differences: "What does a lesbian bring to a second date? A U-Haul. What does a gay man bring to a second date? What second date?"
however, this isn't to say that both genders, at different times and at different points in their lives, aren't drawn to behavior that's more stereotypical of the other general, and that's not to say that we can't regulate our sexual impulses with rational decision making.
and, my final point, is that i don't think that men necessarily want or enjoy sex more than women, as both terms are fairly subjective.
my guess is that proverbial tales of diminishing female libido are likely due to more social forces than biological ones.
but it's not like i'm out there testing this theory.
ultimately, what do i know? most of my female friends who are unmarried occasionally want a quick fuck but would rather be in a LTR, and most of my female friends who are married appear to have health sex lives with their husbands. this strikes me as entirely healthy.
To be honest I'm probably closer to your side than most. Not fully sex-only-within-marriage, but definitely sex-only-within-a-relationship (where both parties are interested in each other more than the sex). But that's really only something I set for myself, and don't really expect nor necessarily think that everyone else should be doing the same.
