MrsSpringsteen
Blue Crack Addict
There's something that happened last week that's been bothering me, I thought I'd get the opinions of the fine people here.
I was on the subway on the way home from the baseball game and these drunk college boys-and I will call them boys because they behaved just like boys (not even boys, because that insults and degrades kids)-were there. One in particular was saying these really immature and vile things, I won't and can't repeat them here. Some referred to homosexuality - not in a general way but in an extremely immature and crude personal way. They were also talking in a very crude way about body parts. When I say talking - not talking, they were yelling.
What's really been bothering me more than anything is the fact that I didn't say anything to them for their offensive rudeness. I did say out loud, but not loud enough-shut up you obnoxious a**hole. I'm disgusted w/ myself that I didn't confront the guy (he was standing right near me). But honestly I was afraid, being a female alone (well other than the other people on the train). I had no idea what stop they were getting off at. And dealing w/ a drunk is scary. Nobody else on the train said anything, including the older men who were there-I kept hoping at least one of them would say something like "keep quiet, you're offensive, there are kids on this train" or whatever. One guy who was 20 something told the guy to shut up, but I don't think he heard him, and the guy got off at the next stop.
Shouldn't I have spoken up, in spite of my fear? I think I definitely should have, and I'm ashamed of myself. At what point should you forget about your fears? We shouldn't just excuse it because they're drunk or whatever. And why are people afraid to stand up to people like that, and tell them to shut up and stop being such ignorant disgusting excuses for human beings? Doesn't silence of others implicitly condone this behavior?
I feel like apologizing to all gay people for the behavior of scum like that, I really do. I don't want this thread to become some other discussion of homosexuality, but I do have to wonder-if they had been making inferences about African Americans, Jewish people, or any other group in such an offensive way, would people be silent about that too?
Maybe another issue is why do some males of that age group behave the way they do? Shouldn't they be more mature than that?
I was on the subway on the way home from the baseball game and these drunk college boys-and I will call them boys because they behaved just like boys (not even boys, because that insults and degrades kids)-were there. One in particular was saying these really immature and vile things, I won't and can't repeat them here. Some referred to homosexuality - not in a general way but in an extremely immature and crude personal way. They were also talking in a very crude way about body parts. When I say talking - not talking, they were yelling.
What's really been bothering me more than anything is the fact that I didn't say anything to them for their offensive rudeness. I did say out loud, but not loud enough-shut up you obnoxious a**hole. I'm disgusted w/ myself that I didn't confront the guy (he was standing right near me). But honestly I was afraid, being a female alone (well other than the other people on the train). I had no idea what stop they were getting off at. And dealing w/ a drunk is scary. Nobody else on the train said anything, including the older men who were there-I kept hoping at least one of them would say something like "keep quiet, you're offensive, there are kids on this train" or whatever. One guy who was 20 something told the guy to shut up, but I don't think he heard him, and the guy got off at the next stop.
Shouldn't I have spoken up, in spite of my fear? I think I definitely should have, and I'm ashamed of myself. At what point should you forget about your fears? We shouldn't just excuse it because they're drunk or whatever. And why are people afraid to stand up to people like that, and tell them to shut up and stop being such ignorant disgusting excuses for human beings? Doesn't silence of others implicitly condone this behavior?
I feel like apologizing to all gay people for the behavior of scum like that, I really do. I don't want this thread to become some other discussion of homosexuality, but I do have to wonder-if they had been making inferences about African Americans, Jewish people, or any other group in such an offensive way, would people be silent about that too?
Maybe another issue is why do some males of that age group behave the way they do? Shouldn't they be more mature than that?