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Old 10-02-2002, 05:43 AM   #1
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why why why the f*k are there pple like this in the world? (weight issues)

Why? WHY? WHY FUCKING WHY WHY WHY – do some pple in this world feel the fuking need, the big furking need to, when ur feeling great about urself over anything, ie – new car, kittens, blah fuking blah, do they need, I mean really feel the need to critisize u if ur ‘thin or fat – skinny or gigantic’

WHY WHY WHY?

ya know, Ive said before about my natural skinniness and Ive said if u all think Im happy with it u are so fuking wrong, Id give anything to be a size 12 and those unfortunate say theyd like to be my size…..
yet I feel weight trainin will make me develop that ‘Geri Halliwell’ look.

but for fuk sake, if its genuingly some-fuking-thing that cannot be helped because it runs in the family, or takes a long time to develop………why do pple feel the need to comment?

Concern? Yes……

But do they give a shit about ur feelings on the matter? No

Im sorry, but these pple do bring me down, and make me feel like Im unacceptable to the world JUST because my body type isn’t right……………………….it drives me one step closer to suicide almost because…..as I said………it takes a good bit, good time before any weight comes on……and gawd bless anyone who is heavy and is critised more….I just so wanna hug them tight…….

I think the problem is Im not critical of anyone, I don’t give a shit about someones size, therefore don’t understand why pple out there do………..in an almost ‘concerned comment’ but don’t understand what pain they’ve inflicted on the person mentally.

Im sorry, I desperately had to vent cause one time a Director's wife made a comment, he approached me saying she wants to know if Im ok. Yes IM OK I have im-prooooooved........it just runs on my father's SI-IIIIIDE! (always having to explain to pple)

and then a manager said today ‘ You know, u are really really skinny’

Which made me just there and then want to run out in front of the next oncoming car……………..

Of course I WANT to prove them wrong, its just taking a reaaaaaaaaally long time…….its not happening fast…………..but Im so fed up, Im sure some of u out there are on the same track, and I don’t mean that rude……………….but I am sending a gigantic, warm cyber-hug out to u………(((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

I am NOT looking for any 'Im sorry mads' or sympathy, Im just venting...........and Im extra sorry to anyone whose fed up with these threads - there may be a few out there.

I just wish I knew ‘throw-back’ lines to shut their gobs!

Let me get on with my life, please!

*edited to say sorry, realized the boob I made and hopefully BC will merge it! *
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I get the exact opposite...."why can't you lose weight?" "you'd be really pretty if you lost a few pounds." Which is weird, because I am not obese....although I used to be thinner.....in fact about a year ago I ran into an old friend from school and she asked me when I was due (as in being pregnant). It made me want to cry, because I was not pregnant.....I was like "Um, I'm not pregnant just fat."

But if it makes you feel better, I'd kill to be a size 12 also.
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Old 10-02-2002, 08:20 AM   #3
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Re: why why why the f*k are there pple like this in the world? (weight issues)

Hello Mad,

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Why? WHY? WHY FUCKING WHY WHY WHY   ... WHY WHY WHY?
Why because they are (please put your favourite 4-letter word in here) intolerant.
They're only happy if you are like them. Why don't they care about your feelings? They are unable to see life from your perspective and feel the need to "help" the people - even if it dosn't help or help is unwanted.

Try to take these comments in a positive way (yeah - easier to say than to do, i know!).

1. They Care about you
2. They want to help you
(but they are unable to do that and they are unsensitive enough to realize that it hurts you)
Maybee you can catch them with a little humor and ask if they could cook for you - so they will still be unsensitive ***'s but at least you get free dinner
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Old 10-02-2002, 08:25 AM   #4
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hello Klaus


mate, , I know ur trying to put it into positivity but it dont quite work for me from a point of view that Im trying to help myself than have many pple round me commenting all the time........I mean, sure enough, comments like that can either make u depressed or make u determined, but IF like me, theres difficulty, it is hard to take it on board as the way u see it.....ya know? Plus this guy who said the 'really really skinny' thing actually has quite a big belly, and while tempted, I'd hardly turn round and say back to him 'Why really? And I bet you have to look in the mirror to find ur banana, right?'

for that would be worse and its not in my nature...........



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Daisybean , u poor baby....u must have felt very much hurt....
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Hi Mad, I remember flipping out, getting all bent out of shape about a thread about weight, but I won't do that in here.

Yeah, I can almost see where your coming from, even though I am overweight. I have some in my family who keeps making comments on my weight, saying "I would really kill with the looks if I only lost a few more pounds..." or "if I just started working out again, I could really get alot more dates." My mom isnt as bad as she used to be about my weight, but still hints at it once in a while. My grandmother, on the other hand, is brutal when it comes to my size. I can almost get a bit sensitive about my weight, and I almost want to cry everytime she comes over. I just learned to ignore her. Its funny, guys I go out with don't care about my size at all, they like the way I look yeah, go figure...

I'm not obese , but im not Kate Moss either. When I'm ready to work out again (for toning, and my health), its up to me, not my family, friends or anyone else for that matter. I am at the point right now where I can just tell my family to go take a flying leap if I hear one more comment about my weight.

I feel the only way to accept myself is to feel good about myself, and I am still working on that. I think thats the key. I don't know if I made any sense, but the only thing we can do is love ourselves for who we are, inside, and out. And if we love ourselves, we dont think or care about what other people say.



*edited cuz i forgot the last sentence
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Wake up! This is America! Fat = Ugly = Inferior.

Overweight and underweight people are second-class citizens. We don't really matter. It's not like we're actually people with feelings or anything.
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Hi Maddie,

I would venture a guess that most of these people are actually quite jealous, so putting you down and asking if there is something wrong with you makes them feel better about themselves.

Making comments about people's weight...it's so incredibly rude, I can't believe that people say these things.

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yeah but, I have had a few shit comments from men, like Darren commenting that my hair, (in its natural state of kinkiness), looke like I'd been standing in a windstorm - therefore that comment immediately made me feel i dont suit my hair in its own - NATURAL- state!!!!

and this was a guy who commented today Mrs Edge.......

I dunno, I just dont get it......any girls who say it to me, which is rare, say, 'ur so skinny, ur so lucky', I tell them straight I hate it..........but theres a girl in our company who is slightly large and says she cant get a man.......well she has a lovely personality and a very sweet adorable face and lovely eyes and I hope, fuking hope that she lands herself a very nice natured man who accepts her and wont be looking round at thinner, more gorgeous girls til he finds one...............she is really lovely........and I dont turn round and say 'Maybe u should lose some weight girl, if u want to pull' - no way! NoWAY am I like that...........



its just, we should all accept each other as each other is, where ......in fact, the whole world is so screwed up now...........and my mum keeps reminding me, insecure pple critisize...............but there really really REALLY is no need for it...............from male, female..............to male, female...........

its a nasty world that likes to 'hide the rejects' and 'bring out the beautiful' - ya know..

ugh!
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mads-- that sucks but the sad thing is that there are many more people you're size who aren't naturally like that. I have a friend who was anorexic not because she had a bad body image but because she WANTED people to ask her questions like "are you ok? you seem pretty skinny." so she could get attention. I was at her wedding last month after not seeing her for two years and she's skinnier. She told a friend of mine that she weighed less than 100 pounds because "the stress of the wedding" made her lose weight, which was a complete lie. Next time someone asks tell them "no, I'm naturally skinny and am not mentally unstable with a negative body image. thanks."

I'm glad I've got some love handles. Nothing wrong with it.
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Hi mad,

all i tried to say was the following - if the other's are wrong don't take their bs-talking serious.
Life is much too short to waste it with people who are sensitive as a rock

I'm allways surprised that people love to make nasty comments about most unimportant things (in my case mostly my haircut, some about my weight, some even about my car or my celphone).
I've never ever seen one making a negative comment about someone others personality - maybee because for fools like "them" (the ones who are responsible for silly comments) don't know what personality is at all.

So just ignore them or - if s.o. talks this way to you - smile, becaus you're happy that you're not that selfcentered or insensitive as them.

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now i have someone who cares for me no matter what i look like.

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*edited to say sorry, realized the boob I made and hopefully BC will merge it! *

bc can't move it she's not a mod here on top of that, it's a separate issue and deserves its own thread, so it stays here.



mooooving on.

(didjya check that cow pun, damn i'm funny)

when i was a sophomore in high school i tore the lasting ligaments off my ankle while playing in a game for junior olympic volleyball. i was very athletic, so i was used to eating like an athlete and not gaining weight (o, other than developing HUGE musles ) but when you can't walk and you *still* eat like an athelete, holy crap the pounds come rolling in. when i relearned to walk this guy took interest in me and we went out on a date. the following week, he sent me a note calling me a fat bitch with a big mouth who deserved nothing but the worst in my life. o, did i forget to mention the picture similar to this: he attached to the top? yep, my self esteem went SOARING after that.

last year i lost 42 pounds because i involved myself in studies so greatly and got sick for over a month.


i know what you mean maddie, any type of differentiation from normailty is shunned. that's just sick.


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I have given up on the whole issue of image thing. I am sick and tired of it. I have gained weight recently from slacking and not going to the gym. I just decided that I liked working out and that I would start working out again and that if I lost weight in the process woohoo yippy and so on. Of course a few days after I started I got this chest cold from hell that is about gone.


Well enough about me. I guess it is just a matter of image and blah blah blah blah of society and what is seen as "what looks good" in the Renaissance it was robust. Then there was the age of twiggy. It just depends on what society as a whole thinks. It sucks and but that is just the way it is.
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ghetto- i got that damn chest cold, too

Maddie,

So what, you are skinny.

You are PRETTY and SPUNKY. That is more important.
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It must be going around......damn chest colds arrrrg

Good pic.

you look like you could loose a couple of pounds..i kid i kid... just trying to keep it light people.
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Old 10-02-2002, 04:10 PM   #15
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I get the exact opposite...."why can't you lose weight?" "you'd be really pretty if you lost a few pounds." Which is weird, because I am not obese....although I used to be thinner.....
same here.

my grandmother has NO tact whatsoever. she was here for about four days last year over thanksgiving. at least TWICE she made really rude comments about my weight. i'm not some stupid fatass who needs to eat five big macs a day or anything, i eat like a normal person really, but unfortunately, i'd just rather want a burger and fries for dinner instead of like grilled chicken and roasted potatoes.

anyway, one time she asked me if i had ever considered taking metabolife. yes, she cares more about me getting skinny than me not developing heart problems. another time she asked me if i had tried slim-fast. i said yes, i have it for breakfast. condescendingly, she informed me i'm not supposed to EAT with it. no shit. my aunt (her daughter) is now disgustingly anorexic (she's about 5'8" and a size 0 she looks hideous) mainly due to her work. and my mom just gets all whenever she pulls that shit. luckily now, i have a husband who frankly doesn't care about my weight. he loves me the way i am.

anyway, maddie, i know what you mean about the first thing out of someone's mouth is your weight. it seems people are way too obsessed with looks. everyone's either too fat or too skinny. if you "gained a few pounds" like people suggest, then they'd start poking your side and go "hey, you could stand to lose a few pounds, eh?"
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