Irvine511 said:
sodomy is most certainly not illegal
Is that so, in every state now? I thought there were a few holding on for dear life
So let me get this straight, pardon the pun - you would assert that to be able to marry a man is an immutable part of being gay? That's absolutely as ridiculous as (what you believe to be) my assertion that poly marriage is an immutable part of being bisexual, and you know it.
(pardon graphic descriptions below, but I think we need to put this in a purely sexual context for a second)
What you are doing here is called splitting hairs. You're saying to the bisexual who wishes to be committed (and, for sake of context, sexually exclusive) to both of their partners 'hey bisexual girl, you have to make a choice, marry the guy, hell he can give you oral sex and well maybe it's not the same but hell, make that sacrifice' or 'hey bisexual guy, y'know, you have to make a choice - so every other Sunday, have the missus strap on a big rubber thing and ride you, it's not the same, I know, but you can make do'. That's basically what it amounts to, UNLESS you invite someone outside the relationship in, isn't it? And what do we do when the two of you fall in love with him, he doesn't want to go home and neither do you want him to, and y'all want to live happily ever after, committed / exclusive, etc etc?
Tell you what: I know two different gay guys who don't even have gay sex, they'd rather remain single/chaste/whatever. I know other gay guys who don't feel any special desire to be married to anyone. So I'm going to conclude that since not every single last gay has this burning genetic need to be "married" to the object of his desire, you don't need it either and it's not an "immutable part of your orientation". Therefore, I rule that you don't get to have gay marriage. You DO have a choice, you know. You can marry a woman, and still be gay. Gay guys can have great relationships with real meaningful emotional connection with women, of course they can, cmon! Society will love you, you won't be "illegal", and when you feel that hankering, well I'm sure the missus will oblige and give you a good ride or let you invite a boy toy in for the night, won't she?
How's that sound?