Irvine511
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acrobatique said:Bisexuality is not a cultural thing, it is an immutable characteristic as much as homosexuality is. Of course, you don't personally seem to believe that, and I find it highly ironic that as a gay person you would suspect that person before giving him the same benefit of the doubt that you rightly demand about your own identity.
then you've misread my posts. go back and take a look. i think that bisexuality is as immutable as any other sexual orientation.
[q]I'm not trying to pick a fight with you, but when you make assertions like 'most gay men will tell you..' - well frankly, that means little, because those same gay men clearly aren't bisexual, are they?[/q]
and many bisexual men eventually come all the way out and are gay men. i'm not saying this is right or wrong, and i've stated that this is anecdotal. but this has been my experience, and men tend to be more black and white in their sexual orientation than women tend to be.
this isn't good, bad, right, or wrong. human sexuality is a complex and beautiful thing. but i think it's incorrect to pretend that there aren't differences, and i think we do ourselves a disservice not to look at similarities and differences.
So you would be opposed to a bisexual person pursuing a legal marriage / life with the man and woman they love?
no, not really. i'm quite opposed to the sexual exploitation of women by one powerful, cultish man, and i'm opposed to the marrying off of teenaged girls to this one powerful, cultish man. but we both agree upon that.
if there are three adults in, say, Paramus, NJ who want to all be married to each other, i guess i don't care all that much. i don't think anyone is harmed, and i think solidifying bonds between people is better than rendering them asunder.
but this seems to me to miss what is the issue here. all three of these people -- unless they are all men or all women -- have an avenue into a marriage with the person of their choosing. there is a path for the bisexual to social equality. it might be different than the ideal, but it is available.
this does not exist, yet, for gay people.