so what kids are going to be better off:
those with a gay dad and a lesbian mom?
Well, they won't ever suffer the trauma of walking in on their parents doing it, so they've got that going for them.
so what kids are going to be better off:
those with a gay dad and a lesbian mom?
There's no getting around the self-stunting sadness of faking enthusiasm at marrying someone you could never love just to please your parents.
But that's basically what arranged marriage is, you know? I'm not trying to equivocate on there being hierarchies of advantage there, but by its very nature, it doesn't prioritize "what you really love to do."you can learn...to score, if not an A, at least a B+ on the exam
it doesn't prioritize "what you really love to do."
But that's basically what arranged marriage is, you know?
President Obama has instructed the Justice Department to no longer defend the Constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, the legal prohibition on federal recognition of same-sex marriages.
Attorney General Eric Holder said in a statement that the Department will stop defending the policy because it has now been challenged in the Second Circuit, "which has no established or binding standard for how laws concerning sexual orientation should be treated."
"After careful consideration, including a review of my recommendation, the President has concluded that given a number of factors, including a documented history of discrimination, classifications based on sexual orientation should be subject to a more heightened standard of scrutiny," he said. "The President has also concluded that Section 3 of DOMA, as applied to legally married same-sex couples, fails to meet that standard and is therefore unconstitutional. Given that conclusion, the President has instructed the Department not to defend the statute in such cases. I fully concur with the President's determination."
Holder said that despite the decision, his department will "remain parties to the cases and continue to represent the interests of the United States throughout the litigation." He added that members of Congress can still elect to defend the statute and that Justice will "work closely with the courts to ensure that Congress has a full and fair opportunity to participate in pending litigation."
Still, the reversal is a major victory for gay rights advocates. After a district judge ruled in July that DOMA is unconstitutional, Justice announced it would appeal the ruling, arguing it has an obligation to defend all federal laws. That angered the gay rights community, which was quick to note President Obama's campaign promise to repeal the policy.
The administration stood by its position despite the criticism, filing a brief in January defending DOMA. The brief argued that DOMA "is supported by an interest in maintaining the status quo and uniformity on the federal level, and preserving room for the development of policy in the states."
A 2009 Justice Department brief defending DOMA caused particular anger in the gay community, in part for referencing a case involving "marriage of uncle to niece" to support maintaining the policy.
The change in policy comes roughly two months after Mr. Obama signed a bill allowing for the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy to be ended, a moment he cast as a move toward equality for all Americans. He has said twice in recent months that while he still opposes same-sex marriage, his position is "evolving."
DOMA mandates that the federal government not recognize same-sex marriages and that states not be forced to recognize same-sex marriages from other states.
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-503544_162-20035398-503544.html
Mike Huckabee denounced the Obama administration Wednesday for its decision to stop supporting the Defense of Marriage Act against challenges in court.
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Huckabee, who was traveling to Washington for much of the day and had not heard of the administration's decision before speaking with POLITICO, responded to the news: "It doesn't surprise me, but it disappoints me."
The Fox News host and ordained minister said President Barack Obama has sent out a "pretty consistent message" to voters who care about traditional cultural values.
And while Huckabee praised Obama for being a "role model as both a husband and a father," he voiced concern about the impact the White House's stance on DOMA would have on families.
"He's been a good husband and a good father," Huckabee told POLITICO. "Unfortunately, his policies are not necessarily conducive to helping other people, in their own families, to be good husbands and good fathers."
Huckabee was in the nation's capital to promote the release of his book, "A Simple Government," which argues that traditional families, with one husband and one wife, help promote economic stability.
In that light, Huckabee said DOMA is a law with important economic consequences.
"Two-thirds of the poverty in this country would be eliminated if the mothers of the children were married to the fathers," he said.
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"Two-thirds of the poverty in this country would be eliminated if the mothers of the children were married to the fathers," he said.
Uhm, maybe those mothers have good reasons not to be married to their children's fathers? Maybe those fathers walked out on their kids because they weren't man enough to take care of them? Maybe those mothers believe their lives are healthier and better without abusive men around? Hasn't Huckabee ever thought of those ideas?
Damn, Irvine. You really get around.
Uhm, maybe those mothers have good reasons not to be married to their children's fathers? Maybe those fathers walked out on their kids because they weren't man enough to take care of them? Maybe those mothers believe their lives are healthier and better without abusive men around? Hasn't Huckabee ever thought of those ideas?
"He's been a good husband and a good father," Huckabee told POLITICO. "Unfortunately, his policies are not necessarily conducive to helping other people, in their own families, to be good husbands and good fathers."
Um, for much of human history, hasn't that been grandma's job?
I think the notion of a nuclear family is rather mid- to late-20th century.
What?
The idea of a mother and father is a late development in history?
Edith Schlain Windsor, the plaintiff in the New York case, married another woman, the late Clara Spyer, in Canada in 2007, according to her complaint. While New York legally recognized their marriage, and afforded them the same protections as other married couples, the two women weren’t considered married under federal law, she said.
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The case claims that under U.S. tax law, the transfer of money and property doesn’t trigger any estate tax on a spouse who is widowed. Because of the Defense of Marriage Act, Windsor was forced to pay more than $350,000 in taxes that she wouldn’t have had to pay if her marriage to Spyer had been recognized under federal law, according to the complaint.
What?
The idea of a mother and father is a late development in history?
The only place that has consistently had a "traditional" family is 1950's clip art.
Yes, it's an incredibly important job to raise children, but who has done that throughout history has been different (and probably changed) in every culture. Grandmothers, grandfathers, great-grandmothers, aunts, siblings, neighbors and nannies have been just as responsible for raising children as mothers. The only "correct" structure is the one that is consistently there for the children. The only formula is caring and attention. There is no specific gender to it. There is no specific relation to it.
Just as conservatives who don't want gay people to marry should be railing against divorce within their own ranks, apparently they also should be railing against daycare. Heaven forbid someone other than mom raise the child.
according to a married friend i have, it's rather emotionally brutal too, to file taxes as "single" federally whereas she files as "married" in Massachusetts.
I maintain that a "nuclear" family structure is largely a late-20th century phenomenon.
Let me tell you, Jewish mothers do NOT wait for Dad to come home before laying down the law.
To be clear, the was in reference to the general tactic of "Just WAIT until your father gets home!", not your ascribing it to Jesus' mother, whose preferred disciplinary methods are really anyone's guess. But I actually do remember a friend's mother snapping that at her when I was a kid and my thinking, "What a weird, lame thing to say." It seemed like a way more hostile response than just punishing her on the spot--an "I hate having to put up with you, and can't wait to watch you squirm!" kind of thing. Maybe it was just the way she said it, but...you're right.
i was projecting 1950's-style American WASP values upon people who lived over 2,000 years ago, and i'm probably going to get a few things wrong.
To be clear, the was in reference to the general tactic of "Just WAIT until your father gets home!", not your ascribing it to Jesus' mother, whose preferred disciplinary methods are really anyone's guess. But I actually do remember a friend's mother snapping that at her when I was a kid and my thinking, "What a weird, lame thing to say." It seemed like a way more hostile response than just punishing her on the spot--an "I hate having to put up with you, and can't wait to watch you squirm!" kind of thing. Maybe it was just the way she said it, but...