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Old 08-22-2001, 08:12 PM   #1
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Should women stay in the kitchen?

I don't think so!

But would our children be better off?
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Old 08-22-2001, 08:31 PM   #2
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This is a stupid question.....gender roles and the idea of the so called 'nuclear family' have changed dramatically and the idea that children will be better off if ones Mother stays in the kitchen is absurb....here is an analogy for you, how can one truly understand something if they have never experienced it, and how can one know if they are missing out on something if they have never experienced that particular thing.....I have a friend whos Mother died when she was born and a lot of people used to say 'oh poor such and such, she never got to grow up with a Mother, how bad and horrible that must of been', however one day I asked my friend if she felt like this and she told me that she did not, as she did not know what it was like to have a Mother in the first place and therefore had no way of determining or understanding what it was that she was missing out on........so I guess an analogy like this can be applied to the forememtioned question.......in these modern times, numerous children will grow up with diverse families whose 'traditional' gender roles are dynamic, the question that should be asked is are children getting enough love....I know that I grew up in a household where my Mother did not work and was always at home when I would get home from school, but I tell you now, that she was the world's worst cook, but aside from this there was always plenty of love about....Traditions and stereotypes change, but the one thing that should remain constant when it comes to children is the notion of love, and one of the only times that I would ever quote the bible (seeing as though I really am not religious at all) is 'suffer not the children'......and you could say that a child whose both parents work their asses off and never step fut inside the so called domestic space of the 'kitchen' could receieve more love and attention than a child whose Mother stays at home, but hey things like this will always be very subjective and open for numerous ways of interpretation
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If I stay in the kitchen, all you'll be getting is cereal...and it will probably end up being burnt somehow. *lol*

Seriously, my fiance is a wonderful cook! Good thing one of us is...

For something basic, you should see what he does to Ramen noodles! He uses like a million different spices and stuff...they're awesome!

Mail me some, sweetie!


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If it was a stupid question, then why did you reply?

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Otherwise I agree with your statement Oz. But I think it's a valid question.
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lol. mikal, since yer from Green Bay, I'm gonna cut you a little slack and not hang you up by your toes.

But honestly, if there's one button that when pushed gets me going...it's the "women should stay in the kitchen" one. Rather than go off on a diatribe on women's rights and all that, I'll just put my thoughts for me, myself, and I out there.

I'm single. I'm very independent. I like working. I love travelling. If I ever do get married, the lucky guy ( ) will have to be willing to uproot and move about as much as I. At the moment, I'm not real keen on the idea of being a mother. BUT, if me and my partner chose to have children, not only would it be a mutual decision, but it would be a mutual thing in the raising of them. In my opinion, it takes two to make a baby...and if possible, two ought to raise it. Ergo, if it takes both of us working different shifts so I can be home odd days and he can be home even days...then that's what we'd do. If his job pays less than mine, then maybe he'd stay home. If mine paid less, then perhaps I would. My point being...there will not be this automatic assumption of "you are the woman...therefore you will be the one to stay home." I won't stand for that.

I do think that having parents raise their own children is the ideal situation. And I don't say that out of ignorance of the 'real world' or out of trying to impose my values on anyone else. (Believe me, I have many friends who have had to raise their children alone, and I know how hard the choices they face are.) Just for me personally, I think I'd rather my child's formative years be spent in the bosum of a loving, nurturing home, not in a daycare facility.

So there you go. My long diatribe. Make any sense?

-sula

besides...in my house, my dad is just as good of a cook as my mom.
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You made a lot of sense, sula!

Just so everyone knows, I think men and women are equal. I actually disagree with the question is my thread title! I just knew a title like that would pop out at people.

Just to make that clear.

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Here we go big long womens rights replies(just joking)(not that there is anything wrong with that but 1 speech is like the rest).

Well i totally agree that someone should always be there when the children come home from school. That there should be dinner made and everybody there to enjoy it together. I believe in a clean house, a clean enviroment for kids. Regardless of a mother or father doing the tasks. Or both!

My mother worked about half of my life. The middle half. But even though she worked she still managed to have her hours of work not to conflict with my brothers or sisters. She always had dinner ready for my father.

I'll tell you why alot of women stay in the household. First, they are more emotional of the two genders. Not saying that men arnt. But kids need emotional support. I think women are more open with there emotions. I think that is an asset to the kids.

Secondly, traditionally, men work phyiscally harder then women. Its just logic men are usually stronger, physically. If your husband were to work 10-14 hour days and had to come home to clean the house make himself and the family dinner and do laundry and other tasks then he would be superman. I guess you would have to work a full week of 16 hr shifts to understand.(now i am not saying women dont get tired and i'm not saying they dont do these jobs, but they are a very small minority.)

A stable household is the cornerstone of our society. If its the man or the woman at home i think that there should be someone home with the kids. Nowadays you cant trust anyone with your kids!

ps. please dont flame me. If you dont agree then disagree respectivally.

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If I stay in the kitchen, all you'll be getting is cereal...and it will probably end up being burnt somehow. *lol*

Seriously, my fiance is a wonderful cook! Good thing one of us is...

For something basic, you should see what he does to Ramen noodles! He uses like a million different spices
and stuff...they're awesome!

Mail me some, sweetie!
Me? a wonderful cook?????Awwwwwwwww angel eyes Of course i'll send you some. and next time I will fix up another couple of platters to tickle your taste buds.

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Two reasons women should stay in the kitchen:
1. To bake
2. To have sex on the kitchen floor

Not in that order.

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Jeezus Sula, once again I have nothing to say because you said everything I wanted to say.

The women in the kitchen thing is just too old fasioned, sorry.

Bonochick! LMFAO!!! Burnt cereal!!

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My Mum managed to raise three children and have a 9 to 6 job at the same time. If you ask me, I was really glad there was no one at home when I came back from school, because it meant that my friends and I could do whatever we wanted at my place (provided we cleaned up everything afterwards),
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Awwwwwwwww angel eyes Of course i'll send you some. and next time I will fix up another couple of platters to tickle your taste buds.

You two are SO cute!!!

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