Angela Harlem said:
A quickie for the liberal mindsetted folk...When porn is damaging to the family unit, to a couple's stability, or to an individual's esteem...is it still ok? Or should it be regulated? How, of course, is unanswerable in reality (probably), but can it be seen as bad then? I'm not talking about those who use it for fun, to spice up their lives a little, or peruse magazines or watch a video every now and then for a lark with mates or a partner who thinks it's just as funny as the other half...I'm talking of those situations where it becomes an addiction or destroys the confidence and security of a relationship or family.
Have faith I am not speaking from a religious perspective here , but looking at it as something which can possibly harm. On it's own. No comparisons to drugs or guns, just porn which leads to problems. It becomes bad, yeah?
When and if you choose to regulate something should not be predicated on addiction by itself, any addiction can be damaging.
There is harm in addiction as there is harm in driving 100 miles an hour over the speed limit. It's all relative to who and what it is harming.
You are given free reign to speed down the highway at whatever pace that you choose. It might not be legal, but it is up to you as an adult to make the distinction between right and wrong.
Why do people have such a problem with pornogrpahy as opposed to other dangerous addictions? Because of that whole morality thing. Which should be a personal decision made by adults, morality that is. Children should be protected under the guise of morality until they can make the decisions for themselves.
So the idea of regulation is fine, if you are trying to protect children. Consenting adults should have free reign to choose their own morality.
Why should yours or somebody elses' ideals about the evils of porn apply to me, a grown adult able to make these decisions for myself, when I don't pose the same question about other evil addictions that bother me to you and wish that it be regulated by the state?
back more pointedly to your first question, when anything, anything at all is damaging to a couple's stability, a person's esteem it's not a good thing for them. But who and what makes those distinctions but those people themselves? It could be porn, or he could watch too much sports.
Who is to say Joe Blow addicted to porn, is shunning his wife because of his deviant fantasies, then porn is made illegal in his state, turns to gambling and shuns his wife and destroys his family nonetheless.
At what point is it up to individuals to make decisions about their own lives seperate from the government stepping in? Who makes the distinction? This is why I don't believe in legislating morality.
Regulation is fine, in terms of making something accessible or not to children. If you are old enough to make decisions that affect the outcome of the rest of your life, you are old enough to decide that you should or shouldn't participate in the viewing of porn.
Why would we treat adults with kid gloves concerning porn and let them buy as much alcohol as they wanted? Because a lot of those moralists like to drink. Which is perfectly fine, as long as they don't harm other individuals. I believe in the idea of being consistent, you either believe in the liberty of the individual or you don't. Children are to be handled differently, I think we would all agree.
As an offset, as an American I don't agree with the inconsistency of our laws concerning when children are "of age". If when you are 18, you can die in Iraq, you should be able to go buy a beer at the store. Either it's 18 or 21, we should pick a side. Those extra 3 years of course are there because of moralistic legislating. It's the same idea that you can't get a tattoo in my home state. I could go on all day about that. Oklahoma and Iran, the two places on earth you can't get a tattoo. Why? Well it's because of the lawmakers in my state. I'll spare you the anti-right wing bible thumping rant. My basic premise is I think we can make these decisions for ourselves, ESPECIALLY if we are "of age". According to the law, you are of age in one place, and not the other. The only reason for the inconsistency is because of legislated morality.
In short, as an adult, you should have the liberty to destroy your own life, if that's the poor decisions you make. Because if it wasn't pornography it could easily be something else. Pornography is one of the easy "immoral targets", that's really the only difference.