yolland
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1) He's not your mother.could you name for me 10 qualities a father has that no mother will ever have, and 10 qualities a mother will have that no father will ever have.
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1) She's not your father.
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It's simple because you've avoided naming specifics, so whatever appeal the answer has rests on a tautology.It's simple. Do you believe that a mother has something unique to give to a child that no father can give, and vice versa, that a father brings unique contributions that no mother can?
I'd expect that in the aggregate there might be some trends distinguishing adult children of (intact) opposite-sex families from adult children of (intact) same-sex families in terms of, for example, certain social and cultural sensibilities, just as I'd expect to see in, for example, similar comparisons across ethnic and religious lines. In a thread several years back we discussed the specific scenario of same-sex parents raising a child of the opposite sex, and someone, I think Sean, drew an analogy to the scenario of two white parents raising a black child--that in both cases there'd probably be occasions where it'd be very helpful to have established extrafamilial adult mentor figures the child could call on (actually, this is frankly a good idea for any child), but that that's hardly a concern which rises to the level of rendering them unfit parents. I agree with that. But "men are men and women are women" doesn't cut it for me as a meaningful argument against same-sex parenting, especially when no attempt is being made to unpack it.
I've never encountered a supporter of same-sex marriage who considered it an inferior family environment for children. It's true the legal arguments do emphasize equality and fairness, because after all we don't require straight couples to intend parenthood in order to marry, and not denying access to a public good on the basis of an arbitrary characteristic (sex, when procreation isn't required) happens to be a strong legal case. But your wording makes it sound as if SSM supporters just shrug off children's welfare once equality and fairness have been invoked, which simply isn't true. I've never encountered an SSM supporter who didn't also support same-sex adoption, either.Again, you can agree with that premise but judge equality and fairness a greater consideration and thus support same-sex marriage.
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