LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:
Of course, there will always be SOMEONE sick enough to harm an innocent child regardless of how she's dressed, but that doesn't mean we give up. I mean, there will always be rape, but we don't tell women to go to parties, get trashed and let a guy drug her up b/c hell, she might get raped anyway, so why not? Bottom line: some parents these days just haven't got a clue.
I think there's a fine line between saying that someone's dress or behaviour could contribute to them being a victim of rape or sexual abuse, and saying that if women choose to dress in 'sexy' clothes then they're "leading guys on" or "asking for it." (I realise you weren't suggesting this of course.)
The way I see it is that people should be free to dress in any way they wish without fear of being attacked because of that. If a woman is raped it is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT the fault of the rapist, no matter what the situation, no matter if she was walking down a dark street at 3am, no matter if she was wearing a sexy dress, no matter if she was drunk, no matter what.
Imagine if courts and in fact wider society treated people who had been mugged the same way they treat women who have been raped.
"Well, Mr. Bloggs, you were wearing a very expensive suit, you were advertising the fact that you're rich."
"You were spending a lot of money in that bar, Mr, Bloggs, it was clear that you were carrying a lot of money."
"You've given money to charity in the past, wouldn't it be reasonable for the muggers to assume you didn't mind having your money taken from you by force since you've given it away freely in the past?"
This ridiculous idea that dressing in a particular way makes a woman more likely to be the victim of violence really pisses me off.