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Online Lessons on Unprotected Sex

By Andrew J. McClurg

Monday, August 15, 2005

Kiss-and-tell is as old as love itself. Fortunately, most indiscreet paramours limit their blabbing to a few confidants. Not Jessica Cutler. In May 2004, she spilled out the graphic details of her sexual exploits on Capitol Hill on a blog accessible to hundreds of millions of Internet users.

Now a federal lawsuit by one of her past lovers has set up a potentially high-stakes battle between privacy and speech rights and could give new meaning to the idea of safe sex in a wired world.


Cutler's blog, written under the pseudonym Washingtonienne, was a daily diary of her sex life while working as a staffer for Sen. Mike DeWine (R-Ohio). It recounted, entertainingly and in considerable -- sometimes embarrassing -- detail, her ongoing relationships with six men, including plaintiff Robert Steinbuch, a lawyer who also worked for DeWine. Although Cutler never used his full name, and usually referred to the plaintiff by his initials, Steinbuch alleges the blog revealed sufficient information, including his first name, physical description and where he worked, to identify him.

The Internet gossip site Wonkette published excerpts from Cutler's blog, touching off a media "feeding frenzy" in which Steinbuch was repeatedly identified by his full name. Cutler capitalized on the publicity. She gave print, broadcast and online interviews, posed nude for Playboy and reportedly received a $300,000 advance for her just-published book, a veiled fictional account of a Senate staffer's sexual adventures on Capitol Hill.

Steinbuch's argument is compelling. By any normative standard, he suffered a genuine wrong. As he asserts in his complaint, "It is one thing to be manipulated and used by a lover, it is another thing to be cruelly exposed to the world."

The law, however, appears to be against him. This is because Steinbuch does not allege that any of the statements about him are untrue. False statements that damage one's reputation can be actionable as defamation. The essence of Steinbuch's claim is: You humiliated me by publicizing these true details about my private life.

His case hinges on a century-old privacy tort claim known as "public disclosure of private facts." In theory, the tort provides a remedy when one publicizes private, embarrassing, non-newsworthy facts about a person in a manner that reasonable people would find highly offensive. But while Cutler's actions may meet this standard, courts have long been hostile to such lawsuits because of a fear of inhibiting free speech. The Supreme Court has never upheld punishment, based on a privacy theory, for the publication of true information.

In 1989 the court tossed out a lawsuit against a newspaper for publishing a rape victim's name in violation of Florida law. While it stopped short of ruling that a state may never punish true speech, the test it adopted for when that can be done without violating the First Amendment is so stringent Justice Byron White lamented in dissent that the court had "obliterate[d]" the public disclosure tort.

One might think the non-newsworthiness of Steinbuch's sex life would save his privacy claim from a free-speech defense. It could, but newsworthiness has proved to be a broad and elusive legal test in privacy lawsuits. The rape victim's name in the 1989 Florida case, for example, was deemed to be sufficiently related to the public's interest in crime to doom her claim.

Steinbuch's case spotlights the inadequacy of privacy law -- developed back when gossip mostly traveled across backyard fences -- for responding to the challenges of the Internet age. Today's technology grants any person -- no matter how selfish, irresponsible or malicious -- the power to invade privacy globally, at almost no cost. All it takes is a computer and Internet access. Some blogging companies offer free services.

And blogs are just the tip of the iceberg. In May an Oregon woman sued Yahoo after her ex-boyfriend posted nude pictures of her on the site and Yahoo failed to remove them. Expect more litigation.

While we wait to see if old law can adapt to new realities, don't forget the C-word when making safe-sex inquiries. No, not condoms or contraceptives. Ask potential partners if they own a computer.
 
Public revelation of the private acts certainly violates some expectation that these acts remain private. And since we want to keep such activities private (and free from regulation) should there not be some sort of offense for violating this expectation of privacy?
 
nbcrusader said:
Public revelation of the private acts certainly violates some expectation that these acts remain private. And since we want to keep such activities private (and free from regulation) should there not be some sort of offense for violating this expectation of privacy?




i think Bill Clinton would agree. so would Monica.
 
Irvine511 said:





i think Bill Clinton would agree. so would Monica.

Unfortunately, there was no criminal investigation of the gentleman involved in this, so really there are no parallels.
 
Unfortunately, there was no criminal investigation of the gentleman involved in this, so really there are no parallels

Are you kidding me? There are many parallels between these two:

Public revelation of the private acts certainly violates some expectation that these acts remain private. And since we want to keep such activities private (and free from regulation) should there not be some sort of offense for violating this expectation of privacy?

So when a democratic president's private acts are exposed, WE MUST INVESTIGATE! Yet when a Republican's private sex life is exposed, it "certainly violates expectations that these acts remain private".
 
I don't know, it was rather immature of her to post that stuff to begin with given where she works. And who would want their sex partner to blog about it without them knowing? None of us probably.. Really not cool. One last thing, it seems some of her entries were written from the office..Now I'd like to think those in the political realm of D.C. would be working to make the world better and not blogging about their sex lives..just my opinion lol.
 
unosdostres14 said:


Are you kidding me? There are many parallels between these two:


So when a democratic president's private acts are exposed, WE MUST INVESTIGATE! Yet when a Republican's private sex life is exposed, it "certainly violates expectations that these acts remain private".

Wrong.....Not what I said...do not put words into my mouth.

President Clinton was on trial for a pattern of behavior of harrassment and abuse of his position as Governor.

If he had not been under investigation for his CHOICES, there never would have been testimony before a judge.

If there had not been testimony before a judge, he would not have lied under oath.

If he had not LIED under OATH when he had as President taken an oath to uphold the laws of the land, he would not have been impeached.

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There are no parallels, and please do not assume that I am blinded by democrat verses republican crap.
 
Dreadsox said:


Wrong.....Not what I said...do not put words into my mouth.

President Clinton was on trial for a pattern of behavior of harrassment and abuse of his position as Governor.

If he had not been under investigation for his CHOICES, there never would have been testimony before a judge.

If there had not been testimony before a judge, he would not have lied under oath.

If he had not LIED under OATH when he had as President taken an oath to uphold the laws of the land, he would not have been impeached.

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There are no parallels, and please do not assume that I am blinded by democrat verses republican crap.


i think you are blinded by something

the whole paula jones thing was bullshit

she was a pawn, she said so herself

ken starr wanted to shut white water down, he said it ran its course

it was a partisan witch hunt

Clinton was found "not guilty" by the senate



Why were W and Cheney not under oath when they testified before 911 commission?

I believe Clinton was under oath before 911 commission
 
deep said:



i think you are blinded by something

the whole paula jones thing was bullshit

she was a pawn, she said so herself

ken starr wanted to shut white water down, he said it ran its course

it was a partisan witch hunt

Clinton was found "not guilty" by the senate



Why were W and Cheney not under oath when they testified before 911 commission?

I believe Clinton was under oath before 911 commission

#1 Bullshit or not, he was legally bound to tell the truth in a court of law, he did not

#2 He was impeached...which means he was put on trial....guilt or innocence has nothing to do with being impeached. The trial determines if the offense is enough for removal from office. He was impeached, and not removed from office.

This thread is not about Bush or Cheney....but I am not surprised at the attempt to turn it into that.
 
Whether he was impeached or not, BEFORE the impeachment, weren't you anxious to know whether the President of the United States, Bill Clinton, actually had an affair with a White Hous intern? And that goes completely against what was said earlier about how people's sex lives should be kept private.
 
unosdostres14 said:
Whether he was impeached or not, BEFORE the impeachment, weren't you anxious to know whether the President of the United States, Bill Clinton, actually had an affair with a White Hous intern? And that goes completely against what was said earlier about how people's sex lives should be kept private.

The thread is about the privacy of sexual acts as between two individuals.

As Dread correctly points out, Clinton's troubles stemmed from his lying.

The issue remains: should there be a cause of action for publically revealing a sexual relationship by one of the participants without the consent of the other?
 
I don't understand why anyone would want to post details about their personal sex life on the Internet, whether you use real names and detailed information or not

the Internet has obviously created a whole new set of questions about privacy
 
Here in D.C. it seems to be vox populi that many senators and congressmen sleep around with their interns and assistants. It even seems to be a requirement for the job. I am sometimes suprised how can society be so hypocrite and pretend that that does not exist and that it is something reserved for less 'developed' countries.

The case of Ms. Cutler is pretty well known. She actually leveraged a lot on this 'norm' and even published a book on it. I disagree with her tactics and making what should be private public but some friends tell me that if a true investigation was launched on who is sleeping with who, many representatives on the Hill would be caught with their hands dirty.

I guess it's what power does to you.
 
MrsSpringsteen said:
I don't understand why anyone would want to post details about their personal sex life on the Internet, whether you use real names and detailed information or not

the Internet has obviously created a whole new set of questions about privacy

Er, this happens by some people around here on a daily basis almost. You only need to read some threads in Lem Stand to see this. And lets not even mention the journals.
:huh:

But anyway. This is fascinating. Did Clinton wish for his exploits with Monica to remain private? Yes, I'd say so. I cant even begin to comment on how it seems some in America seem very intent on spreading details their personal and sex lives to an equally willing audience. This is wrong for all involved.
:slant:
 
Angela Harlem said:


Er, this happens by some people around here on a daily basis almost. You only need to read some threads in Lem Stand to see this. And lets not even mention the journals.
:huh:

Yes, I know that :)

I don't understand why that seems to be deemed accceptable sometimes whereas other stuff isn't, but what do I know :huh:

I just do my best to ignore it
 
Sorry Mrs S, that wasn't intended to sound that way toward you. It puzzles me that a few of our members even do this. I was talking about that in response to what you said, but not to you, specifically, to talk down to you as it sounded. Sorry!
:)
 
^And as a PS, lol. I agree. It is rather annoying and somewhat stomach turning to read or hear about it. No matter by whom or how often.
But people will be exhibitionists!
:shrug:
 
Angela Harlem said:
Sorry Mrs S, that wasn't intended to sound that way toward you. It puzzles me that a few of our members even do this. I was talking about that in response to what you said, but not to you, specifically, to talk down to you as it sounded. Sorry!
:)

That's OK, I understand :) but thanks for saying that anyway
 
MrsSpringsteen said:
I don't understand why anyone would want to post details about their personal sex life on the Internet, whether you use real names and detailed information or not

I don't, either. Hell, I don't understand why people feel a need to broadcast the details offline. What you do in your bedroom with your loved one is your business, not mine. I personally would never dream of broadcasting anything like that to the world-not only is it nobody else's business, but, as this story shows, it could really come back to bite me in the butt later. So I'd just prefer to avoid that at all costs.

But, if someone does want to broadcast that stuff, that's up to them :shrug:.

Angela
 
nbcrusader said:


The thread is about the privacy of sexual acts as between two individuals.

As Dread correctly points out, Clinton's troubles stemmed from his lying.

The issue remains: should there be a cause of action for publically revealing a sexual relationship by one of the participants without the consent of the other?



taking your point about expectations of privacy regarding personal behavior, can we not argue that asking someone intimate details about their sex lives constitutes a perjury trap?
 
nbcrusader said:
As Dread correctly points out, Clinton's troubles stemmed from his lying.

And, yet, what did sex with an intern have anything to do with investigating a real estate scandal that was ultimately dismissed as false?

Or was it really a politically-motivated investigation about humiliating a sitting president?

Melon
 
A_Wanderer said:
Power doesn't corrupt, the corrupt are simply drawn to it like vermin to rotting flesh.

I'm sorry but this is really a naive thing to say. Power does corrupt, if you are given power to lead the people sometimes you feel like your invincible and indestructable and that no matter what you do, you can do no wrong.

A lot of men (and women) have fallen by the wayside after they have abused their power, even though they may have had the greatest intentions when they started.
 
nbcrusader said:
Public revelation of the private acts certainly violates some expectation that these acts remain private. And since we want to keep such activities private (and free from regulation) should there not be some sort of offense for violating this expectation of privacy?

Excuse me to chime in, I am totally your opinion here, but frankly, this post surprises me, your Honor. :wink:

You, like many Americans, defend free speech for Klansmen, Robertsons, and NeoNazis, but at the same time you campaign for an "offense for violating this expectation of privacy"?

Wow.
 
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