MrsSpringsteen
Blue Crack Addict
The way things are these days w/ manners and the like-sometimes it seems as is most people would knock over a disabled person before they would offer assistance. I know that's not true but it can seem that way. I always feel like it is the right thing to do to offer and that it is 100% my obligation as a human being, even though sometimes some disabled people might feel "offended" in some way-I have read articles to that effect. Today I was in a store and a man with two leg braces was exiting. I ran behind him and asked him if he wanted me to open the door for him. He could not have been nicer or more polite or full of gratitude, honestly it made my day and week-just that little interaction with him and the smile and two thank yous he gave me. He wasn't even an elderly man, I'd say he was in his late 40's. The doors had the handicapped buttons to open them but he had a bag and how the heck would he be able to hit it w/ two leg braces anyway?
So is it silly/wrong to even consider that some disabled people might be upset about that as some sort of questioning of their independence, or should we always offer and assist in spite of that concern? I know that I can't live w/ myself and the guilt if I don't offer, but it is NOT about me. Then I beat myself up over even asking instead of just doing it, but I feel somehow it is "better" to ask.
What do you do and what do you think?
It's like the terminology too becomes a questionable issue-"physically challenged" is probably the preferred term, not disabled or handicapped. I would never want to insult any challenged person, that was a big part of how I was raised and I guess I've always been very sensitive to that.
So is it silly/wrong to even consider that some disabled people might be upset about that as some sort of questioning of their independence, or should we always offer and assist in spite of that concern? I know that I can't live w/ myself and the guilt if I don't offer, but it is NOT about me. Then I beat myself up over even asking instead of just doing it, but I feel somehow it is "better" to ask.
What do you do and what do you think?
It's like the terminology too becomes a questionable issue-"physically challenged" is probably the preferred term, not disabled or handicapped. I would never want to insult any challenged person, that was a big part of how I was raised and I guess I've always been very sensitive to that.